If it’s okay for a (white) gay male to chime in, I’d just like to say that there was really only one asian male I’ve found attractive, and that otherwise they just don’t seem to be my type.
I tend to be attracted to white guys almost exclusively (when it comes to pure physical attraction, anyway). Not sure why, that’s just how it is.
Hey, lilbtagna, sorry about the oversight! I was paying too much attention to the first part of your post when you mentioned Toshiro Mifune—also, I didn’t know his name until I did a search on him this afternoon; before then I only knew him as the sexy bandit from Rashomon. Anyhow, I must say your taste in men is superb. 
I know exactly what you mean.
I can be attracted to them and all, and might even venture to comment on it occasionally, but it’s as though my mind just won’t let me think about it further than that, in terms of dating and relationships and such. It’s almost identical to the feeling I get when I look at an attractive gay guy—it’s like, oh, that’s nice, but I can’t have it, so…hey, who’s that over there?
This is partially because it’s really not such a stretch what ava was saying earlier. I mean, I go to school with a LOT of Asian people, and have classes where the ratio is damn near 50/50, but I’ve never been so much as given the once-over by an Asian guy, much less approached, and I think I’m pretty decent-looking (at least in comparison to some of the girls I see them dating). I have ONE white friend who has dated an Asian guy, and he dumped her like leftover meatloaf when a Korean girl started displaying some interest. I also have a half-Japanese friend (criminally gorgeous) who dates nothing but white girls, and treats them all like shit. Many Asian guys have a pretty major superiority complex, and I can’t speak for other Asians but I know with the Japanese it has to do with ideas of homogeneity and uniqueness of the race having been passed down for centuries—they don’t want foreigners “polluting” their bloodlines—and I suspect something similar (but probably more subtle) might be the case for other Asian ethnicities.
Possibly so, but hey, we’re not required to say they are bad people, or they couldn’t be our friends, just that we’re not attracted.
I don’t think there should be any stigma in saying “I’m not attracted to X physical type” - as long as you leave it as your own personal hormonal quirkiness and draw no moral message.
In my case I’d have to say my tastes run to slighter men, slender & androgynous, hence SE Asian guys can look really gorgeous to me. The bigger and broader faced Northern Chinese and Mongolian types, no. Also I don’t like Indians in general; not sure why but maybe some bad childhood experiences. And i don’t generally fancy musclemen of any race. Big but graceful & lanky black men are nice (Joel Garner from the 1980s Windies cricket team - mmm, mmm.)
So there. I am now exposed as a bigot. Flame away!
Interestingly enough, in the “If you could have sex with one celebrity…” thread, Zhang Ziyi, Michelle Kwan and Kristen Kreuk have all been mentioned, whereas not a single Asian male made the list.
I think this demonstrates that Lamar Mundane was right. If you directly ask women if they’re be attracted to Asian men, you get one set of results. However, if you discreetly observe their interests instead, without broaching the subject of ethnicity, you get a very different set of answers. It all boils down to what the populace is willing to admit when put on the spot regarding racial differences.
Doubtfully. That thread asks for specific people, while this thread asks about a general group of people. Again, the lack of Asian male stars here in the US is more likely a culprit than a general distaste of Asian males in general. You are close but not quite there.
an anomysis poll (Lord is that spelled wrong!) would give a more accurate result, someone should ask the mods to set one up, in the name of eliminating ignorance or something.
also, Shirley Ujest lists Jackie Chan (i am assuming that is a woman), Wintermute mentioned Keanu Reeves (part Japanese). (again, assuming she’s a chick)
JThunder, while I do think that Asian men are not on all women’s “hotness radar,” I don’t think that if they were more aware of hot Asian men (like, say, more Asian men were given romantic lead rolls in movies) then that would change.
I also have to agree with those here who have noticed that a certain percentage of Asian men aren’t interested in caucasian women, or at least not seriously. I remember my sister telling me about her college boyfriend’s (now her husband) roommate: he was one of several Asian men at the college, and there was only one Asian girl. So what did all the Asian guys do? Chase after that one girl. My sister was a little confused by this. It didn’t seem to be a matter of the Asian guys being rebuffed by the caucasian girls, or that the caucasian girls (well, at least not all of them) would have refused to date the Asian guys. The impression my sister was getting was that the Asian guys simply refused to consider anyone else other than the sole Asian girl at the college. I believe that her boyfriend (now husband) told her that his roomate (one of the Asian guys) would only want to date Asian girls. That’s just how it was.
Then again, in my college, I did see Asian men/caucasian women together, and didn’t think much of it. But what my sister told me did make an impression on me, I admit. I figured that it was unusual to see Asian male/caucasian female pairings was because the men just weren’t interested. (And true, often that the women weren’t either—we’ve already established that pretty well.)
I considered that, but I don’t think that theory flies. If there were a huge disparity between the number of male Asian actors and the number of female Asian actors, then that’d be plausible. I can name about as many Asian actors and I can Asian actresses – possibly more, due to the male action stars – so if there’s any disparity, I daresay that it’s quite small.
Thanks for pointing out that Jackie Chan was mentioned, as I obviously missed him in the listing. Still, he’s the only Asian male in the entire bunch. (I would not count Keanu Reeves in that group, as he is half-English, half-Hawaiian. While his Hawaiian heritage includes some Chinese blood, this still makes him less than half-Asian at best, and probably quite a bit less.)
I just realized that I made a big error in my previous post. It should read:
“JThunder, while I do think that Asian men are not on all women’s “hotness radar,” I do think that if they were more aware of hot Asian men (like, say, more Asian men were given romantic lead rolls in movies) then that would change.”
Yeesh. I’m slow on the uptake.
Ahem. Well. Since you’re getting self-deprecating, there’s something I noticed… in the last day or so, if I recall you have had several incidents where misreading caused misunderstandings you had to apologize for. I hope I don’t offend you, but maybe you should slow down a little bit when you read, you won’t have to post so many apologies.
I am married to a man of european descent. That came as a bit of a surprise to me, when we met and fell in love. Because although I’m obviously open to relationships regardless of race, at a primal, knee-wobbling, gut level, it’s men (and some women, but mostly the men) of Asian heritage or appearance that really really attract me. Yes, I’ve dated a couple, but then I met my husband over the internet where appearances don’t count, and we fell in love, and there you are. Given that I didn’t date much at all at any time, men of asian descent make up about 45% of my dating history. I’m not terribly proud of apparently being so biased toward one set of physical characteristics being attractive, but there it is.
Oh yes - we watch a lot of Hong Kong movies because that’s where the hotties are. Heh.
To those who aren’t sure about their “arbitrary” yet popular sexual tastes, it’s the media (as cliched as that sounds). If magazines and ads can dictate our favorite outfits and hairstyles, which change violently from one era to another, they can tell us our favorite attributes in a mate (white).
Good God…You know I should know better than to even read a thread that mentions race because they spawn bigotry and racist remarks and they always end up irritating me.
To begin with, race has nothing to do with penis size. Caucasions and (gasp) even black men can have small penis’ hispanic’s and asian’s can have big one’s ya’ never know 'til it pops up and greets you. I have no real proof but it’s just a guess that Yao Ming might not have a teeny weenie.
Now on to the question at hand. I hate classifying any one group as an all or noting. There are unattractive asians and attractive asians. Of course there are the irritating little pencil necks that Jerry Lewis portrayed back inthe 50s, but I think there are some really hot Asians too. I worked with this one guy who was just amazing…He was Filipino and dressed like a freakin’ fashion model, creamy skin, high cheek bones, perfect body.
One of the bachelors on that Cupid reality show was pretty amazing too. I think Asian men are attractive in the same ratio as any other race.
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I suppose we never established whether this one was about Asians as people from the whole continent of Asia, or southeast Asians… I happen to be of Indian heritage and I’ve fbeen able to make several observations about white women and their attitude toward me…
-When I was younger and lived in England, white women didn’t like me, but that was because I was scrawny and a geek- no women found me attractive
-I’m still scrawny, and still a geek, but now I have much better skin tone and my eyes are no longer so freakishly outsized that I get mistaken for ET; white women like me.
-I don’t look particularly Indian… if anything, I look more like, say, a dark Lebanese person.
I thought this thread was rather pointless (having never heard of nor met a girl who wouldn’t date an Asian) until it occurred to me that I very very rarely find black women attractive. On the few occasions I have (think Beyonce and Aaliyah) they had straightened or naturally straight hair- I don’t find curly hair attractive on women of any ethnicity. I also simply find lighter skin than mine attractive.
Well, I’m caucasian and married to a chinese man. I happen to find him very “tasteful”.
I don’t have a “thing” for asian men and I didn’t date him because he was chinese. He was just the guy I feel in love with. …ug…too sappy…
And I have to say that caucasian/chinese children are just so beautiful!
This right here might be part of it, I’m not sure though, because unlike nevermore here, I’ve not had the opportunity to go to school with, or work with very many asian people.
But those that I have worked with or around, just didn’t give off those “types of vibes”. At least not that I could have picked up. Perhaps that’s part of it? That asian men are attracted, but don’t send signals that we “silly” American girls recognize?
I’m not sure.
I’ll have to second the “{asian}/caucasian children” thing. I have an aunt who is Korean, she married my mom’s brother when they met in Korea when he was stationed there.
My cousins (from that marriage) are all drop dead gorgeous! (and I “hate” the girls :D).
Was he purebred Filipino? I hate to say it, but if he had creamy skin, high cheek bones and looked like a fashion model, then he was probably of the mestizo variety – that is, partially Filipino, but with a large amount of Caucasian blood in him.
Mmm… Filipino…
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Dated a Korean guy in college (that would be twenty years ago).
So I guess that would be no for me - not distasteful. (However, they guy was EXTRAORDINARILY needy - so it really didn’t matter what he looked like).
I DO think Asian guys have it rough - they really are not seen as sexy (although they really can be) and have a lot of stereotypes to overcome. There aren’t many Asian guys in the media (although that is changing with Hong Kong actors getting roles). Do they have it any rougher than overweight guys, or guys with bad skin, or guys with bright red hair, probably not. Quite honestly, my husband looks somewhat less like Brad Pitt than I would like, despite not being Asian - there are possibly countless Asian guys that look more like Brad Pitt than my husband - who has the advantage of being white, but that’s about all he has in common with “hot sexy celebrity.” (Hubby does look like Oliver Platt).