Do [i]any[/i] females not find asian males distasteful?

In My Humble Opinion
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I’m not offended. And yeah, I’ve noticed I’ve made a few blunders lately. I guess I need to get more sleep. :wink:

To be honest, though, I am not all that upset about it. I’d rather be the one catching my mistakes and freely apologizing for them than the one who willfully ignores the apologies because they are too happy to have caught someone else in a “mistake.” (Obviously I’m not talking about anyone on this thread.)

In a nutshell, we all make mistakes, and there’s no shame in that as long as we own up to them. It’s the refusing to acknowledge the mistakes (or refusing to acknowledge that someone else apologized for a mistake, and continuing to beat them up over it) that is the problem. In my opinion.

Getting back to the OP— Some women here have said that they would have gladly gone out with certain Asian guys they met, but the guys wouldn’t give them the time of day. Or, the guys were not “serious” about any relationship with a non-Asian girl. Obviously not all Asian guys are like this, but if a girl encounters enough Asian guys who aren’t interested, sooner or later she’ll just stop looking at Asian guys like that. It’s too bad, because obviously (as this thread testifies) there are plenty of Asian guys who would be interested in a “serious” relationship.

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I rate people on an individual basis, I don’t think I’ve ever considered rating guys by race.

That would just be stupid.

Some people are attractive to me, some aren’t, it has absolutely nothing to do with race.

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You know I didn’t ask for his pedigree. Do you know why? It wasn’t important to me. I’m thinking you might have gotten the wrong impression when I said “creamy” skin. I didn’t mean sreamy as in White. He was definitely creamy caramel color which is my preference anyway. He had black hair and dark eyes and yes he did have high wide set cheek bones. I know he was born in the Philipines and spoke the language…who his ancestors were, I don’t know (or care).

My own ancestors are all mixed up so I am certainly not one to judge others…anyone here “pure bred” anything?

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Well, I’m 100% Vietnamese, and I know several others like me.

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There’s a japanese male who works in my organization and he’s a major hottie. He’s about 6 feet tall, beautiful face, and a great personality. He’s married to a very pretty white woman, and she’s pregnant. Everyone can’t wait until the baby’s born, cause this kid’s gonna be gorgeous with the genes he/she gets from both parents.

[Hijack]Excuse me for being ignorant, but how many asians are there with very light skin, hair, eyes, etc.? Has anyone every seen a naturally blonde asian? I’ve been wondering about this ever since this thread started.[/hijack].

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I have seen Asians with naturally light brown hair, but never blond. You can have various shades of brown in the eyes (mine is of the lighter ilk) and skin as well. In general, I think those of the north are predictably lighter skinned than in the south but that could have to do with just sun exposure.

Many people have mentioned Chow Yun-Fat as major eye candy (count me as one of them). In Asia, he’s more of a romantic/dramatic leading man than he is the guy with 2 guns in John Woo flicks. Here, though, he seems to only get packaged and marketed as the action adventure guy. I’m sure that his English language skills have something to do with it, but I get the feeling that in Hollywood, Asian male = martial arts/crime boss.

I’m going to put this out there and just deal with the criticisms. Right or wrong, I think media has a lot to do with what people think is or is not attractive. Granted, not all celebrities are attractive, but I can’t tell you how many times I see someone famous who is really not that physically attractive. But because s/he is famous, weird looking = exotic, scrawny = willlowy. The guy in the office next to me is probably better looking than a good 80% of the men I see in magazines (sorry, he’s married). Anyway, here’s my abbreviated theory:

Hollywood/Media tends to be run by white males. If they are going to push someone into celebrity, it’ll probably be someone they find attractive, and (sorry) casting aside the gay population here, it will be the females of any race, but especially caucasians. Because Asian females are seen as exotic (not in the funky looking sense) they’re going to get attention, too, especially if they fit the stereotypical Asian look (slight build, slanty eyes, long black hair). To appeal to the girls and women who buy magazines and see movies, they will push the white males because that’s the demographic. Unfortunately, Asian males probably have not gotten their due because they are not as “marketable.” Yet. Asians are finally getting to the point where they are diversifying their careers and skill sets beyond the sciences, where you could get around less than fluent language skills because you could rely on experiments and equations.

Oh yeah – Eurasian kids? Most of them are just gorgeous. Submitted for your approval: Phoebe Cates, Dean Cain, Keanu Reeves, Tia Carrera, Kristin Kreuk.

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First of all, I didn’t read this whole thread, and I’m pressed for time so I am not GOING to read it right now. [sub]Please forgive me if I have completely missed whatever point is being made at this time?[/sub] BUT…I had to chime in and say that I fell in love with George Chakiris when I saw the movie “Diamond Head”. I thought he was Asian at the time, but then I saw “West Side Story” …and there he WAS!!!..and he was being all…Hispanic. To tell you the truth, I didn’t give a rip WHAT culture he came from…I just dreamed about him, fantasized about him, and thought dark thoughts about Yvette Mimieux because SHE HAD HIM AND I DIDN’T!!! Of course, I was extremely young at the time, and wouldn’t have known what to do with him if I HAD him, but still…I combed the listings of the station in our town that played old movies for those two gems. “Sigh”

You know, I always thought he was of Polynesian descent (that’s Asian, right? or not?) but before I replied to this thread I googled and guess what…HE WAS GREEK!~ :rolleyes: [sub] I am so disallusioned. [/sub]

Anyway, this should illustrate my point, which is that a person is attractive. To ME. Or not. To ME. They are an attractive PERSON, or they aren’t. What does their race have to do with anything? Personally, I think I’d like to take tea and talk about life with Kevin Costner. Evidently I am in the minority, since he is a sex symbol. I can’t SEE it. [sub]Or FEEL it, either…[/sub]

Then, in 11th grade I fell in love with Jerry Warren. He was Korean. He went to WWU, the resident university in my town. No one in my family said anything to me, in fact NO ONE said anything to me…about any reason I SHOULDN’T be in love with Jerry. ANYWAY…

So I just thought I’d say, Jerry was ONE HOT MAN. I wonder what ever happened to him? Oh, I should explain…we broke up because he liked to smoke dope and I…didn’t (don’t). It put a cramp in my social life when I would pick him up for a date, ( he was in university, he lived in the dorm, he didn’t have a car) sometimes with friends or family, and he smelled like pot. I didn’t like that, and I wasn’t “shy” about saying so. (I was young and stupid, and I thought all I had to do was tell him to stop…can you believe that?) All of this came to a head when we were going to go to my Junior Prom, and I informed him that he could NOT, under ANY circumstances, smoke pot before my Junior Prom. (This despite the fact that pot was not exactly unknown in my high school.) He took offence, and he found someone who was a tad bit more accepting of his hobby.

Still, he was a VERY attractive man.

Probably, he still IS.

Who in the Sam Hill CARES where you come from? You are either attractive to someone else, or you are not. And I don’t personally believe that ethnicity has as much to do with it as sense of humor, smile, eyes and (I’m ashamed to admit it) whatever body parts you have a “thing” for. And I am talking about the parts you can see when a person is at least partially clothed, so don’t be a perv. :smiley: [sub]personally, I am a upper body person. Give me a guy with well developed shoulders and pecs and stuff, you know? [/sub]

PS…I just googled Jerry Warren, and the only thing I got was some guy from the '40’s. I am sure he was a wonderful person, and all, but I am not THAT old!!!

So, I guess I find Asian men attractive, just as much as I find any OTHER men attractive. [sub]Took me a lot of words to say that, didn’t it? Hee…[/sub] It is the MAN, not the race. One’s ethnic origin has pretty much nothing to do with anything.

IMHO, that is.

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I dont think being asian, or not, makes any difference as long as the asian man has the same tastes, in food, politics, interests, pets, womens rights, etc. and of course is taller than the american woman.

The “deal breakers” are not what particular country someone/anyone comes from, or what country his grandfather came from. Deal breakers come in when there are great differences in the rights of women and how to treat them, music, food, entertainment, religion, balance between work and play, similar interests like baseball, hunting, square dancing, polka dancing, music, abortion, vacationing, liberal/conservative, do they like cats, etc.

If asian men are as varied in their attritbutes/lifestyles as are american women, then finding a match should not be any harder than anyone else.

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Single white female here. Have lusted after many an Asian guy. Never even considered the idea that there might be something undesirable about dating one. All the Asian men I’ve known (admittedly, Asian-American) have been sensitive and laid-back. None of them have been misogynist. In fact, I’ve often thought of Asian men as treating women better, not worse, than average.

My (also white) cousin married a guy who is half Chinese. He’s a catch–good-looking, smart, fun to be around. I’ve often thought that of all my cousins, she picked the best, marriage-wise. I don’t think it’s necessarily because he’s part Asian, but there you go.

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Remember… Love is blind.

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Granted, it wasn’t a Hollywood film, but he made me cry in “Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon,” as did Michelle Yeoh. :frowning:

Oh, as if there aren’t any gay men in Hollywood! :stuck_out_tongue: It’s more likely there just aren’t enough rice queens like me. :wink:

Esprix

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Okay I havent read this whole thread so maybe I am not qualified to answer but I am gonna do it anyway!

  1. Depends on the male… asian or any other ethnic group

  2. I like dark complexions but see number 1

  3. not nearly as distateful or plain taststeless as I find the originator of this thread

  4. depends on the guy…

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I stand corrected, perhaps it is only westerners who are such mutts. I am hispanic and celtic myself and I don’t know all that many people who can say they are full blooded anything. Most people only know there heritage back a few generations.

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Are there any more asians (male or female) who’d like to chime in on whether or not they prefer white partners or other asians?

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I don’t have a preference for a race, but I do have a preference for a lovable, nice, smart, funny, and attractive man. It just so happens that my boyfriend of two and a half years is white.

I didn’t go out and purposefully look for a white boyfriend, nor did I decide one day that I’ll never date an Asian again because of one bad experience. I think people who limit themselves to one or two races are missing out on meeting many great individuals.

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Straight guy here with a spoon to stir things up. Yosemitebabe brought up the dearth of leading roles in Hollywood for Asian men. Even now we are only beginning to see films starring Hispanic leading men, and that due to concerted effort by those actors/producers. I guess it’s because Hollywood only knows how to market prepackaged formulas; Asian guy = martial arts movie, at least in the minds of the HW geniuses.

But on to my addition before I back out here and observe again: we don’t even see Asian men on the news programs, for the most part. At least here in Seattle, with the so-called integrated Asian population mentioned earlier in the thread, there are about 4 or 5 Asian women on the news teams for every Asian man. It seems as if the cute Asian girl correspondent is de rigeur for local news. Is this similar to trends around the country? Is this also a failure on the part of the media to present a balanced cross-section of the news-watching population?

FISH

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There are some male Asian reporters on the LA news. Ted Chen is the first name that comes to mind. I think there might be some more. Can’t remember them now.

But sure, there are more Asian female reporters, as a general rule.

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I tend to prefer white women, but that’s mostly due to factors such as education, culture, religion and the language barrier.

If a woman can’t speak English fluently, then I find it difficult to muster any attraction toward her. Also, even Westerners who never went to college are often better-read, more insightful and more knowledgeable than many Asians with a college degree. Sad, but true. It’s a reflection of the culture and educational systems in these nations, rather than any shortcomings inherent to the people themselves.

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I don’t think anyone has mentioned Cary-Hiroyuki Tagawa, who was on Nash Bridges. I thought he was quite dashing.

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You know, I don’t even know what to think of this. Here you’ve been complaining of the stereotypes against Asian men and how white women aren’t attracted to you. Yet, you have all these preconceived notions concerning Asian women.

If you think so little of Asian women, why should I think better of Asian men?