I don’t know, if she makes a big thing of her gorgeous hair–and mind you, I don’t know that she does–I can see someone thinking she needs to be taken down a peg. Who hasn’t thought that about somebody, at one point or another? Thinking it doesn’t make you an asshole but acting on it does. Sounds to me like Susan was just drunk enough to be uninhibited enough to act, here. To think Jen needed to learn a lesson and she was just the person to administer it. I’m not excusing her. It was a jerk thing to do.
Yeah, but it’s just so very Jan Brady.
Yeah, but it takes time. It’s not like a week later Jen’s hair will be back to normal. It’s going to take months for the damage to be reversed.
The analogy that Swallowed My Cellphone used is a good one. Say your hobby is restoring old cars. You pull up at a bar in your favorite car that you spent several years rebuilding from a junker. As people are standing around admiring it, one of your “friends” picks up a wrench and smashes the headlights out, while laughing, “How do you like it now, shithead?!”
The next day he sends you a text. He doesn’t apologize, but he does say he’ll pay for the headlights. However, you know that since its a rare antique, it will probably take you several months to track down replacements. And in the meantime, the pretty car that you liked to drive around in is broken.
Purposely breaking something that’s important to someone else is a hugely dickish thing to do. Sure, it’s better if the destruction isn’t permanent, but damage that will take many months to undo is still serious business. Who needs a “friend” who will do something like that?
Well, if you think someone needs to be taken down a peg, I think that’s your problem, not theirs. The way you phrased it, you made it sound like they both were sort of in the wrong–both Susan and Jen. If someone’s insecure enough so that someone else’s beauty/good attributes/talents bother them, then they need to deal with that on their own. It has nothing to do with the person lucky enough to be pretty or talented.
So what does Jenn’s new (from the stylist) haircut look like?
Susan has an alcohol problem. No, cutting anyone’s hair without their permission is never ok. Susan should pay for the repair visit.
Latecomer, but holy crap - has this girl’s “friend” been watching Sixteen Candles or something? If someone did that to me, I’d probably go ballistic. Then again, my hair is my only redeeming feature.
And, yeah, the person who cut Jen’s hair off absolutely needs to apologize. Texting her that she’d pay for a cut doesn’t go nearly far enough.
But even that wasn’t ONLY because people were jealous. IIRC, her hair was stuck in the door, right? They had a reason to cut it off, even if it wasn’t a very good one.
I had about four inches of my shoulder length hair cut off by a haircutter once; I asked for my long layers to be trimmed, and she misunderstood and just whacked four inches off my hair (there was a language barrier there, too). I was almost in tears when I realized what she had done, and I’m not a girly-girl with gorgeous hair; I didn’t WANT four inches cut off my hair, and it was done to me without my approval. The haircutter was very apologetic, but done was done. I got over it and the hair grew back, of course, but that was not the best day of my life. Having a so-called friend do that at a bar - I’d be so shocked I wouldn’t know what to say or do, either.
Back in my days of style cluelessness, I wore my hair in a ponytail. It was about 4 inches long. I asked a barber (who didn’t speak much English) to cut off “this much.” I held my fingers about half an inch apart. He thought I said to leave that much.
I was pretty furious. I was convinced that I looked like a freak. People tried to reassure me that it looked fine. (Probably muttering “It’s about time” under their breaths.)
Yeah - she was sitting down outside her boyfriend’s bedroom door when he went inside to call Molly Ringwald’s character. He shut the door and her hair happened to be in it. Still, I had to say that because that scene has been in my head ever since I read the first post!
I can tell you quite honestly that if this happened to me, my initial response would be to deck the person who did it. I’m not saying that’s the appropriate reaction, but when I first read this thread, I ran that scenario through my mind and that was my initial reaction. Inexcusable. Remember one of the first things we teach little kids: don’t touch what doesn’t belong to you.
So, yeah. I’d be so filled with rage, I would turn around and deck that bitch.
I can completely understand the OP’s friend not noticing what was happening- I have long hair (though not super long)- if it were a bit longer, I could totally see having a braid and not noticing someone trimming off the part hanging out of the bottom of the braid. I barely notice when people touch my hair now though, mostly because I’m not remotely tender headed.
I can also see the friend drunkenly laughing off the other girl cutting it, but then flipping out when she looks like a 5 year old hacked at her head with scissors. Totally reasonable.
Offering to pay for a haircut is not an apology, it’s offering to pay for a fucking haircut. That other bitch needs to fall over herself apologizing. She obviously had some issues with the girl whose hair she went after- sounds like extreme jealousy.
But yeah, definitely would turn around and punch her. That’d for sure be my reaction to someone doing that.
Thank you, Stranger. Several peoples’ comments have annoyed me tremendously, but you just made me laugh out loud.
As for this idea that Jen was “flaunting her hair,” it’s absurd. It was in a BRAID. She was saying she needed to get it trimmed. Everyone who knows Jen agrees that she’s one of the nicest, sweetest people you’ll ever meet; this is half the reason this incident is such a shocking thing. Jen is so nice she has a problem confronting people, even when they’re wrong…and this is so wrong that she’s literally speechless.
For Surly Chick Jen’s stylist doesn’t work Sundays or Mondays so she hasn’t gotten her hair cut yet. She’s been wearing it in a bun since it happened. And I don’t think Jen plans to have Susan pay for it either; knowing Susan, this would make them “even” in her mind. “I cut off your hair but I paid for the ‘repair’ so get over it already.” Nevermind the fact that Jen doesn’t even want to talk to Susan.
However, Jen’s stylist is also Susan’s. And mine, actually. And I would imagine that once she finds out what happened, she’ll probably do it for free anyway. Or at a drastic discount. FTR I told Jen I would pay for the haircut vs having Susan do it; like I said, it would involve a.) talking to Susan, and b.) Susan would think it makes everything fair and square and she’s “off the hook.”
Screw that.
Jen laughed when I offered to pay for it and said she can afford it and not to be silly.
Susan has, btw, not contacted or texted Jen since the initial terse haircut offer. Or me, for that matter.
Hopefully because she’s sitting at home in her darkened room contemplating the wreck of a friendship, or more than one, because of her lack of understanding basic human decency.
I cannot believe that there are some people who are basically saying “eh, it’s just hair, get the fuck over it.” The idea that it is ever okay in any way to deliberately damage something that belongs to someone else (and yes, hair belongs to the person out of whose scalp it’s growing) and shrug it off by saying “Oh, you can just replace it” (it’ll grow out) is mindboggling to me.
It is never acceptable to purposefully damage something that does not belong to you, just because the owner can replace it. A person that would do such a thing is not to be trusted, and not to be tolerated if he/she can’t see the inappropriateness of the behavior.
No, actually, according to her Facebook, she spent a lovely weekend at the river, tubing and tanning and posting pics of her “gorgeous day!” and also saying “I’m such a lucky girl!”
:dubious:
Yeah, there’s something wrong with Susan. Either that or she needs to be friends with people as dickish as she is - she needs to not be around decent people.
$300?!
I would gladly stiff anyone, no matter what I had done, if they thought I was going to give them $300 for a haircut.
It’s a lot, but it’s not like she’s a random person being hit up for money. If you wrong someone and then volunteer to right that wrong, you don’t really have the right to complain.
I think $300 is excessive for a hair cut/style, too. But guess what–I don’t go around Delilah-ing other people’s hair.
Bolding mine.
Seriously? If you really mean that I sincerely suggest that you wouldn’t let your drunk self write checks your dishonorable self would refuse to cover.
When you wrong someone you have to take your lumps and pay your debts. I guarantee you’d pay more than $300 in court costs/fines if the police became involved.
Hmmm, Jen and Susan already have the same hairstylist? For a big enough tip (or maybe even no tip, since Jen is a nice person the stylist presumably likes), could the stylist be having a bad day the next time she cuts Susan’s hair?