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LMFAO!!!
That is just so…wrong.
I agree with all the previous posts regarding the privacy issue. But I think maybe some of us are being a little harsh on Chekmate. S/he did say his/her Dad’s subject to drug testing, so he’s doing something that could cost him his job and his ability to support the family. Can’t blame the kid for being a little concerned about it.
That said, Chek, quit the snooping. It ain’t cool.
Chek,
I’m sure now realize that you shouldn’t be snooping around in other’s people’s stuff. It is only pot. Chances are if he is being drug tested that it is really old pot that he is keeping for sentimental reasons. I know that this sounds really stupid but I quit smoking pot ages ago but until a few months ago, I had a small bag of it that I kept through several moves because you never know. Maybe he is keeping it for the day he retires or moves to a new job and can finally have a toke without it costing it his job. He might be keeping it just in case it is ever legalized so he can toke up as soon as it becomes legal. It is none of your business.
The porn data CDs is a little odd for you. That is a large amount of porn but as long as it is legal and most likely it is who are you to judge.
The best thing to do is keep your mouth shut about it and don’t go snooping into other people’s stuff. Would you like it if your mom found your porn stash? Probably not.
Ok I’m having a little trouble here.
If a parent goes through a childs things looking for drugs etc then that parent is just looking out for their child. But when a child discovers such things in a parents possesion they’re being nosey little brats? Chekmate I think you should talk to him about it. Just ask him whats he has it for. Tell him your worried about drug use and his job. Have a civil conversation about it. Let him know your a little dissapointed. No blackmail. Don’t try and forget it. Just talk about it.
Really?
Ir’s for his glaucoma, the terrible secret that he never wanted to burden you with.
Right, that’s it! And the porn is merely for testing if his eyesight is improving.
See, completely innocent.
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Um…just curious…how do you know it wasn’t mom’s stash?
I myself snooped through my father’s stuff once or twice. Never found anything, but I think it’s somewhat natural for a kid to be curious about their parents.
Chief Wiggum to Ralph: “Oh Ralph, what is your obsession with my forbidden closet of mystery?”
As for the pot and porn. They are not a big deal, your said your father works hard and is an upstanding member of the community so they are obviously not interfering with his life. Almost everybody needs a little vice in their life and your father’s is rather tame as vices go.
I say keep it to yourself until your in your mid twenties and you and dad can sit down for a drink and share some childhood secrets. That’s what I did.
Pretty much. As a parent myself, let me ask you. Do you have a problem with that?
And if so, what, exactly, is your problem with it?
Hey now! Plenty of chicks dig porn, too!
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Well, Checkmate, today you learned that adults arn’t a wierd subspecies of humanity, but rather they are pretty normal people. I realized that when I sat down to watch Apocalpyse Now with my college boyfriend’s dad, a lawyer who wears suits every day, and he said “Do you mind?”
My boyfriend looked a little confused and said “Ummm…okay”
The dad then lit up a phattie joint and smoked away while us kids just sat cringing in the dark room.
I was innocently digging through my mom’s sock drawer one morning (after she had left for work already), searching for a clean pair of black trouser socks to wear to work, because mine were all dirty and stinky.
Lo and behold, I find a tube of KY Jelly, some “Maintain” cream for men, a prescription of Viagra for my stepdad, French Tickler condoms, assorted flavored condoms, a “back massager” (a really huge freaking back massager, too), and a porn video.
Once I got over the initial shock (and I was shocked, because though I know my parents have sex, I didn’t want to know about it), I realized it wasn’t a big deal. In fact, if my mom and I were open about such things, I would have told her to try AstroGlide instead. My parents are human, and it would be pretty stupid to think they were any different from me. (I have a porn video, I own condoms, I have a “back massager” - a much smaller back massager, but regardless - and I have several types of lubricant hidden in my room, too.)
And I really wouldn’t worry one bit about the pot. If he doesn’t have to take drug tests more often then every few months, he can stop smoking a month before his test and still pass. Or he can smoke nonstop and drink a detoxifier before the test. Fact is, plenty of people smoke pot, parents included, and it’s really not a big deal. Unless he’s taking bong hits in the backyard while grilling burgers for dinner, and unless that really pisses off your puritanical neighbors and they call the cops, the police are not going to break down the door and arrest him.
Basically, Chekmate, it’s shocking, but it is truly worth worrying about.
Ahem. It is truly NOT wortk worrying about.
Oh, goodness. You all know what I was trying to say. 
My ex-wife was a snoop. Snooping is a thoroughly despicable thing to do. Don’t do it anymore, ever.
Oh, my, you are all so hard on Chekmate! I think the issue is less one of privacy…my interpretation upon reading the original post is that he is concerned about the disconnect between how his Dad presents himself and what he is really like. I believe in Michigan you can be arrested for possession of marijuana, but according to Check, father is an “upstanding citizen.” Maybe he’s just worried about his father.
Depending on what father is like, talking about it is the best thing. Should work if he really is a “cool dad.”
man, if i found a key in my house i would see what it unlocked. I probably wouldn’t tell anyone but my sister what i found. I wouldn’t be concerned to find what you foundm and I definitely wouldn’t take it as an opportunity to question my values of privacy (as curiousity is a good thing I think) nor would I take it as an opportunity to bond with whoever’s secrets I found. My $.02
So, Checkmate is a typical teenager (admit it, you all have went through your parents things at some point in your formative years) and Dad, or Mom, or both, digs pot and porn.
All’s well.
man, this gives me an excellent idea… I’ve got a few years to go b4 BabyWarrior is old enough to go snooping, but when she is, I’m gonna leave a huge stack of porn and other embarassing stuff in a conspicous cupboard (my forbidden cupboard of mystery) and then ‘accidentally’ leave the key lying around… that’ll teach her not to go through my stuff 
Well he is in College which should make him an adult now, although probably a teen adult at that.
I got a book to put in with them ShadowWarrior. evil chuckles