I think it may be part of his mental reorganization re. moving in together. He’s already decided he wants to live with you, and it implies a different way of sharing finances - or do you expect to split the bills by “you pay one, I pay the next,” rather than pool some money together for common expenses or deciding who pays every phone bill and who pays every power bill? But his “let’s live together” doesn’t equal “we are living together, so our financial relationship is different than when we were living separate.” There’s still a need to define how you do split expenses, whether there will be a common piggybank or not, etc.
I’m a solution-oriented female and when a boyfriend told me “I don’t know how would I live without you,” my answer was “gee, you lived without me for thirty years!” To me, my bf saying “I don’t know how will I live without my Mom” sounds Mommy’s Boy, which is in the list of Do Not Touch With A Ten Foot Pole. You’re telling him that your dad is the center and be-all of your life. More important than your bf, more important than any (hypotetical) children… and you expect him to react with a “awww, here, here” but if he’s like me he’s thinking “ok, don’t take it personally” and actually yes, taking it personally.
I just lost my father last week and I can assure you that, if your boyfriend says “everyone dies” after you lose your father, you will want to kill him. Cut him off now–a little heartbreak is better than 20 to life.
(I realize that this is the first time I’ve mentioned this, but please don’t hijack this thread with your condolences. It’s not about me or my father.)
Just wanted to bump this for people replying that seemed to have missed it…
So, what happened **amaguri? ** You know it’s against SDMB rules to invite us behind the caution tape of your mind and then tell us to move along, nothing to see here…
