OK, this is definitely TMI, but what the hell, right?
After my hysterectomy, my drive dropped significantly. But I found that if hubby and I were planning on some lovin’ that night, I could ‘jump start’ myself by thinking naughty thoughts throughout the day. I also have found, over the years, that even if I’m not ‘in the mood’ when we start, I’ll most likely catch up in five or ten minutes! 
It will obviously vary by woman, but I will second doing the dishes, vacuuming, and doing other nice things, especially those that are not your normal jobs.
Watch romantic movies with her.
Well, there’s George Hamilton Zorro and Antonio Banderas Zorro, you see.
There’s Anthony Hopkins Zorro, too.
Making my point for me. 
“Honey, you’re so sexy I could eat you right up. Where’s that Chianti…”
What’s that for?
Pineapple Juice. 60% of the time it works everytime.
After a really bad break-up several years ago (where my BF’s libido shut down for 18 months!), I discovered this site, Loveshack.
There seems to be an ongoing discussion from both men and women on why and how libidos shut down. Many involve marriage counselors and self-help books to investigate the problems. Many resort to having affairs because their partners have no interest in changing the status quo of the relationship.
In my case, I ended up breaking up with my boyfriend and have been single (and celibate, I’m sorry to say), ever since. Seems ironic to me that there are seemingly countless men in sexless marriages and a sex-pot like me can’t get a date…
If I heard that in real life I’d roll my eyes.
Check.
Check.
Check.
Didn’t work. Now what?
I can only take responsibility for my own decisions, and that was also the perspective asked for in the OP. My experience however is that doing what I talked about will also dramatically increase the interest of your partner. Humans tend towards reciprocation.
This is going to sound really ‘out there,’ I know, but how about sitting down and having a talk with your wife about your respective libidos?
I’ve combined the two threads and moved them to IMHO. Welcome to the board, Ladymarmalade, but in the future if you have a question please just post it to one forum.
That’s it. If it doesn’t work you’re either not doing it enough, not doing it well enough, or you have chosen the ‘wrong’ partner for you. I’d talk to her/him about it and if I didn’t see any improvement I’d ask myself if I am satisfied with the situation. If not, I’d change partner.
F here. Jeff Foxworthy has a bit about how women are like diesel engines. They take a while to get warmed up, but once they do, they can keep going for a long time.
He meant it in the short-term (ie for that evening) but I find it to be even more true in the long run. In other words, if I haven’t gotten physically turned on in a while (say, a week or so) then sex starts to recede in my mind. Then, it’s more difficult to get horny in the first place, and after a while, it’s not worth the bother. If I get it on all the time, then I want it all the time. My libido stays … more accessible, I guess.
I think in some instances people (not just women, but often women) just get out of the habit of sex. Use it or lose it seems to be pretty good advice, as is making dates for sex (it may not sound romantic, but it works), maintaining a respectful and loving partnership, non-sexual touch, shared responsibility, and good communication.
Well, have you checked out some of the posters in this thread?
To answer the OP - nothing works better than just trying to be a good husband.
Why?
Exercise increases my libido. A book or movie with a nice male lead that I want to sink my teeth into helps.
Oh, and if I don’t feel good about myself, I don’t feel like having sex. So it’s actually more about me than him.