Dealing with potential cyber-crushes

I need some advice. I surfed into my other favorite message board today, and had already made a few posts when I saw a thread with my name as the subject. I opened it, and this is what I found.

Well, like I said, I’d already made a few posts, so I couldn’t very well just lurk and pretend I hadn’t seen the board today, so I posted a little stopgap measure of a message, something to the effect of “Gosh, I really don’t know what to say…” Now, about the poster. I don’t really know him (I’m assuming it’s a guy) that well, he’s one of the ones who just kinda blends into the background for me. I have no idea what he wants from me, whether he just wants to discuss various topics with a person he thinks is interesting, or is looking for an internet romance, or what. He certainly sounds more ardent than is strictly necessary. This is completely outside my realm of experience, and I am at a total loss as to how to proceed. Can anyone give me some helpful hints? What would you do in a situation like this? I really don’t want to have to start avoiding the board entirely. Help!

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Maybe, and this is what I have done in chat rooms, the best solution is to say something to the degree “I keep all my conversations public, if you have a question you would like answered please keep it within the confines of the forum.”

This helps you keep safe and secure and if questions become weird then others may help you with detracting the person from communicating with you.

There are too many stories of weird people on the 'net, so play it safe to begin with and continue your postings elsewhere on the MBs that you are involved in.

Anyhow, that’s what I would do. 'Sides, if people in the forum know this person and is not a psycho, you are safe regardless of what you do :slight_smile:

Its probably BigRoryG!

Allodoxaphobia- Fear of opinions.

I agree- simply state that you don’t do private e-mails, and that you would rather keep any conversation on the boards. End of story!
(You don’t owe him an explination)

Love is like popsicles…you get too much you get too high.
Not enough and you’re gonna die…

Great advice.

Or you could just ask him what the deal is.

You can always block him if he turns stalker on you.

You say “cheesy” like that’s a BAD thing.

Pretty good advice, so far, NT.

You don’t have to respond at all.

Good luck!


I shouldn’t have left that note in your locker, either.


  • Rick

Ask him “Can you pull a rabbit out of a hat?”

If the answer is “No,” then your response would be “If you can’t do a simple magic trick like that, you don’t stand a chance.”

(courtesy of the “Love Sidney” TV program of the early 80s)