Doofus would be if he JUST awkwardly brought up the boyfriend’s name/Toledo. But the fact that he admitted to trying to scare her ratchets it up to where it’s totally inappropriate.
Yep deliberate creeping=bad service at best.
Otara
That story is absolutely nothing like the OP’s and the guy in it wasn’t acting creepy at all. He may have been a little rude, but so were you. Get over it, sweetie. 
I’ve read the OP and I can’t figure out just what you’re talking about.
How was she “Jerking his chain”?
What is the “high-minded talk”?
Where did you read she was “using obscenities with him”?
I hope you will reply because I have no idea where you’re getting any of that.
OP, I would complain about him. Having a strange man in your home basically tell you “You’re alone here, and I know it” would creep me right the hell out.
Kimmy was responding to EmAnJ in post #8 and not to LoganDear.
She’s replying to me.
And yes, he was using obscenities the entire conversation. Things like ‘This is bullshit’ and ‘What the fuck is going on here’. He was swearing long before I was, and I held my temper for as long as possible.
Anyhow, guess my story doesn’t relate according to others. Moving on.
Wow, thank you! I kept reading the OP trying to figure out what he/she was talking about!
I’m not sure why you didn’t call him on it in the moment.
Maybe it’s outside of your comfort zone, but I would have said yes, you are creeping me out and it sounds like you’re doing it on purpose. Let’s call your customer service line right now and see how they feel about it shall we?
It’s not rude to call out a creep if he’s standing right there in your home.
Complain. Firmly. Not apologetically or emotionally. You are fulfilling your responsibility as a customer by informing the company of unacceptable service.
This is the point.
This is not. You get to hang a calendar where ever you would like in your home.
Don’t apologize, don’t even explain.
Don’t you, either.
And your story does relate; women, apparently, are still not being raised to be firm and unemotional in confrontations, even in those where they are customers.
And she really shouldn’t have been chatting with the guy, either, right? Just asking for trouble, really.
At best, he’s totally unprofessional. At worst, he’s sizing women up for assault. Given other threads around here, though, I’m guessing he’s read some lousy pickup artist book and was trying out its techniques. He needs to learn that, while it’s possible someone’s gonna want to get laid by the pest control guy, that’s not how it’s gonna happen. Creepy guys need consequences, and a reaming out by his boss would be a great consequence.
Wow, that’s totally not my takeaway from this story; my takeaway is that [some] men, apparently, are still not being raised to be polite and professional in conversations with women. The guy sounds like a stupid asshole, and he might have used any means to get at the customer’s goat, but he happened to use “sweetie” sarcastically, a usage that says, “you’re a woman and therefore not worthy of respect.” That’s a whole extra layer of bullshit on his bullshit cake.
Hell, I’m a guy, and if this guy was talking this way to me, I’d be thinking “Ok, where are my weapons and should I quietly move closer to one of them?”
Don’t be afraid to tell Orkin “This person is no longer welcome in my house. If I use your service again and he shows up, I will send him away and never use you again.”
I did as much to the City water meter reader, who, after reading my meter, asked to use my bathroom. When I went in there later, it was like he lined himself up for the toilet and then took a step to the left and pissed directly on the floor. I told the city this man was never welcome in my house or yard again and they would have to send someone else out in the future. Never saw him again.
You actually may wish to consider calling your land lord, depending on how big a deal you want to make about it.
One customer calling Orkin to complain will just be an “incident” on his record and mostly unimportant unless he has several prior ones. If your land lord rents out lots of units he probably has regular service done (most rental properties will treat periodically with variations on region/etc) and if it is always through Orkin, knowing they might lose hundreds of visits worth of business over a rude technician could cause them to get very serious about it.
Well, if you’re a man that should be your takeaway - treat everyone, particularly customers - with respect.
However, if you’re a woman - especially a young woman - you should note that both women were treated poorly and did not/are unsure how to deal with it effectively. What similarities can be found?
Women have to find the middle ground between door mat and BBB to be effective in confrontations and other power-struggles. Quiet firmness is very good most of the time; apologizes seldom are.
(The OP did deal with a possibly danderous situation correctly, of course.)
Well she wouldn’t want to flake out now, would she?
Reading the calendar is no different than reading documents on a desk. His behavior was completely unprofessional. He didn’t stop there, he went on to make comments that would make anybody uncomfortable.
Personally I don’t have folks over very often, and when they do come over they’re rarely there long enough to use the bathroom. So I wouldn’t think twice of writing something I didn’t want to be public knowledge on a calendar in my bathroom (if I had a calendar).
No way! They were having an obvious (to both of them) misunderstanding, and he put the burden on her to resolve it in 5 minutes or be stranded. This is a crappy thing to do, and women get this all the time. I am glad she called him out.
I’ve met a lot of female assholes too ya know. It’s not like enrolling a clueless asshole like that in Being Polite to Women 101 is going to change his behavior. Some people revel in their ugly personalities.
I can’t even imagine remembering an anecdote like that. I can’t imagine crying after an exchange like that either. I’m not saying EmAnJ should have screamed the guy’s head off, or that she handled the situation wrong at all, but I think once you’ve learned to fight back so to speak, incidents like that start to lose their power over you.
In the hope? Make sure you don’t get the same guy. Call the company, get their email and send them a written description of what happened, and tell them you won’t let this guy in your house again. Orkin is supposed to get rid of pests, not send them on house calls.