Do [i]any[/i] females not find asian males distasteful?

[badmana]

Being an asian male I do see the disparity between asian men dating caucasian girls and a caucasian male with asian females.

I’ve been in situations where the girl I was attracted to (back in my teenage years) wasn’t attracted to me in a physical sense (she wanted to remain good friends). It’s rather annoying but I look back and I can understand the reasons why.

I don’t believe it’s racism or bias but rather, the physical nature of asian men. We’re not particularly tall and hairy so that immediately slashes the available women who want us. I’m only 5’5" while the women I’m attracted to (Italians and typical “white” girls) are usually in the 5"6’ - 5"10’ range and so dating them is usually not an option.

I have a good lady friend who’s very attracted to Russel Wong mostly due to his height and build. She’s taller that I am though and doesn’t find me suitable for dating (although in a semi-joking manner she wants to have my kids and have me raise them because I (apparently) have good “father” skills).

Thankfully I’ve found my dream girl (who’s Bulgarian) so I no longer have to care so much about it though

[bordelond]

My Caucasian wife thinks Daniel Dae Kim is hot … but she really fancies TV chef Ming Tsai. Take that for what it’s worth.

[nevermore]

I don’t like any of the Asian guys mentioned thus far, but check out Toshiro Mifune (in his youth), with and without beard.
Now there’s a real Asian man!!

[nevermore]

Sorry to re-post so immediately…I forgot to mention, kathij, tell your husband he’s DAMN right about Ichiro Suzuki!!! (And give him my thanks for bringing that to my attention :D)

[Tars_Tarkas]

*Originally posted by JThunder *
Look, it boils down to this. There are a good number of Asian actresses who are widely and primarily recognized as sex symbols and/or romantic leading ladies. There are also a good number of Asian female models, who are objects of sexual desire practically by fiat. In contrast, there are few – if any – Asian actors who are widely and primarily regarded as sex symbols or romantic leads. Sure, there are people like you who think they’re sexy, but one seldom hears them being lauded that way in the mdeia.

I think part of this is there just isn’t a big number of Asian male actors. There is still some parental pressure on the males to become doctors and lawyers, while the women get more leway. there does appear to be more asian men entering acting, and movies like Batter Luck Tomorrow will probably inspire more. In a few years there will probably be much less disparity. Also, female actors get cycled through alot faster than male leads, who keep showing up into their fifties, while many actresses suddenly have a huge drop in roles in their late 30s. So by having a higher turnover they will show up before the men.

I’ll grant that there are women who find Jackie Chan and Garrett Wang to be dreamy. One seldom hears them being regarded that way though, whereas the likes of Russell Crowe, Ben Affleck, Tom Cruise, Freddie Prinze Jr., Matthew Perry, Matt LeBlanc, Leo DiCaprio, James Marsters and David Boreanaz are routinely treated in that regard – and that’s just naming a few.

Who is David Boreanaz? And Jackie has a lot of female fans, Garrett Wang probably would if he was more famous, but there are plenty of women who like him (Kim was constantly mentioned by women i know as their favorite Voyager character)

BTW, ladies, Daniel Dae Kim is supposed to show up sometime this season on Enterprise as one of their new commando characters.

[Cyn]

Somewhere in LA there dwells a man, 2nd generation Chinese…6 feet tall, inky black hair, who taught me the meaning of the word lust.
I had a 5 year crush, ages 16 to 21…this guy was so hot.
20 years later, I just might be over him, but there’s still something about the inky black hair that will still cause me to sigh…

So, yes, I find Asian men attractive.

[JThunder]

*Originally posted by Lamar Mundane *
**Well, you said to be completely honest…

This is one of those questions that you get one answer for if you ask it in print and anonymously, and quite a different one if you just look around you. I think that Giggle Gaggle, while a first class moron, actually gave you answers that more reflect the views of Americans in general, except without all the hate involved. **

Exactly my point. In a thread like this, just about the only female respondents will be those who (a) are attracted to Asian men, or (b) will give a trite, inconclusive response such as “It depends on the person.” It’s like asking people if they think blacks are less likable than whites. While there are doubtlessly many who think that way, they are unlikely to verbalize this even under the cloak of anonymity.

Indeed, the most compelling evidence is the great disparity between WM/AF and AM/WF relationships. Not for one moment do I think that this is mainly because Asian men generally don’t find white women attractive. I’ve yet to see any evidence of that, and I’ve seen plenty of evidence to the contrary.

[wonky]

*Originally posted by JThunder *
**Indeed, the most compelling evidence is the great disparity between WM/AF and AM/WF relationships. Not for one moment do I think that this is mainly because Asian men generally don’t find white women attractive. I’ve yet to see any evidence of that, and I’ve seen plenty of evidence to the contrary. **

What would you consider evidence? The relationship evidence could point either way (or both, or neither).

Julie

[kimera]

*Originally posted by JThunder *
**Indeed, the most compelling evidence is the great disparity between WM/AF and AM/WF relationships. Not for one moment do I think that this is mainly because Asian men generally don’t find white women attractive. I’ve yet to see any evidence of that, and I’ve seen plenty of evidence to the contrary. **

I’m telling ya, it’s the other way around.

I know more white girls interested in dating Asian men than Asian men dating white girls. Asian men want to fool around with them, sure, but long term relationships - those are harder to find.

There is more support among the white community for white girls to date asian guys then there is in the Asian community. (At least among koreans/japanese.) My boyfriend and I went with his family to a resturant in downtown Korea town and we were given looks constantly. Walking around in the “whiter” areas, people don’t give us a second glance. Also, while I am from a conversative white family and area in Ohio, none of my family members had anything negative to say about my boyfriend’s race. His parents prefered he date an Asian girl.

I talked with several of my friends about this issue and other points that were brought up

1. Apparently more Asian females study abroad than Asian males.

2. Among college age girls, “half babies” are considered pretty. This shocked me, but my friend who has studied in Japan for several years swore it was true. Maybe just where she was though?

3. More than a few Asian men will keep both an American girlfriend and a girlfriend “back home.” Many girls reported having a guy (in all cases, they were Japanese) be completely devoted to them while he was here studying, but as soon as he returned home, they were cast aside.

[lilbtagna]

nevermore, seems you and I both have crushes on Toshiro Mifune.

[delphica]

I have (or that should be “had,” in my single days) a real thing for Asian men. I was tempted to be a little more lukewarm, and say something bland like “I’d consider dating anyone if they had a good personality” but JThunder’s posts rather goaded me (in a good way) into coming right out and saying that in a room full of guys, I will definitely give an Asian man a second glance right away (and usually a third glance on the sly).

(Of course, in these, my married days, I’m only glancing, not dating!)

I think this attraction goes back even further than my main high school crush, on a guy who was Asian, and we were friends, but he didn’t like me “that way.” Instead I spent long hours consoling him over his crush on this stupid ice queen in our homeroom who was snotty and two-faced and obviously not good enough for my friend. Wait, was that my outloud voice? Ah, the bliss that was high school.

Anyway, in college I did date another Asian guy, although that relationship ended badly. Lest anyone think I’m stalking Asian guys, I also had terrible relationships with men of all different races.

I do recall that I noticed some strange attitudes from other women when I was dating this person – everyone commented on his great personality (which is true, he was a good guy), and only rarely did someone mention how good looking he was. Not that I expect people to judge others only on their looks, but I think there’s a general notion that when you say nice things about someone else’s boyfriend in a conversational way, you might mention that he is handsome, smart, and has a good personality. With this guy, people tended to only point out the smarts and personality, and believe me, he was HOT. HOT HOT HOT.

Oh, FTR, I am white, if anyone is keeping track.

[lilbtagna]

*Originally posted by JThunder *
**Indeed, the most compelling evidence is the great disparity between WM/AF and AM/WF relationships. Not for one moment do I think that this is mainly because Asian men generally don’t find white women attractive. I’ve yet to see any evidence of that, and I’ve seen plenty of evidence to the contrary. **

This is a difficult point to address because I don’t know what kind of hard evidence anyone can offer to show you that Asian men don’t find white women attractive. Of all the Asian guys I know, only one has ever shown any real interest in white women. Of course, I’ve heard all of them talk about how hot Britney Spears is, how gorgeous Jennifer Love Hewitt is, or whoever their flavor of the month is, but they just don’t seem to consider white women to be good dating material.

The one guy who showed interest in white women ONLY dated white women until his most recent girlfriend. This was largely due to attending a school with very, very few other Asians.

*Originally posted by ava *
**I know more white girls interested in dating Asian men than Asian men dating white girls. Asian men want to fool around with them, sure, but long term relationships - those are harder to find. **

Based on my experiences, I have to agree that Asian men seem to just like fooling around with white women. In the cases of the guys I know, the guys were all-around jerks anyway and treated all women poorly, or their parents wouldn’t approve of interracial relationships. So even if they were attracted to white women, they didn’t do anything about it.

None of the women I know have any problems with Asian men. I know it’s an inconclusive answer, but it really does depend on the individual. I’ve seen plenty of girls with active interests in my Asian male friends, but if the attraction isn’t returned, nothing more comes out of it.

Also, I have to add Vern Yip to the growing list of hot Asian men.

[StGermain]

All these responses and no one has mentioned *Trading Spaces’ * [[URL=http://tlc.discovery.com/fansites/tradingspaces/bio/bio_10.htmlVern Yip ??? My word, that man is sexy and he has taste.

I’ve often thought Asian, Hispanic and American Indian men are extremely attractive.

StG

[StGermain]

All these responses and no one has mentioned *Trading Spaces’ * Vern Yip ??? My word, that man is sexy and he has taste.

I’ve often thought Asian, Hispanic and American Indian men are extremely attractive.

StG

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[Incubus]

A female friend of mine is only into Asian guys. Ironically, the relationships she’s had with them have all been sour. I’ve had a crush on her for years, but I know nothing will come of it when she’s looking at the Asian guys.

[Rabid_Squirrel]

From lilbtagna
The one guy who showed interest in white women ONLY dated white women until his most recent girlfriend. This was largely due to attending a school with very, very few other Asians.

I think it has a lot to do with cultural conditioning as well, but I can relate to the lack of Asian interested in dating. In my hometown there were zero asian women between 15-30, nevermind about asian women my own age. It wasn’t until uni that I saw more than 10 asians in the same room on a regular basis.

[lilbtagna]

Sigh…

Thank you Rabid_Squirrel for noticing that I was here. Twice now, I have posted links to pictures of Toshiro Mifune and Vern Yip, only to have another poster come in and say she can’t believe no one’s mentioned them yet.

[CanvasShoes]

I have found asian men physically attractive before, as in, "he’s cute, and has a cute personality, but they were ones who already fit my “shopping list” of teddy bearish, large and cuddly men with boisterous boyish personalities. And it wasn’t a sexual attraction, more of an “awww, he’s a sweetheart”.

It’s not that I’m “turned off” or whatever, I just don’t “see them” as a sexual possibility if that makes sense.

Not even the exceptionally cute ones like Jackie Chan. It’s not a conscious “oh, his ‘type’ doesn’t turn me on” either, it’s as if, they don’t even cross my radar screen.

I’m sorry I can’t help further, I have no idea why this would be. I’m not ruling out the possibility that I wouldn’t ever be sexually attracted to an asian man, it just hasn’t happened YET.

[Laurasia]

I had a big crush on an Asian guy in high school (who had the coolest hair in the world!). Asian guys can pull off some cool style that no one else can. I’m a fan of the funky, cool, stylish Asian guys in my neighborhood too (I live in a mostly Chinese neighborhood). I’ve never dated an Asian man though…mainly due to the fact that I’ve been dating the same guy since high school though, so I haven’t dated many guys ever.

[Violet]

*Originally posted by non-native *
**Think of the asian males you personally know, not celebrities. Would you consider dating them? Find them even remotely sexually appealing? Would you not consider dating someone because he was asian? Do you even consider dating asian guys in the first place?
**

Yes.
Yes.
No.
Yes. Have.