J. Lo was a bitch to me too. Let her go and don’t look back.
Paul, the story of your life would make a much more interesting book than mine would. I’m not sure which of us is more fortunate. Congratulations on your upcoming marriage, and I hope you can put some of the turbulent chapters of your life behind you.
Enjoy,
Steven
Kudos for being a grown up, Paul. All the best for your upcoming nuptials.
Glad to see you ignored her. It’s hard to know with the lack of detail, but in my experience, this sort of person will likely be encouraged by any sort of response, positive or negative. Let her have the last word or whatever she feels she needs and resist the temptation to acknolwedge or dispute anything she says.
Although, FTR, I don’t like the phrase “living well is the best revenge” because it seems to imply to me a continuation of that adversarial relationship rather than simply letting go and moving on. Living well is, of course, what you should do, but as part of the release and in spite of whatever effect it may or may not have on her, not because of it.
Thank you all.
May I suggest keeping a low profile and a really good home monitoring system? For a long, long time?
Oh, and hardware. If the psycho latina comes knockin’(with a gun), your semi-automatic rifle should be rockin’.
Congrats on the upcoming nuptials and kudos for being the better person and just simply blocking/ignoring her. That’s what I had to do with my crazy one. She still emails a few times a year, and even tracked down my mother in TX (I live near DC) and posed as a bill collector to try to get a current address for me. Thankfully, she didn’t give it to her.
Keep your location secret from her and all the best to you and your future wife.
Uhhh…he described it being quite a bit more complicated than that, and sex alone does not make any relationship stable.
Class is realizing the mistake (even though it did take 20 years) and actively avoiding making it again, which Paul seems to be doing now.
I’ve been wondering the same thing, really.
I get that this is supposed to be disapproving, but I don’t quite understand why.
Look, I suspect that if she had wanted to, Paul would have been happy to marry her along the way.
Of course that would have entailed leaving her (possibly murderous and underworldly-connected) husband, and probably getting therapy for some flavor of personality disorder/being a raging drama queen from hell and back. And I don’t think she really wanted to do either.
It sounds rather like the lady was happy letting Paul be essentially her boytoy,(manstress?) stringing him along, not caring that Paul was riding an emotional rollercoaster, perhaps even liking that she had power to call him up and have him be on the spot to cater to her needs and desires ASAP. A manipulator and headgamer by upbringing, possibly also choice.
That’s what I got, and well, I got that he’s kind of saluting her, wishing her well, and disembarking from the rollercoaster forever. It’s not so much a kick to the curb as a sigh of relief.
Her husband gets the millions, and all Paul gets is a lousy e-mail? 
You had me at “the sex was great”. What’s her email address?
I’m not sure if Hotmail bounces messages back to Ignored senders. They may just go into a junk folder, and then she’ll never know and keep on e-mailing you, thinking she’s still making you miserable and thus gaining some level of satisfaction. I’d send her a brief message to say “I’ve just set my filters to block your messages completely” so she’ll know she’s not getting through to you. Even if she switches addresses, she’ll probably be able tio figure out you’re blocking those in turn, also.
I think for Hotmail I just put her on the spam filter. So she goes right to the trash can.
Can you call the Leverage team and convince them to cheat her out of some of her oodles of cash?
It sounds like he’s OK with fucking someone else’s wife, just not with being treated like someone’s bit on the side (which he is).
Count me unsympathetic.
It reads to me like Paul was being SWMNBN’s boytoy a long time ago, before either Paul or SWMNBN got into their current relationships.
I’m glad you got out, Paul. Best wishes for your marriage.
Out of curiosity, I’d like to know if this is true.** PiQ**, were you sleeping with her while she was married?
(On second thought give me some time to write a proper reply. “It is complicated,” as people so often say before explaining actions they regret. But in addition, I am in a foul mood for other reasons and not good human company at the moment.)