I think that the best and only thing to do is to completely break off contact with the object of your interest. Kinda like quitting smoking. Any thoughts?
Cutting contact is good.
Keeping busy is very good.
Keeping busy through intense physical labor is probably best.
I think that accepting that it takes time is critical: time heals all wounds, but not over night, and it’s foolish to think the pain is just going to go away in a few weeks or months.
My thought is that it won’t work. Falling in love with someone else usually does the trick, though.
Start drinking.
Heavily and often.
That’s probably wise…out of sight, out of mind. It’s so easy to become withdrawn and depressed, but it’s probably wise to get out and spend your time constructively with friends. Talking to someone about it will help get things in perspective. You may not think so now, but you will eventually overcome your deep feelings and only time will help you get those strong emotions into perspective.
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- Keeping busy through intense physical labor with somebody else is probably best.
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- Keeping busy through intense physical labor with somebody else is probably best.
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Listen to depressing music like Radiohead or Pink Floyd
Disconnect yourself… Grieve for a little bit if you are really heartbroken, Then move on… But don’t hang around that person if your heart is just fluttering for a non reciprical love.
You will only get hurt.
What if the OP isn’t the one with the unrequited love, but is the object of it?
How does that change the answers?
To answer the OP as it reads… what everyone else already said.
Cutting contact is by no means a guaranteed way to fix things. It can very easily make a bad situation worse. With occasional contact you get a fix now and then and can worry about other things the rest of the time. With no contact, it’s easy to fall into full-time obsession.
Or at least it was that way for me. 
Try and find someone else, if only a temporary thing…
Masturbate.
Time and distance–complete cutting off may or may not be a good idea; it’s never universally one way or the other.
Also, have a couple meaningful short-term relationships. They get short shrift compared to long-term’s PR, but they’re still good medicine for this kind of thing.
I wholeheartedly agree. That’s the way it was for me too. I had an easier time healing and coming to grips with my heartache with the former bf “helping” me along with it. When I tried the “no contact” route, all I did was obsess and idealize him. Absence makes the heart grow fonder and all that
And would like to add that, as unhelpful as it is, there’s no “one size fits all” answer. For some people it’s more helpful to cut off all contact, for other people, to quote the old song “If you must go, then go gently (or however it goes :)),”.
Try everything, get dragging-yourself-home-on-your-lips drunk, eat a gallon of B&J’s ice cream, man or woman bash with your friends, cry on your mommy’s shoulder (I wouldn’t do the lip dragging drunk thing and the B&J ice cream thing on the same night though), find what works best for you and stick with it til you’re better.
Pornography, pornography, pornography!
Chain smoke, drink heavily and sullenly masturbate a lot. Give up bathing, keep all the blinds in your house closed, and dine exclusively on Cheet-o’s and sugar cubes. Draw sketches of your beloved on the walls using your own blood and feces. Cultivate the habit of saying aloud every thought that passes through your mind. I promise you that after a few months of this, unrequited love will be the least of your problems.
I fixed him up with a friend of mine. I didn’t decide to do this out of the blue, I just realised they seemed kind of interested in each other and I decided that if it couldn’t be me it was better her than some bimbo I wouldn’t get on with. It hurt like hell for about 48 hours but turned out to be just the kick up the arse I needed to get over him. Now the thought that I ever fancied him at all, much less was hopelessly in love with him for two years, is almost unbelievable to me.
The best way to get over someone is to get under someone else!
Treat yourself to a shopping spree at your favorite store. For me, well, that’d be a well-stocked comic book store filled with a great selection of my favorite trade paperbacks.
falling for someone else usually works for me :D, seriously though, keeping busy helps and moving on.