Eh? What’s that, sonny? Granny can’t hear you when you mumble. 
I am also 44, and while I wouldn’t be thrilled at a text first contact, I would still respond (assuming I got the text - I’m not a cell phone fan). I would respond by phone, however, since that’s the modality I’m comfortable with. I say kudos to this woman for being willing to stand up for what she wants.
When it comes to making a phone call, I don’t weigh how much uninteresting blather I think the call will generate. I just use texts most of the time period. Sigma mentioned texting back “Call me!” and if I received a text like that (I never have - if a girl wants to talk to me she’ll just call me herself) I’d call - I’m willing to talk on the phone, I’d just rather text. I don’t make a big deal out of things and a girl who would make a big deal out of things, like say, my texting instead of calling, probably isn’t suited for me anyway. Thankfully none of the girls I’ve dated have made a big deal out of it.
But that call doesn’t have to be a full-out conversation. All you had to do was call and say, “Hey, had fun last night. Are you still interested in going out sometime?” after which you set up details and finish with, “Great, see you then!”
Is that really so hard?
Texting is only for people you already know IMO.
You know, I’m glad I started this thread. I learned something new. I was always under the impression that you had to talk and make idle chit chat before discussing the particulars of the first date.
You guys are telling me I can call and cut straight to the chase. Boy, that sure takes a load off.
She asked you to call her. You didn’t call. End of story. Is she particular? Perhaps, but that is her privilege. She wanted to see somehow who will call, not text like a teenage girl.
I use SMS, but only with people I know when it is more convenient than calling. If I get a text from an unfamiliar number that doesn’t identify itself, I generally erase it and go on with my life. Of course, I, too, am particular; I hate, hate, hate texts that read, “R U stl Ntrsted n goin out sat nt?”
[ol][li]Stop using alcohol as a crutch for confidence. [/li][li]If she doesn’t want to talk to you, she won’t answer her phone, or she’ll make a patent excuse as to why she can’t talk. She already expressed interest; you don’t need to make it easier for her to avoid you.[/li][li]Lists should have at least three items. (Hi, Opal!)[/ol][/li]
Stranger
I just got a text message from Ten Years Ago. It wants that joke back.
Who cares? Text if you want. The gal who’s not bothered by it is the right person for you.
Besides, any girl who demands you call on a certain day and doesn’t respond because you send a text is a Grade-A Bitch. Just be glad you don’t have to put up with a whole life of OMG HE SAID ‘BYE’ WITHOUT ‘LOVE YOU’ AT THE END I’M GOING TO BREAK UP WITH HIM OMG
Yeah, but both parties are partly “to blame” here. If the OP was really interested in seeing her again, he should have called a few hours after texting. Maybe she didn’t get the text.
What’s really funny about the woman in question is that she knocked one rule as being silly, then made up a silly rule of her own (i.e., that texts weren’t good enough for first “conversation”).
Really you should’ve done what that loser in “Swingers” did and left like 10 consecutive voicemails on her home phone. LOL
God do I miss being single!
But what I’m hearing from you is that you don’t enjoy talking to the women you date. It’s either uninteresting blather or uninteresting chit chat. It just sort of sounds like you’d be better off with a whore than a date.
If you want to keep “learning,” learn this: “THERE ARE NO RULES!”
Add me to this list. Text is too impersonal for a first-date request, plus she specifically asked you to call. This should have been a poll question!
Your being rather presumptuous Stranger. I don’t use alcohol as a crutch.:rolleyes: I can man up to situation, if needed. My logic was that texting would have been easier for both parties involved.
Hey! How do you know my sister-in-law?
Uninteresting chitchat isn’t specific to women I date. It’s people I talk on the phone with in general. I talk with them in person plenty, but the conversations I have on the phone are invariably different, with lots of "so…"s, etc. I can never just call someone about one thing. They will inevitably want to have that pointless phone dance with me. There’s no reason I have to hear their voice to set up a date. “Feel like going out Wed night?” in a text is just fine and, like I said, they can respond (or don’t) at their leisure. If a girl wants to make a date via voice that badly she can just call me herself. Reading what I’ve written in this thread I get it comes across as sort of harsh, but again, it’s never been a big deal. I just text them and get a text in response. It’s worked for me and until it stops working for me I doubt I’m going to do anything differently.
But if the reason you’re calling is because you’re worried she won’t like you texting, where’s the confidence?
So, the question still remains: Aside from her chastising you, do you find her to be a likeable, engaging woman? If so, why not call and ask her on a date? She was woman enough to tell you that she was disappointed that you didn’t call, so apparently she liked you well enough. Take her enormous hint and call her already!
OP, you should have called her right there, with her sitting next to you and asked her out both in person and on the phone simultaneously. Romantic comedy gold!
If women show you that they like you by telling you how you disappointed them, I must be the reincarnation of Giacomo Casanova.
I’m 48. Honest to God, you whippersnappers. Texting to set up a first date comes across as extremely rude to me.
Yeah, I get it that it’s a generational thing and that my grand-dad would have said “you don’t use the phone to ask a girl out; you do it in person.”
… and the beat goes on
… and the beat goes on.
I maintain that she wasn’t hinting, she was blowing him off.