I’ve deliberately kept the genders/sexes ambiguous here.
This morning, while approaching my bus stop on my way to work, I noticed someone I’ll call L, who was wearing a shirt with the name of a local non-profit that I recognized. We got to talking, and in the space of a few minutes I noticed that we had certain fundamental values/interests/experiences in common, we had a noticeable rapport, and I learned that L has a very interesting job at a school a few blocks from where I live. L was headed home after a sleepover of some sort.
Unfortunately, I should have asked sooner exactly which bus L was going to take (several different lines pass that stop), because then I would have exchanged contact information quickly! I saw my bus coming, asked if L was waiting for the same one, and upon getting an answer in the negative, I asked if perhaps they had a business card. L did not, and at that moment the bus’s door was opening, and I had to board.
Do I have any options here, besides hoping to run into L again? Based on what I already know, and the resulting look at the school’s website, I can send L an email right now. I can’t think of much else other than one of those ridiculous “missed connections” ads, and perhaps one more vague, cockamamie scheme involving my still-gestating-band offering to someday somehow contribute to what L does with the students… OK, with a little more poking around online it seems we know a few of the same people, but the only way I know that is by poking around online.
The problem is, I don’t know if it’s gauche (or much worse) to pursue any of these options. As I mentioned in the thread I started about my fruitless career hunt, I really don’t play well with others. It’s not due to shyness, but instead I just don’t see human interaction in the “normal” way. It’s caused me a lot of problems and a lot of pain, when the last thing I want to do is bother someone, much less frighten them.
What can I do? It’s not like I have a bunch of potential dates to pick from (it baffles me that that’s expected and normal), and even if I did, people are unique, and not disposable.