Flattering and discomforting for me. I never learned the art of flirting. Actually all compliments regardless of who they come from are flattering and discomforting for me.
I thought of this poll while viewing some of the hunks in the latest doper picture thread.
*Compliments about your looks of course (sexy, hot, handsome, beautiful, etc.)
I really couldn’t care less if a guy likes my new haircut or shirt or what ever so I just tend to ignore them.
Compliments from guys are flattering, no matter if the other person is gay or not. Straight males can compliment other straight males sometimes too ya know.
Either way, it’s flattering to me.
I need more info: are we talking about come-ons, or just being nice? There’s a bit of a difference in how I’ve felt about being told I have lovely hair by women both straight and otherwise, and being told by a lesbian dormmate that I had a nice ass, you know?
I sort of understand what you’re saying. When I was younger and cuter a compliment from a chickenhawk* evoked a similar feeling in me. But I think it was because I’d interpret the compliment as an attempt of flattery (the first definition: To compliment excessively and often insincerely, especially in order to win favor). Whereas any sexual interest shown to me by women always was flattering but especially if they were pretty.
But I sort of don’t get it, either. I mean if a hunky, gay tri-athelete showed an interest in you, you wouldn’t feel all, “man I must be some kinda sexy for that kind of guy to be interested in me?”
chickenhawk - slang for old guy who goes after twinks*
**twink - young or young looking guy in his late teens or early twenties
I was aiming for a more of a you-look-hot-and-sexy-even-if-I-can’t-have-you sort of way. Or even a clearly acceptable compliment but with a “I wish you’d change your mind” vibe.
Twinks are gay males that were in their late teens or early 20s.
I voted other, not having a non-preferred gender.
I voted other, too. I like both genders… so none of those options really applied to me. Sometimes people forget that sexual preference isn’t binary…
From guys? “Meh.” I can take 'em or leave 'em. Sometimes guys compliment women as a cover for a less than honorable agenda. Which I would find threatening. But I can’t assume that right off. Most of the time they’re perfectly innocent. But… “meh” covers it pretty well, in general.
Women flatter other women all the time. Tonight, in fact, on my way into my condo from work some woman on a bike stopped and told me that she loved my haircut.
Is that the kind of thing you’re talking about, or are you talking about more sexually oriented compliments?