I’ve only recently grown a somewhat scraggly beard. I think I’ll keep it through the Fall, but one thing bothers me. I seem compelled to play with it. Not just when I’m thinking or daydreaming, but almost constantly… compulsively.
I’M PLAYING WITH IT RIGHT NOW!
I find little tufts or places where it’s longer or curlier or straighter or more brittle… I find little bald spots and scars buried inside… I tug it and brush it—sometimes with the grain, sometimes against…
Is this normal? Is it just the newness of the experience? Will I get over it?
I don’t have facial hair now, but I have in the past, and as I recall I did quite often absent-mindedly play with it. I’m also the type of person who is *constantly *tapping my foot, drumming my fingers, etc., so I suspect that was a manifestation of the same type of behavior.
It’s a long-time habit: I started by playing with the hair on my head, usually a curl on just above my right eye. When I grew a mustache (which I was able to do when I was 18), I switched to that.
I no longer wear a beard, but I have for most of my adult life, and I did play with it all the time. When I was by myself, I would even comb it, against the grain and then back down again. I found it soothing. What that might say about me I would rather not know.
If you count tugging at my goatee when it gets too long, yes. That’s how I know it’s time to go get a trim. I generally keep it quite short because I don’t like the way it grows out.
When I am thinking, I place my thumb and index finger over my mustache, starting just below my nose, and spread my index finger and thumb apart, gliding over my mustache hair…if I feel a little evil, I actually start twisting my mustache hair on the end just like this guy.
I play with it in meetings; thoughtful stroking. It shows everyone how smart I am.
I grew my goatee in the first place due to a bargain with a former girlfriend. Her end of the deal was that she had to shave something off. It wasn’t long before she grew it back, though, because *she *missed being able to play with it!