Now, as a woman working in a retail environment I see a LOT of men. Most of them are extremely decent, respectful human beings that treat me like I’m a professional human being.
Then there are exceptions.
This rather extroverted “gentleman” came by to get his sandals fixed. They were in terrible shape and the manager wanted to just toss them but he was persistent and I said I’d give it a try. So, I fixed his shoes.
He seems to think this an invitation to flirt. No, correction: he considers it an invitation to ask me to be his girlfriend and when I protested I was married he said that didn’t bother him and insisted on giving me his phone number and ordering me to call him.
Which I didn’t.
The very next morning he comes to the shop and wants to know why I didn’t call him!
:rolleyes::rolleyes:
I’m not entirely sure where to begin with this. First, I am here to be a cobbler, not to troll for a mate. Total disregard for my marriage immediately kicks this guy to the bottom of the list of “Totally Untrustworthy Slimeballs I Want Nothing To Do With”. The lack of a wedding ring is because I work with machinery that can rip your fucking fingers off if they catch a ring or bracelet - but I suppose proper labeling of my [del]ownership[/del] marriage status is more important than having intact fingers/hands to some people. A handshake is not a woman saying “yes, I want to fuck you, you asshole loser”. I am not a cunt with legs to service the penises of lonely, horny men.
In other words, you piece of shit asshole No means NO.
Yes, you HAVE offended me. No, I do NOT want an apology - I want you to fucking go away and never be seen in my shop again. We are not “friends”. We will NEVER be friends. Go AWAY.
NICE guys don’t do this sorta shit. Just sayin ladies.
Maybe he thought you were a gobbler, not a cobbler? And you got handshake raped? And a word of advice. In this bad ecconomy the better you service your customers the better you’ll be able to weather this economic storm.
Okay, I am just joking with you there. Geez, what a tool that guy is! I mean seriously, thats the kind you almost have trouble believing exists, except for the well know fact that if you can imagine it, it exists.
Yes, a cobbler is an ancient profession. The second oldest. The oldest being a farmer (squeeee).
You wouldn’t have any trouble imagining that men like this exist, if you were a woman. They are all too common. I once had an 85 year-old man grab my face and try to kiss me, at his doctor’s office, while I was attaching a Holter monitor to his chest. They fired him as a patient, only because there were similar incidents with other assistants documented in his chart. 85!
No, hon - that’s the owner and her partner of 28 years
No, actually I was hoping for a little sympathy but I should know better by now. I’ve had about three showers since I tossed the guy out of the store and I still don’t feel clean. My stomach’s been upset and I could hardly eat dinner last night because I was nauseous. I had trouble sleeping last night because I am so fucking angry over this shit.
Fortunately, my spouse is very understanding about my response. He knows how incredibly angry this makes me. I mean, seriously, it demeans me as a human being and reduces me to the level of a fleshlight or something.
The guy prefacing all that with what a bitch his ex-wife was didn’t help - I’m beginning to understand why she divorced him and went back to the old country. I wouldn’t mind putting the Atlantic between me and him, either.
Sorry, maybe I’ll ask a mod to close the thread - I keep forgetting that women are supposed to put up with this bullshit and complaining is not allowed. I was hoping to pit him, but as usual it’s the woman’s fault.
The “jokes” about how I asked for it, how har-har funny it is, and so forth just hurt me all over again. So fuck all you who think being treated like a self-mobile cunt is FUNNY. You’re just as bad as he is.
I just hope he doesn’t turn into a goddamned stalker.
The incredibly high number of men I have encountered who do believe the opposite is precisely why I only rarely shake hands with men and then only wearing gloves. When it comes to creeps give them an inch, and they will try to take a foot. Do I think you asked for? Not really, I think a misogynistic society socialized you to act in way that made you an easier victim.
I hope you know I was 100% kidding and, if anything, making fun of the stereotypical responses that get defended on this very board. If you look to some of the other threads about similar topics I’ve posted about, I in no way have a history of defending guys like that. Homeboy was a creeper of the highest order and I’d politely request that the owner perma-ban him from the premises-- adding in that if he returns, you’ll go to the police.
Holy crap. As I started reading I was like “typical dickhead customer” – gross but it happens to about everyone in service industries, and no, men are not immune from aggressive women (or men) either – but then when he came back solely to berate you my jaw fell open. That is beyond the pale, and scary. You should discuss with your manager what you will do next time, ie, call mall security (if applicable), the police, etc.
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I think “Flint Knapper” is a lot older than farmer.
Come to think of it, people had shoes before they thought of agriculture, but I guess it’s debatable if people just made their own, or had a person for it.
I don’t know if the Pit is the best choice for a posting that expects supporting and comforting responses.
And while I’m here, all joking aside, I guess I’m a little confused about why this upset you so much. Yes, it’s clear the man has no social skills and no real sense of propriety. And I understand that those are danger signs that you’d be foolish to simply forget.
But at the same time, what I hear you relating is not, as I think about it, fearsome or threatening contact. It’s simply boorish and rude.
I know that as a man, I’m not a target of this kind of attention as a general rule. But I am honestly not seeing the justification for the literal naseous reaction you had.
A friend of mine who worked at the same store I used to work at was being stalked by an old scumbag. Store security eventually threw him out but she was so scared he’d be waiting for her in the parking lot or something she got to be afraid to come in to work at all.
I saw what she went through so I feel for ya, Broomstick
Yeah, it’s pretty common. Sure, MOST men think that this is stuff that almost never happens, because they never do it, and so they think it’s funny. But any woman who has had to work knows that it’s pretty common, and it’s not funny at all. There really are men who think that all women will put out if a man can only come up with enough cash (or its equivalent). And while these men are a minority of men, they aren’t nearly rare enough, and they don’t get called on their bullshit often enough.
The worst part is that a lot of workplaces expect the women to just put up with this shit, it’s part of interacting with the public.
