Man, those Teletubbies know everything.
Good morning, catsix . Nah. Not trolling. Anyone who reads the boards for awhile can recognize trends from frequent contributors. I recognize the names and online personalities of a lot of posters, not just you.
And I also know that you can be very funny when you are not attacking both men and women for perceived afronts to your skills and abilities. But your sense of humor doesn’t excuse your frequent hijacks of courtesy and kindness threads. Your attacks probably make interactions harder for shy strangers.
Of course. It is rude.
But if the person being rude genuinely doesn’t realize they’re being, rude and in fact is trying to be nice… I think it’s rude to return their rudeness, so to speak.
Hi, Nic2004. Thank you for the welcome. No, I haven’t posted before, but have wanted to numerous times. Each time I have seen a thread devaluing kindness and courtesy I have wanted to jump in, but had noticed that new posters with an argument are not welcomed. I haven’t had the time in the past to ease my way into the boards and ingratiate myself to the regulars.
But this one just rankled. Couldn’t keep my dog out of the fight.
You rarely know how people intend the things they do and say. One person’s courtesy is another person’s chauvinism.
But you can usually tell a lot about a person from how they *react * to those things from other people.
When I see someone react with hostility or aggression, or feel the need to make a political statement in an everyday circumstances like the one being discussed here (being offered a seat, for instance), I am not impressed.
I’m not saying it’s wrong. But in my experience people who are secure in themselves and actually believe in thier own identity/strength/empowerment don’t feel the need to scream it in other people’s faces, or swing at every social pitch that just might, might, imply otherwise.
my 2 cents,
~fig
That’s exactly how Hitler would have responded!
Oh my heart is breaking. :rolleyes:
How’d I get involved in this?
I (a gal) hold doors open for males and females, young and old, disabled or not.
They all seem to appreciate it equally. I never realized there was a problem.
I would probably assume that you were planning to be on the bus for a while and moved to the back so that people could enter and exit with less impedence. I’d probably also head toward the back if I was going more than a couple of stops.
If, however, someone says on a message board that they find the practice insulting and why they find it so, it should give the person who previously didn’t know that treating women as fragile or infirm was insulting something to consider regarding whether they should continue the practice.
In a social setting, I probably wouldn’t notice. If it were a business setting, I would be more likely to wonder why a handshake wasn’t offered, although I tend to automatically extend my hand when meeting someone for business.
So expressing my opinion vigorously on a messageboard means that I go Gunnery Sergeant Hartman on someone on a bus? There, I tell them ‘No, it’s OK, you were there first.’ and I save the mind-changing attempts for places like this.
Why thank you. I did have an excellent time hanging out with you, even when that weird stoned guy kept talking to us. 
Silly fuckin me, I posted my opinion in IMHO.
Lincoln McPieflag?
Well, when you want to suck up to someone and they’re known to enjoy slamming people, you slam the people the object of your hot internet lust slams. Rather sad and pathetic, especially considering he would have to be able to tell it’s you that is standing there pregnant on an IV drip in front of him based solely on words on a screen, but hey! It seems to be working.
She may be IRL, but on the Boards, in threads like the linked one, she comes across as angry and mean.
Could someone explain what is hyper defensive or angry and mean about:
Seems pretty reasonable and the only rebuttal given her is “It’s tradition, you angry idiot”
Personally, however, the “choose to breed” reason for not giving up a seat to a pregnant lady is pretty retarded. If these people don’t choose to breed there won’t be anyone to push your wheelchair or wipe your drool in a few years, catsix. Besides who cares? I don’t ask how the guy broke his leg to decide whether he “deserves” my seat.
Perhaps because that’s how you always come off here-constantly going rabid anytime someone disagrees with you?
I’ve gone out of my way and done nice things for people and been repaid with an endless ‘fuck you’ from some of them.
I’m not really worried about what you think of me.
I snorted waaay hard on that one.
It’s the bolded part.
catsix seems to be making two assumptions here.
- The gentleman in quesiton only holds doors for ladies
- He thinks women are frail defenseless creatures who can’t take care of themselves.
It’s sort of a verbal slap in the face to extend a social gesture and have it thrown back at you.
You’re boyfriend is Yankee Doodle?
How about the guys who practically run a girl over to get in front of them to open the door for them?
Can I find that annoying or would it be bitchy of me?