I have been talking to a woman I met on the internet for the last several days, and we were supposed to meet at her place of business and go out for drinks tonight. I last talked to her Thursday night, she told me to meet me up there at 9:45, I said I’d be there.
I hadn’t talked to her Friday or today, as I’d been rather busy and she was never online when I did manage to get some free time. I got back from driving a friend home at 6:30 and immediately called her to confirm our plans.
She said she assumed since she hadn’t heard from me over the last couple of days that I changed my mind, and so she did not arrange to have someone cover for her tonight. I can go meet her at her work (a tattoo parlor) but she’s not going to be able to get out because she’s got a lot of work to do.
Now, I know it’s important to re-confirm dates a day or so ahead of time if the date was made a week or so before, but we planned this day before yesterday. I didn’t think that would be necessary as we had already planned a time and location, but was I wrong?
No, once the plans have been made, you don’t have to call except to change or cancel them, although a confirmation call is polite with a delay of over a week.
Sounds like she either (a) changed her mind or (b) is really, really clingy and assumed that if you really liked her, you’d call her every day. Don’t laugh. I used to be her roommate. Trust me, you’re happier not having made it to a date.
You were absolutely right - plans made a few days in advance do not require confirmation. More than a week, maybe, but even so if you planned a specific time it would be rude to cancel upon not hearing from you if you hadn’t necessarily said you’d call to confirm.