I have no preferences in terms of race but if the woman was taller than me, it would make me somewhat uneasy because I would always wonder if she would be considering my short-coming (a pun, har har har).
From where I’m sitting, there’s no shortage of AM/WF relationships. I wonder if JThunder lives in an area where the majority of Asians are recent immigrants - hey, JThunder, where do you live?
I’ve noticed that most women who have described a hunky Asian man they know have made a point of mentioning the guy’s height - he’s almost always “tall and drop-dead gorgeous”. This is obviously a trait that’s admired in all nationalities and races, but since I don’t see any representation of the other side of the spectrum, I will just check in and say that I am a white gal married to a Korean guy who is shorter than I am. I don’t have a thing for short guys, just as I don’t have a thing for Asian guys - but I have to say that most of the guys I’ve dated or considered dating were Asian, but not all were shorter than me. Also, most of these guys were shorter than me, but not all of them were Asian.
I’ll bite but I hope it’s not going to be taken as rasicm.
I have a fetish for hair. Specifically long, lightly curley and brown/blonde. Thus, I find black women generally unapealling with their tightly curled black hair (but black women with the right kind of hair always turns my head).
Indian (from India) and native americans etc also have to pass the hair fetish thing. Any women who meets that critera (plus must, of course, look generally nice and well built) will get a second look from me.
I don’t find fellow asians that apealing because of the hair thing so I have never dated a fellow asian lady. Only white, Indian etc.
With my white GF, she is my height exactly so we don’t have much of an issue with the height thing but she does wish I was a few inches taller. I have never dated anyone taller than me but then again, I’m about average height for a women here (5’6").
Can i chime in with a teenage girls perspective and what i see going on in general in my generation/friend group?
well, pretty much no one in my group of friends (an it’s a wide/diverse group) is too concerned about the racial or cultural standings of a person…maybe it’s just my group of friends but the majority of us have dated outside of our ethnic backgrounds. i for one have gone through every possibly backgorund there is to go through.
as far as asian males, i myself, have never been struck by a “Damn he’s hot!!” moment as of yet and i have plenty of male asian friends…although i was entranced by my friend Tu for about a year cause he just turned out to have a great personality but i have dated one and consider him one of my better relationships, but of course i’m only 17.
You raise an interesting point,Judeluv3, if you’re talking about the geographical area you live in. I notice you live in Baltimore, Md on the eastern seaboard. I live in Northern Virginia, which because of the federal government, is home to myriads of different races of people. The reason I don’t have a problem with asian males having relationships with caucasian females, is because I see examples so often, I’ve become used to it. It’s not a novelty anymore. I would imagine that in isolated societies where not much changes, an interracial relationship like that would be noticed, commented upon, and possibly frowned upon. It wasn’t so long ago in this nation’s history, that relationships between blacks and whites was illegal. I certainly hope that there’ll come a time that no one will see anything noteworthy about these situations.
Oh, I remembered another question that I don’t think was addressed in this thread. For the asian dopers (male/female) who dated caucasians: Did your families encourage/discourage your choice? Would their approval/disapproval make you reconsider your choice? Caucasians who dated asians, please answer the same questions. I think the answers would be very interesting.
Although no one in my family every had a problem with me dating Asian men, my grandparents have said that they don’t believe I can have a successful interracial marriage, mostly because of cultural differences. They don’t ever bring it up on their own or harrass me about it, but even now, being married to a Korean guy, if I ask them what they think of the match, they’ll say the same thing.
My mother asked why I didn’t date “normal guys” - meaning Caucasian. (She also thought Indonesians were black. :rolleyes: )
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