How do you stop loving someone who doesn’t love you back?
Signed, Heartbroken
You don’t, silly.
You continue loving them, you go out and meet someone new, you start loving her a little, then a little more, and pretty soon one love has eclipsed, but not eliminated, the other.
And you talk it out with your friends. 
{{{Nacho4Sara}}}
…haven’t seen your name here for awhile, but this isn’t how I hoped to see it again.
Two things: I remember seeing some of your earlier posts and always thought that you were a charming, bright, thoughtful young lady, with just enough of an edge to capture my heart. You struck me as someone who deserves the very best but, unfortunately, at this moment, you’re feeling that that special someone doesn’t return the affection. This, then, is not who you deserve…and who clearly doesn’t deserve you.
I know it hurts. Really. But you will find your heart’s desire out there. Somewhere.
Second: When I went through painful breakup once, I thought my life was over. The ensuing weeks were spent driving around aimlessly or lying in bed, staring at the ceiling. One evening, I threw the Go-Go’s “Beauty and the Beat” tape in whilst driving down PCH. It recalled earlier days, better days, before I even knew her and realized that I had a good life once upon a time and that, dammit, I could do so again.
And I have. I met the woman of my dreams and we got married five years ago…I’ve never looked back.
I know these words don’t mean much now…they might never. But please understand that you have the hope and love of a lot of people here and the collective prayers and wishes mean to lift you up and wrap its arms around you, rock you gently and tell you that things will be okay.
All my best,
Scott
Love can fade in time, like scars. You can still see old scars, though. If you look hard enough.
<hugs>
Lest this thread go too long without a smartass comment -
You could try going out with me. That seems to turn most women right off men completely! 
I could say the same for myself, but it seems to go without saying.
Nacho4Sara, my suggestion is: keep in mind that the person in question doesn’t love you back. Sounds a little masochistic, I’ll admit, but it’ll serve to remind you why moving forward is necessary. I’ve been in a similar position and it does hurt like hell, so you totally have my sympathy.
Time. That is the only cure. Sorry there are no easy answers to this sort of thing.
What you don’t do, by the way, is hang around trying through sheer willpower to make them love you. Doesn’t work. Not a bit. Try to learn this from someone else’s mistake and not have to make your own, OK?
{{{Nacho4Sara}}} It might not feel like it right now, but it WILL get better.
I wish I knew an answer easier then time. But I don’t. And I relate far too well to this subject. But I do know it’s survivable.
Have a torrid affair with an anonymous stranger, preferably one who’s name starts with ‘s’!
Seriously, that unrequited love will fade if you do nothing to fan the flames. Nothing fans the flames of unrequited love better than isolation and lonliness. So get out there! Get on with your love life.
There are probably several young fellows right now who are thinking of auditioning for the role of Mr. Right! And a couple of old letches like yours truly! Next time you’re asked, take a chance.
It will get better!
{{{{{Nacho4Sara}}}}}
[Edited by slythe on 10-19-2000 at 07:36 AM]
Thanks, everyone. I am feeling better today (it gets really pathetic around midnight - 2am). You are all very right. Hopefully in a few weeks I will be able to smile.
Oh, Geobabe, I am trying so hard to do this but I have no willpower
I guess I’ll just keep workign on it.