Sending all your way and light and peace and hugs and another hand for you to hold when you need one. Know you and your sweetheart and your daughter are being held in my heart and will be.
Knew that since you love him.
Actually I do feel lucky that you let us in, please keep it up.
Listen to your heart, it knows what you need to do. We’re all here with you and will be, again as long as it takes.
BBBoo
@Buttercup_Smith I am so so sorry.
Surely the doctors will let you and daughter both be with him. How can it possibly make any difference at this point?
My heart is breaking for you.
One of my friends lost his wife early on in the pandemic. She had cancer. He kept trying different nurses until he found one that would let him and his son and daughter all go in at the same time. So my recommendation is, keep asking everyone. Hope you find a humane one that’s willing to break rules.
Oh, my goodness, I can’t imagine being so calm and thorough in the face of impending loss like that!
You have amazing strength.
No I am a crying mess. I knew this was coming as did he when he made me part owner of his business and put me on his business accounts. In our 36 years we have maintained our finances separately. He just makes a hell of a lot more money than me. He pays all the bills except my car but it’s my health insurance that’s kept him alive this long. He had a twin brother that died in 2004 of cancer so he had 16 more years than him. And Purple I read all about when the other shoe was sick and what you went through. You are stronger than you know. I
Up, caffeinated, and off to sort.
Good Mornin’ Y’all! Up and caffeinatin’. YAWN 'Tis 66 Amurrkin out and cloudy with a predicted high of 85 with rain/tstorms/apocalypse predicted for this afternoon. We shall see. Today we shall lay in provisions and I have a doc appt. this afternoon. We shall sup upon leftovers from yestiddy.
{{{Butters}}} Sendin’ prayers, thoughts, and vibes your way. Go be with him as that’s where you want to be and I’m sure he wants you there. Good to know your boss is supportive of this. May you be at peace with whatever comes to pass.
{{{Hippie}}} sounds like this is a thing caught early which is always good. Here’s hopin’ all goes well today.
Now I need more caffeine and to feed rumbly tummy. Then, onward into the day! Rah.
Happy Hump Day Y’all!
{{{Butters}}} - nothing to add that hasn’t been said already, but know good thoughts are coming your way from Merrylande. I wish your husband a peaceful and gentle end, and I wish you strength as you deal with all of this.
Since you’re so close to retirement - is there any chance at all of a transfer to maybe P-cola or Jax? And I know what you mean about closing down the business and selling off the assets - I would face something similar if FCD died before I did. No parts inventory, but many thousands in machinery and tools. I know exactly how overwhelming it feels. I ache for you.
My main plan today is taking 2 boxes of miscellany to the thrift store, then checking out their furniture section. I’d like a small dresser or chest and a chair for the guest bedroom. And I may look for a jacket for me - with the weight loss, all of my hoodies are now huge, which isn’t bad if I’m layering up, but when it’s not that cold but I still need something, I have few options.
And wheelie, winters hereabouts aren’t typically terrible. We’ve had blizzards, but we’ve also had years like last year when there was hardly any snow. There are the very rare occasions when it goes sub-zero, just like we have had summer days above 100° with 472% humidity. Between my childhood and these last 16 years, I’ve spent more time in this state than any other, and I have no intention of ever leaving again. YMMV.
I need to steam the dining room area rug - I’m starting to trip because it’s not laying flat. So I need to move the table and chairs out and crawl around on the floor with the steam iron - good times!
So, Happy Wednesday!
{{{{{Butters}}}}} sending all the positivity I’ve got, I can only wish a peaceful end for him and both strength and fortitude to you, with all that you will have to deal with. We’ll all be thinking of you, and we’ll all be here when you need us.
{{{{{hippy}}}}} big hugs to you too
Nothing exciting happening here today, it’s the anniversary of the Aberfan disaster and that always makes me sad to think of so many children lost. It’s a good thing I’m not supposed to be working today, I just feel like having a good miserable wallow.
I am so, so sorry you’re going through this. We’re thinking of you.
Back from a chilly, damp walk - it sounded like it was raining, what with all the moisture dripping off the trees. I just loaded my thrift store donations into the car and I’ll be leaving shortly to drop them off. And I’ve got a grocery list for a quick run into Food Lion.
I expect you all to behave yourselves while I’m out erranding. stern look all around
I’m sitting up straight and minding all my p’s and q’s.
{{{{{Butters}}}}}
It’s a dark, drizzly day. I was so tired last night I felt nauseated, so I’m glad I got some early sleep (early being a relative term). Today are the first couple of appointments for my mom - I guess they take images, stage it, then we meet with the doctor tomorrow so they tell us what they recommend? This is so outside of my experience I don’t even know how to handle it. But, I guess we’ve been through a liver transplant so hopefully we will get through this. I’m done with firsts like these.
Anyway - drinking coffee, waiting for my next meeting and generally goofing off. I really want a bagel but I don’t think I have time before my next meeting.
It’s Hump Day!
A foggy 57 degrees this morning.
It’s a bright sunshiny 64 degrees now, supposed to get up to 79.
I put all my shorts and t-shirts away for the year.
{{{Butters}}} I am so sorry you are going through this. Do you still have my number? You can call anytime if you need to talk.
Not going to be too busy today I think. The dogs are at daycare, so I won’t have to deal with them.
Echo was chilling on the ride home from the park until I turned off to head to the daycare. Then she flipped out and whined the whole way there. Funny how quickly they learn where they are going.
Butters, I am so sorry.
If I may offer one piece of advice, do not be in a rush to dispose of your husband’s assets. You will undoubtedly have some “kind” people offering to “haul all that junk away” for you. In your grief you may be overwhelmed and think that’s the easiest way to get it all over with.
But please wait until your head is clear and you can find a way to sell off the items at a fair price. There’s no hurry.
Please don’t think I’m being crass in thinking about money right now. Money will be important going forward, and there are people who will try to take advantage of you. Don’t let them.
Butters, you have my complete and total respect and sympathies.
Laved, shaved and ready to teach the heathens about tax policy and why eating the rich is a valid solution. Cats are fed, dishwasher loaded and running, pukeage cleaned up…just another day in Paradise.
{{{{Butters}}}}, all my best wishes and hopes for you in this critical time. And to echo what Wheelie said, don’t let the multiple complications make you do something to fast–sounds like you’ve already defined most of your issues if worst comes to worst, but don’t be pressured about moving to fast.
Have read all but retained little, so hugs, tears, laughter to all that need them.
Soccer practice yesterday and then watched a game on another field, all in shirt and shorts as the temperature fell, so woke up with a sore throat this morning. Definitely a blurfy day.
Everyone take care now.
Wednesday is our busy day, so of course the Powers that be only had me and one other guy scheduled for the sort table. 
No actual anvils, but I did have to heave a 69lbs. electric motor into a top cage. Ow.
{{{{Butters}}}}
{{{butters}}} Good thoughts are coming from Tennessee. wheelie had some good advice for the business. Take care of yourself and vent/cry / remember here as needed.
Up, caffeinating, breakfasted (actually some oatmeal and a couple of eggs instead of a glucerna) and getting ready for a morning nap. I got my test results back: no plague found, so’s it’s likely just an exceptionally bad cold combined with autumn allergies. I’m going to try to go back to irk tomorrow.
Stay safe and healthy y’all!