I really don’t understand this ‘You should try to be her friend’-thing. That is just insane. Do You realize that since she is married she has a husband. Sooner or later he’s going to be suspicious about a guy who is hanging around his wife and in the best case scenario there will be a fistfight.
In the worst case scenario the jealous husband kills his wife, then he has to kill RickJay, then he wants to commit a suicide, but before that he thinks he can’t leave his young daughter to suffer alone…
It means four dead people and RickJay’s small daughter who isn’t looking for a bright future. But hey, at least RickJay proved to some message board hotheads that he wasn’t the worst pig in the world… ( or that he is a damn home wrecker… )
Holy shit! And this entire catastrophe could have been avoided if she just wore a wedding ring. Women…
Naw, women cost more than pocket change.
Generally, clubs are packed, too loud to have much in the way of meaningful conversation, and you give or get numbers (or hook up afterwards) based mostly on finding each other physically attractive. And that’s not just people who are only looking for NSA sex, it’s regular people.
I usually find out first before engaging, even to the point of being brash and direct.
Ah. Then I have never been there, but I’ve been married for almost 20 years.
People are so desperate for sex/attention that they will hook up with anything that appears interesting?
No, it’s entirely possible for a married woman to be attracted to a man who is not her husband and refuse him.Even if he is doing his best to seduce her, it’s quite likely that she will refuse to have sex with him, if she doesn’t believe in straying.
I know that many men are of the opinion that any woman can be laid or bought if a man uses the right plan. I don’t know of ANY men who are 100% successful in their seductions, even if they choose their targets with care.
Some women just can’t be seduced. It doesn’t mean that they are bitches, or lesbians, or frigid. It generally means that they have their own morals or ethics.
Jesus Christ. I read threads like this and feel like I must be some sort of alien creature. Because, dayum, I agree that the OP was just bummed that the object of his affection ended up being taken. No more, no projection, no less. So, although I had plenty of opportunities when I was younger to feel the same way as some of the women do here, I just chalked it all up to regular life. Some guys chase you when you’re married, some women don’t care that they’re married and go with whoever is interested and sometimes people (male and female) are assholes in general. Nothing else to say or do except realize you’re not like that, you’re faithful, you can have friends whether they’re involved or not and, sometimes, it all doesn’t matter anyway. Ain’t no skin off your vajayjay. Meh.
Sometimes, but not even close to always. In my early-to-mid 20s I met a ton of men at clubs. I ended up going out with some, and it seemed to work out about as well as it did with men I met other ways.
Sometimes they were clearly just looking to hook up, but I’m not really into that, so it didn’t go anywhere. It’s just a way to meet people. My uptight sister and her devoted husband met that way too and have been married for a few years and are the married-est couple you could imagine. They have a great relationship. Yeah, the ratio of hits to misses is pretty low, but you meet so many people that way that the odds are still decent.
Huh. This is totally new to me - I’ve always know the guys for quite some time before being interested in dating them. Guess I’m an old fogey! 
I don’t know about 20 years ago, but this is going back just under 10 years ago.
On the other hand, I met the worst fucking person for me imaginable the very first time I went out to a club (okay, the second time, because the first time was in Canada when I was legal there but not here yet). But I if I’d have met him somewhere respectable (we’re both college graduates–say we’d gone to the same college), it would have turned out the same way.
It’s just a location to meet people. Perfectly normal young adults meet at clubs/meat markets all the time. Yeah, it’s based primarily on physical attraction initially, but how many people check the “with images only” boxes on dating sites too? Physical attraction is a starting point, it’s rarely the end-all. Even with my nemesis, the reason it’s gone on for a decade is because we can spend 8 hours on the phone together and not get bored. I think he’s hot but I’d have lost interest so fast if that was all it was.
Because of course your experiences must necessarily be everyone’s experiences.
Different people are different. Some won’t date anyone they haven’t known for a while, some refuse to date from that same pool. Circumstances and personalities involved are always going to make it a case by case basis.
:dubious: Have you been living under a rock? I mean, c’mon; I understand not being “a fan” hofsuch scenes/ways of life but to say you didn’t even know they existed?
I guess I’m so used to meeting folks at “mutual interest activities” (i.e. dog sports) that going to a club to meet someone just doesn’t compute! 
I’ve never been on a dating site either.
Bite me. I said it was totally a new concept to me.
I’ve seen such clubs on TV but I didn’t realize they were common, that they were really places people went to meet someone.
If you work with someone, try TALKING to her like a potential FRIEND (aka HUMAN BEING). This way, you find out these things and in the process convince her you actually give a damn about the person carrying around the vagina.
A Yosemite Sam tattoo as well.
Though, in retrospect, it made sense. Given that the first time I brought pleasure to a lady was when my mother had an orgasm birthing me. Post-partum, I immediately latched onto the nipples of the doctor. The male doctor. That’s just the way I roll sometimes, you know?
It wasn’t until I was four months that I gave my first handjob. Rik Mayall just can’t get enough of the palmar grasp reflex. Speaking of reflexes, I overcame the gag reflex by the age of two. Just one of the many manly pursuits of Belowjob.
I find it hard to believe you support Democratic voter suppression.
Anyway, I’m fairly certain men have friends of the opposite sex they wouldn’t fuck, as well as friends of the opposite sex who they would fuck if given the chance. I don’t think there’s anything creepy about building a rapport with someone before actually leaping into bed with them. It saves from hostile break ups later (relationship success in the short term is based on physical attraction, in the long term, similarity of outlook).
This was true 20 years ago too.
Anyway, much of the point is that reasonable people can “get to know someone” by going out on a date with them. You will learn more about a person during a 2 hour date than you will in 2 months of workplace chit chat.
Hey, this woman is attractive, personable, and seems to like me, I should get to know her better.
A) Ask her out on a date to a nice restaurant
B) Hang around her desk like a creep for weeks on end
Exactly. And there’s no telling what RickJay’s wife is going to do if she ever hears about this.
Hygiene, dear.
:rolleyes: puke!