Just started dating a girl last week. We’re hit’n it off pretty good. I have no reason to believe we wont still be dating once Christmas gets here. (that’ll make it a month)
How much do y’all think I should spend?
I’m open to any sugestion as to what I should get as well.
With out trying to sound too pretentious I could easily spend $200 and not have it put me in a bind financialy. But I’m thinking a $200 gift might freak her the hell out.
A pretty scarf, sweater, something she can wear that makes size irrelevant (within reason of course). Maybe setup some kind of fun event that you plan, something romantic that you present in some kind of fancy gift box. Like a padded box with a flower and an invitation. A gift certificate to Sephora. A piece of jewelry that is not terribly expensive but is beautiful and not the kind of thing she’ll see every day. Nothing with precious stones or anything. Fire Coral, Hematite or Turquoise are good for these sorts of things, on a leather strap or a simple unadorned chain. A beaded choker maybe. If she likes to wear her hair up, you could try some kind of fancy carved sticks that hold your hair up. If she keeps a journal, a handmade leatherbound book is nice. If she likes coffee or tea, fancy coffee or tea.
What if she doesn’t wear perfume? I guess you could get her some soap. . .
To the OP: This is that girl that you thought was awesome that you wrote about in MPSIMS, right? I was somehow under the impression that you knew her for a while. What does she like? What does she normally do for Christmas?
It sounds like she’s pretty special so something not too commercial that’s tailored just for her would be nice. But you can’t get help from here about that unfortunately.
all good, and I’d throw into the mix a fancy set of bath soaps and oils and such. Girls go all… well, girlie, over that sort of thing. Seriously. If you’re at her place take a peek at what kind of fragrances she uses for shampoos and such and get her a bunch of crap from Body Shop or something else.
And chocolates are always good. chocolates and flowers
I’d stay away from a gift certificate, though, as imo it’s kinda tacky and she’ll know exactly how much you spent (which could make her feel you’re cheap or freak her out depending, and that can be a thin line I personally don’t like walking).
Leatherbound journal is a great idea, so is a unique piece of jewelry. I personally have a few friends who make nice jewelry that’s not very expensive but is pretty and very unique, so that’s always worked well for me.
I’d actually stay away from candy. People are so overloaded with it at this time of year. If you know her well enough to know what candy she’d like, I’ll bet you can apply this knowledge to something else.
My favorite gifts are: books, cds, a nice bottle of wine or high-end liquor. Anything you know she likes but usually wouldn’t buy for herself. How about a gift card for a manicure or massage?
To me, $50-$70 is on the high side of reasonable–but maybe I’m poor and/or cheap. I’d lean towards a gift card/certificate from a restaurant. Something disposable/edible, just in case the relationship collapses by Valentine’s.
My now-husband and I had been dating for a month when Christmas rolled around. He got my books of crossword puzzles, because I had mentioned my love for them. I got him a David Sedaris book and something else.
It sure is awkward to try to figure out, even worse in some ways than meeting someone right before Valentine’s Day.
This girl. Allergies.
The first gift my now-husband gave me was a CD; he already liked it and thought I would too, so he got me a copy. So I married him and now we have two copies!
I like the idea of a small piece of jewelry or a scarf. Also give her a pocket calendar for 2009 in which you write in a future date with you!
That’s very early in the relationship to buy more than a token gift. However, if you really dig her, you might want to buy her a cool DATE. Something you normally wouldn’t do, like a play or some other event that’s a little more costly (and thus “special”), but is still a date. And a potential cool memory.
Theater tickets would be wonderful. Did she see The Nutcracker as a kid? A nice dinner for two and tickets to that would be a wonderful Christmasey date with all sorts of warm gooey memories for me.
