I can’t fathom a workplace where this would be tolerated. I guess if he’s the owner - but I still can’t imagine not telling him his behavior is unacceptable, giving one more chance, and walking out when/if it happened again. Who cleaned it up? This is kind of fascinating.
If I’m dealing with a random angry person in public, I’m much less inclined to offer constructive advice. If I’m dealing with a particular angry person with whom I expect to have regular interactions in the future (e.g. a coworker), then it’s in my interest to develop a tolerable working relationship. I wouldn’t be looking to take on a long-term project, but I certainly would let them know that if they want to interact with me in the future, they need to behave in a civilized manner.
Personally, I try not to maintain freindships with people like that. If I have a working relationship with someone like that, that’s different. Fortunately I’m not related to anyone like that.
My boss own the company.
“Less angry version, please!”
“Come back when less angry!”
“You clearly groove on the angry vibe, and you’re welcome to whatever works for you, but around here, we’re not so into that, so save it for your off work hours and control yourself to a professional standard while with us. Thank you for understanding.”
Be prepared to keep repeating it, again and again, until they can finally hear it. Don’t get angry, that’s the key, really.
“Then, Sir, we will give them the bayonet!” – T. J. Jackson, 1861
It’s fairly well known in the industry that he has issues. I’ve gone the whole your behavior is unacceptable route and he believes that we are all too sensitive, it’s not my place to be commenting on his behavior, all the incidents involving the police were everyone else’s fault but his, whatever it was never happened (even though we all either saw or heard it), you name it. There was one incident where someone was hit with a desk item he threw during a fit. No one saw it happen, but she grabbed her coat and purse and ran out the door crying. She applied for unemployment and he swore up and down it never happened and she didn’t get unemployment. He can come across as very credible when he needs to.
When he does something like the food throwing, I pretend I don’t see it and step over it until he cleans it up himself. I’m assuming it’s he who does it because it gets cleaned up when I’m not around.
If the streets were paved with well paying jobs I would be out of there in a second. The problem is that people in my position don’t job hop very much.
That is truly unfortunate. He sounds like a vile human being.
What? Y’all don’t have cameras on your phones? Two or three episodes, of him screaming or throwing things, and you’d have yourselves a ‘hostel work place’ suit. He’s playing a dangerous game and abusing his power as employer. Someone’s going to get him, one of these days, I’m sure.
Don’t you mean, hostel workplace suite?
So someone calling you out when you’re throwing a tantrum turns them into your lifetime enemy? Seriously? Seriously?
Agree. Angry cunts are only really a problem in a professional context where walking away can have great costs.
In a personal context, it’s often easier to walk away. My father used to get angry at me. Which is why we’ve seen each other three times in the last 9 years (hospital, funeral home day 1, funeral home day 2).
snerk Good one.
You really think he would allow himself to be filmed? Or that the person doing the filming wouldn’t be fired on the spot? It’s an employment at will state.
Working for an asshole doesn’t make you a protected class. The guy is an asswipe, but I have learned a lot from him.
99% of the time I can separate my work life from my home life without any issues. I have a full and happy life outside of my job. It doesn’t affect me in the ways it affects most of my coworkers. When I am out the door, that’s it. He’s not going to change, but hopefully the economy will and then I will be able to get a job for a much better person and keep my lifestyle too.
No… Someone using the exact tactics described – snapping in my face, “Calm down, now.” Also, I was described as angry, not as “throwing a tantrum.”
You changed the parameters of the scenario. That’s not fair; it’s arguing both sides of the issue.
(I also dislike “Seriously? Seriously?” Too patronizing. Disagree with me if you wish, but let’s not play games.)
Hey, as long as you calm down, I don’t care if you hate me or not. In fact, since you seem to have an issue with assertive people standing up to you, I’m not sure I’d want you to like me.
I always say “Excuse me, but why are you yelling? I have excellent hearing.” That at least gets the person to speak softer.
And the benefit of making this personal is…what?
Seeing less of the angry person, in cases where making it personal will result in such, I think.
“Somebody’s got a case of the Mondays!”
(for best results, use on Monday)