OK I just needed to say that. I am newly knocked up and damn my boobs hurt.
This didn’t happen with my first kid and I have no one to gripe to, since nobody knows yet. I was waiting to tell hubby until I knew it would stick. The last time I peed on a stick and it went positive it didn’t last the week. We weren’t that broken up about it since we only knew for a few days, but for this one I wanted to err on the side of caution.
So how should I tell husband? I am thinking that at lunch today going to the bookstore and getting a so you are going to be a big sister books for kid 1. Then I can leave it with the Christmas gifts for Kidlet 1.
Wow - my first question on seeing the title was, “Do you think you could be pregnant?”
Congratulations, and sending you sticky thoughts!
As for telling him, the book idea is pretty good. I wish I had more original ways. I told my husband about our firstborn by shaking him awake at 6:30 on a stormy morning and saying, “I think we’re having a baby.” The second one was late at night, but somewhat similar (closer to, “What would you say if I told I was pregnant?”). Good luck!
So I just checked the only bookstore that I can walk to on my lunch hour, and found nothing that would work. So I am back to the boring old “Hey honey remember when I said to the best of my knowledge I am not pregnant, well…”
Aha! I think I might have a way. We just got an invite to a friends (very nontraditional) baby shower and it looks like they want to play a game where the looser drinks. My friends will be watching me like a hawk to see if I drink (they know we have been pseudo trying) So I will probably just meet hubby after work today and ask him for a favor. He has to help cover for why I’m not drinking. I’ll let him figure out what that means.
I’m surprised you’re waiting to tell him, seeing as how he’s your husband and all. Maybe you just peed on the stick an hour ago, or maybe it was a week or more, I really can’t tell from the OP. But if my wife waited more than an hour to tell me, I’d be pretty upset about it, regardless of the eventual outcome. We’re a team, we’re partners, we’re lovers and we share everything, especially including the creation of our child. Don’t keep that shit from me.
Can it, corkboard. Don’t mess with pregnant ladies. Lots of us wait a while so we can get a darker test so we don’t have to explain to our husbands that yes, that’s a positive test, and no, we aren’t hysterical numbskulls.
OP: I’m 26 weeks pregnant and my hoo-ha hurts. I’ll trade you.
Yeah, taking a shower turned into a full-contact sport when I was pregnant. The breastses were a no-fly zone for pretty much the duration.
As for telling him, jeez, I dunno. I usually went with, “KEITH! OH MY GOD! COME LOOK AT THIS!” approx. two seconds after seeing the positive line. I admire those of you that have more restraint and can present the news in some kind of organized and/or thoughtful fashion.
Well then it’s a good thing I’m not married to you
I know my husband, I know how he reacts, and I know that I want to be damn sure of something this big before I tell him. So thank you for your opinion, but I can assure you that my husband does not care that he didn’t know the instant I did.
Hey Ludy… Sorta same place as you. I am 6 weeks and 2 days preggo today. My boobs hurt so bad it makes me want to cry. I have switched to sports bras for the most part, so the underwire does not dig in. But I would love some advice on how to alleviate some of this boob pain from some experienced dopers. This is my third pregnancy (the first two were misfires)… but I am pretty optimistic about this one. My symptoms are off the charts. Its funny how that changes things though… I told my husband this morning that I felt sick to my stomach and he said, “good! that’s good right?”
For all of my wife’s pregnancies, she just came out of the bathroom and handed me the pee stick.
I would also be bothered if she kept it a secret from me - especially if she was telling strangers on the internet, but not telling me.
Almost certainly too late for it by now, but it occurred to me a that a link to a Youtube clip from the movie One… Two… Three… would work. There’s a scene in which the German doctor is trying express what is ailing the American family’s houseguest.
“She is… is… schwanger. I do not know the word in English”
One of the kids pipes in “Scarlett’s gonna have PUPPIES!!!”
Oh - and regarding the painful twins… I bought several Decent Exposures bras and wore them 24/7 for the entire pregnancy. Otherwise the twins were in agony!
“Hi, darling. I found out three weeks ago that I am pregnant, and I’ve only told it to a gazillion strangers on the Internet two weeks before I told you”
Yeah, sure. That’d really be fun. I’d absolutely love to hear something like this.
Ludy gave a perfectly reasonable explanation for waiting, and also indicated that doing so is what she knows through their relationship will be best for her husband.
Sorry your boobs are hurting. I had some bras that were a step sideways from a sports bra. Not as much compression, and a little bit of separation. I don’t remember the brand (my son’s 13), but most likely I bought them at Target.
