But it’s pretty obvious why I don’t want them. It’s not gonna be a mystery to them in life.
Drugs and their use/abuse of them is the reason.
Should read “isn’t”.
The problem, as you’ve been told over and over and over but are either refusing to listen to or think it’s fun to pretend to ignore, has nothing to do with not accepting drugs in your kids’ lives. It has to do with not accepting your kids in your heart.
Probably been asked but I can’t bear to read the other thread…: Would you feel the same way about alcohol abuse?
The very fact that you don’t want your own children because they are not perfect people is the problem here, and it is YOUR problem. They haven’t murdered anyone, they have not raped anybody, they didn’t run down somebody in a wheelchair or blow up a school, they didn’t do anything at all that has irreversible consequences, and you have discarded them like so much trash. YOU chose your perfect life over your kids, and you seem befuddled that most of us think that is an appalling choice, far more detrimental to your kids’ future well-being than smoking pot will ever be. YOU chose to damage your kids. YOU are abusive. If you can honestly say “I don’t want my kids,” then you should never have had them, because you don’t have what it takes to be a mother.
In truth, if I had found a beer bottle in room, it would have been bad, but not as bad. Weed is worse because he had to meet with a dealer. And it was over a 10 month period.
And the aforementioned weed worship which is over the top.
If it had in fact been beer, I could have opened up more to others I think. I know others who have been in that place. Kid got drunk underage. For some reason, that is addressed frequently in the coming of age narrative. The weed, no. More taboo. No one chats about that.
Slash2k, the marijuana use disorder also has irreversible consequences
Alcohol addiction is FAR worse than pot. This is not hidden information.
Gee, I wonder what hole in his life this teen is trying to fill?
Just out of curiosity, where is their dad in all of this? Does he share your opinion or is he taking a more moderate approach?
You’re a troll, posting for reactions. You don’t believe what you say and I sincerely doubt you have any kids. Worse, you’re a boring troll. I suggest stepping up your game. Next post, try telling us you’ve bricked your kids up in your basement ‘Cask of Amontillado’ style. Or perhaps just nonchalantly mention you’re looking for a good place to rent a wood chipper. That kind of thing. Just don’t forget the bug-eyed maniacal laughter. That’s what’s gonna sell it.
You can believe what you want, needscoffee. But prior to finding this out on Christmas Day, we had spent Xmas eve together, baking cookies, drinking cocoa and watching Christmas movies, as per our tradition.
We were a typical family. No one is perfect but we had a good time. Family vacations, get together with relatives. Sleepovers and pancake breakfasts. I don’t know what void they were trying to fill.
You seem to think pot is much worse than it really is so let’s compare like with like. Say you found a bottle of Jack Daniels in his room. Still not as bad as pot?
Also, do you live in America? If so, where have you been hiding? Are you aware of the fact that pot is legal in many states and more to come in the near future? Are you aware that pot legalization has been part of the national conversation for longer than your kids have been alive.
Husband as I’ve said is in denial.
His family has addiction issues.
Yes, but obviously I disagree with legalization of pot.
LOL. It’s so obvious now that this is just performance art from a troll.
You oversold it. You’re not supposed to go full on loon.
It is possible there may be, yes, but at this point you have no idea whether there will be any consequences at all, much less irreversible ones, from their use of marijuana.
However, there ARE irreversible consequences from your decision (YOUR CHOICE) to treat your kids like trash.
See …
Troll, only a troll would say this, in this day and age. Come on people, no one thinks this way anymore.
OK, but denial is a pretty broad word. He’s aware they are smoking, you said you found the evidence together. What is he doing? Is he talking to them about it? Is he talking to you about it? What does he say when you bring it up?
Is pot worse than Jack Daniels (alcohol use)?
He doesn’t like discussing it. He avoids conversation about it - like when I tell him what the therapist says, he tunes out. He wants to just bury his head in the sand and hope that they stop on their own.