Failry amusing article in Salon Magazine - (requires 30 sec ad view)
I guess I’d have to be an idiot to ask what these women think about cunnilingus. The idea of getting a blowjob used to make me feel - among other things - a little bit guilty because of the “what am I doing for her?/she can’t be enjoying this” angle. But you know what? The writer is probably right about sex acts being ‘sacrosanct.’ A decision by one woman to give head does not degrade all other women.
See, now this is the problem with being overly respectfull of women’s “feelings”: since they’re often bullshit, by granting them too much attention, additional bullshit is encouraged. Who the fuck thinks it’s a good idea to drag politics, feminist or otherwise, into the bedroom? That’s what the “anti-gay marriage or anything else amendment” people do. I’ve always felt that leaving politics outside the bedroom is important in maintaining the spiritual purity of what goes on inside. Having blown a fair number of guys years ago, I can tell you that I never felt humiliated, degraded, or unmanly (to the contrary, I always felt proud and a little “extra male”). I’d never get involved with a woman who refused to blow me (on any grounds), and I’d never respect a woman who didn’t think she deserved to demand her pussy be eaten in turn for a job well done. Weaklings…
Wow, I had no idea that I had no brain or sexuality of my own, outside of that determined by the patriarchy and some random bloggers.
Oh, wait. I do. I’ve quite a few feelings of my own about blow jobs, and they change depending on a. the man involved b. my mood c. what has he done for me lately and d. any other damn thing I want.
It’s my mouth, I’ll choose where to put it, thanks. Yeah, sometimes it feels like a chore. That’s when I don’t do it. (And if he has an issue with that, fuck him. No, wait. Don’t fuck him. Leave.) Sometimes it feels like a romantic gift I can give a man as a generous goddess of love. Sometimes it feels like a giggle tease. Sometimes it makes me feel like a powerful sexy bitch getting off on seeing her man helpless to the power of my tongue.
So, which of these feelings are due to the patriarchy, again?
I’ve overcome my cultural conditioning around monogamy, public nudity and wearing high heels. I somehow doubt I remain a victim of Fellatio Politics.
Deconstructing Blowjobs
Can’t … resist …
BAND NAME!!!
Coincidentally, I turned on the AC before I read this.
Good thing, too.
Oh, for a scratch’n’lick…
Submissive? That’s certainly not a feeling I’ve ever had in that situation.
I can’t believe a thread with “blowjobs” in the title has garnered so few replies.
Seconded, at least as far as the depths of my memory are serving :: sigh ::
I mean really, how condescending is it to say that women don’t know or understand why they are doing something that personal? That we don’t know what’s good for us?
As a diehard feminist, my first thought is that if you’re wondering whether you would be letting any given guy take advantage of you if you gave him a blow job, you are definitely in bed with the wrong guy.
(By the way, I can’t seem to read the article - it says to click on the sponsor’s logo, but I don’t see any sponsor’s logo.)
Ah, sex and the Patriarchy: such fond memories!
(Mods, no worries - Ms. Magazine doesn’t even have forums anymore, so no danger of another board war. I did hang around the Ms. Forums for a while after that episode, and whew! it taught me a LOT about why so many women don’t want to consider themselves feminists. But fuck if I’m going to allow the radical wackos to hijack the term.)
What a ridiculous argument. It seems to me that some people are just plain angry and unhappy, and this informs their whole worldview to the point that they’re unable to see anything as good, no matter what anyone else thinks.
How sad.
Can anyone name me a single sex act that ISN’T routinely filmed as inherently humiliating? For women, anyway. I think the proper beef (if there is one) is with porn directors, not with blowjobs. Personally, I think it all *looks *submissive 'cause we’re the innies, not the outies, if you know what I mean. Our bodies are meant to envelop and receive, not to penetrate. Emotions are a different matter.
And, uh…sorry if what I wrote earlier was too…graphic. I was sorta punchy on caffeine this afternoon!
Next time, call the feminists “Feminazis” and open it in the Pit.
I noticed no complaints, merely reactions:)
And here I thought I was the only one! 
I read stuff like that and I get new insight into the causes of lesbian bed death. Every sex act is a leap of faith by all parties, trusting that the other one won’t hurt them or make fun of them during what is a pretty vulnerable state of being. Men are pretty helpless during a BJ, and it strikes me as bizarre that some women can cavalierly categorize the BJ as inherently humiliating and insist that it puts a woman in a state of powerlessness. Are we talking about the same jaw and teeth that have no problem taking down a tough, overcooked steak here? Who’s got the power? Sorry for the reflexive twinges, guys, I’m just making a point, okay?
I’m sick of these condescending idiots telling us that we’re so brainwashed and manipulated by the patriarchy that we need an all wise matriarch to take over telling us what to do and think–meet the new boss, same as the old boss! :rolleyes:
Get outta my bed, ya bitches! I’m busy having sex here…
This is exactly what I think when some self-proclaimed feminist starts ordering women around in the name of feminism or empowerment. Um… aren’t those two ideas at the core expressly for freedom and against taking orders from those who claim to Know What’s Best?