I know there’s a spinal chord somewhere, and the breasts are on the front.
Or, depending on your PoV -
http://www.sadtrombone.com/ with a shoulder shrug.
If Mike Skinner says it, that’s good enough for me.
Preening is for someone who wants to be noticed for their looks. I prefer to be noticed for other things.
I’ve heard women looking directly at you and smiling is another sign to look for, but when one does it to mean I sort of take a brain melt and end up in a little sizzling pool of goop on the floor.
But we have established that preening is often an unconscious gesture. It’s simply not the case that it indicates a preoccupation with physical appearance; preening gestures and wanting to be appreciated for one’s brains aren’t mutually exclusive.
And really, you’re COMPLETELY unconcerned with your looks? You don’t want your husband to think you’re physically attractive?
I can’t get my hands out of my hair. I have my fingers in my hair twirling almost non-stop. I can’t sleep without playing with my hair while I doze off. I love the way it feels, the texture of my hair, it is like a head massage, and it keeps my hair out of my way. Sometimes I braid & unbraid small pieces over & over again as I watch TV. While at work, when I am deep in thought, a lock is twisting through my fingers. I LOVE it when someone else plays with my hair. It is probably the most relaxing gentle touch someone could do to me.
I don’t think it has anything to do with preening for me, although it may be for others. When I was little as I was falling asleep my mom used to touch my hair, and I think for me, I have associated that touch with relaxation, so as I relax, or when I wish to relax, my hands go in my hair.
I don’t think I said I was “COMPLETELY unconcerned” with my looks, I believe what I said was that I prefer to be noticed for something else. As far as my husband is concerned, he loved me when I weighed 350 lbs and he loves me at 130 lbs – does he sound like his attraction to me is about looks?
Some women play with their hair, some women look directly at you and return your smile, some look and glance away directly as soon as your eyes meet, but then look at you again when you’re not looking. Others change the angle of their heads, by slightly turning away or bringing their chins in and to the side.
The difference between having sex with 15 women in your life and 150 is reading the signs. (And wanting to, of course.) Watching other people interact at bars, looking a thereactions and seeing the results is a good way to start understanding how it works.
It was fun but I’m happy to have graduated from the bar scene. I’ll take a happy marriage anyway.
I probably play with my hair when I’m around guys I’m attracted to. But it’s also long and wavy, so I’m forever trying to get stray curls back behind my ears after they’ve escaped, too - so it’s not a sure sign. Unlike say, not minding at all when he invades my personal space, or taking the opportunity to lean in closer when he shows me something.
Yes. It is what people in the pickup community call* an IOI (Indicator of Interest).
And even more powerful indicator is when they play with your hair.
- My girlfiend and I watched The Pickup Artist on VH1
My hair gets in my face. Or I need to distract myself from my current train of thought. I don’t think I’ve ever deliberately floofed my hair in an attempt to snare yon bright gallant. Or if I have, it was done as a consicous OTT parody of the act. “Oh, la, sir! Won’t you come and sweep me off my feet, up up and awaaaayyyy?”
I do. I love my hair, I play with it constantly. It feels good.
When I’m attracted to a man, I play with my nipples. I’m not big with the coy. 
Video?
There is a woman in my office and when I walk by her office, she is usually looking intently at her monitor and has a long bunch of hair in her hand and she is kissing it.
It drives me crazy.
This is me.
I watched one or two of those types of shows in the UK, seemed strange to approach love with such a technical point of view.
One fellow showed up on a related show who basically had a shag every night, he had trouble figuring out if that was good or bad.
I often play with my hair when I am attracted to someone. It’s a subconscious quirk, which is unfortunate, because it’s my nose hair.
Regards,
Shodan
I’ve formed the opinion that it can happen for a couple of reasons.
The first is that the woman is interested in your opinion of her, whether or not she intends to act on that information. And because she really isn’t interested in the opinions of men that she finds unattractive, she will only do it to those that are of interest to her. It is a gesture that attracts attention and eye contact. She may be interested in getting to know you, or merely reinforcing her own self image - seeing whether she “still has it”.
The second is when a woman may have been looking at you, but is disconcerted or nonplussed when eye contact is returned. It is an unconscious and nervous gesture when temporarily wondering what to do next.
I will get the second type in stop-and-go traffic sometimes. I’ll be behind a car, look up at the rear view mirror of the car in front of me to see the driver looking back at me. If it is a woman, I can usually count on her starting to play with her hair. I don’t read anything more into that than idle curiosity during a boring commute.
I never realized that I did it until a guy that I dated from my part time job pointed it out. There was a lot of nervous tension right before he asked for my number and I remember wanting to do something with my hands… He told me months later, while we were all standing in that room with another co-worker during that awkward time, I took my hair down from my pony tail and put it back up 5 or 6 within a 15 minute period.
I don’t remember that.