So I also need some dating advice and didn’t want to hijack the other thread.
A couple of weeks ago I got up the courage to go to a singles mixer. I ended up hitting it off with a man I’ll call Steve. We ended up chatting for most of the evening and as things got later and louder we decided to go somewhere more quiet.
We hung out there for a couple of hours just talking. It was really nice. He drove me home, we said goodnight and that was it. No kissing or anything physical.
That was on a Saturday. I didn’t hear from him so I figured he wasn’t all that in to me but I decided on Tuesday to email him and just say basically “even though there doesn’t seem to be a connection, I just wanted to thank you for a lovely evening and good luck in your search”.
He sent one back saying he’s a slow and steady type and if he wasn’t interested, he wouldn’t have spent all that time with me and would I like to go out again. I said that would be nice and we ended up going out for dinner and a movie. He brought me a set of books he thought I might like which I though was so thoughtful.
At the end of that date, there was a very small kiss.
He asked me out for dinner a couple of days later but it was too short notice for me so I had to decline but we’ve been doing a lot of texting and emailing.
So here’s the part I need advice about.
We were both registered for another dating event. His was for tonight and mine isn’t for another week. I decided that if he didn’t go to his, I wouldn’t go to mine. He went to his. And exactly what I thought would happen, did. I was pretty sure that if he didn’t meet anyone else who interested him, he’d contact me, which he did. He sent me a text saying it was cancelled and so he was going to go out for dinner.
The problem I’m having is I feel like if he’s still wanting to look it means that he hasn’t found what he’s looking for with me. And by texting me after there wasn’t anything better at the dating thing, that he’ll settle for me.
I don’t want to be somebody’s “good enough”. I want more than that. I guess I’m disappointed that I thought things were going in the right direction but he didn’t.
Am I totally off base here? I’m confident that had he met someone else at the dating thing, he would not have been texting me after and that he’s only wanting to contact me because he didn’t find something better.