I just read this blog entry where the writer doubts that homosexuality is innate. He says that he’s “got 35 years of experience living in the gay dominated communities of San Francisco and New York City,” and during that time, people have said the following to him:
Has he been majorly misintrepreting people for the past 35 years, or are gay people really telling him all this? If so, for God’s sake, WHY? I can’t accept this as proof that people CHOOSE to be homosexual, but for someone who doesn’t know better, what other conclusion could they possibly derive from all this? IOW, if this tale is true, what the FUCK are these people THINKING???
Some people will try anything to get laid. My roommate wouldn’t take no for an answer one night (he finally did); when he got frustrated, he openly doubted that I was bisexual, and asked me how I knew.
The thing he neglected to consider was that I, like him (or so he claimed many times), had taste, and whatever desire I might have had to fuck him beforehand was gone the instant he didn’t take no for an answer.
Making the system work for you, on the other hand, is a smart business decision, regardless of how bad it makes the rest of us look.
Why would anyone want to [willingly] choose a lifestyle that could subject them to harrassment, bigotry, predjudice, physical harm and homocide? It sounds to me like this guy is being overly sensitive, playing the pity card, trolling, or he is being teased and/or harrassed by gay me he works with.
I have no doubt at all he has had gay people tell him just that. 'Cause this guy is transparently a sucker of the first water. Clearly, the gay people he knows enjoy playing “wind up the insecure straight guy.” And can you blame 'em? How can you not mess with the head of someone this thick?
I make jokes to one straight friend of mine all the time along a similar vein, although I think some of the comments, if quoted as said, are really really dumb.
I’ve done the “I’ll turn you gay, baby” stuff with him before just because we both find it hilarious. He’s TRIED sleeping with another guy but just couldn’t function well, so it’s a running gag between us.
It’s also possible that they have a Seduce The Straight Guy fetish. (You know, similar to The Stud Who Sets Lesbians Straight fantasy.) Seems to me that I read about someone on this very board who enjoys the former, though I can’t recall the name. I wouldn’t take it very seriously, in any case.
I wanna know more about these gay quotas. I’m the only openly gay person at my office (I know one bisexual woman, but noone else knows about her.) Obviously my company is not meeting quota and needs to hire more people so we can have a Gay Employee’s Support Group.
Alternately, perhaps another company that pays better hasn’t met their quota and I can get a better paying job.
Either way, I need to know more about the quota system.
It’s a Whoosh!. It’s a big gay Whoosh!. Call it a Swish!.
Most likely, IMHO, the gay guy in question is teasing the straight guy (and really, wouldn’t you if you came across someone this gullible?) It could conceivably be that the gay guy is extremely unscrupulous and is actually trying to make the straight guy believe this so he can lay him.
Another possibility is that he’s disingenuously using ‘be/turn gay’ as a synonym for ‘have gay sex;’ or else he believes that the straight guy is gay to begin with and just needs to have gay sex in order to realize it; or else he believes that anyone who has gay sex is automatically gay for that reason.
But I find it unlikely in the absolute extreme that the fellow literally believes that he chose to actually have a gay sexual orientation and that a straight man can choose likewise.
Well, I should have been clearer: this was a COMMENT to a blog post, and the name listed therein was “Stephen,” so unless it was an assumed name, I don’t think it as him. If it had been someone like this guy Clayton Cramer, I probably wouldn’t have given it a second thought.
Altho’ lying to score political points is a possibility nonetheless.
The blogger commited a fallacy of composition. It is not necessary that a straight man be gay to engage in sex with another man and even enjoy it. Homosexuality and heterosexuality are practically misnomers — it’s not about sex, it’s about preference, attraction, and emotional commitment.
It appears that I sit corrected. It does sound like Cramer’s anti-gay rants, which all seem to be tied up in being hit on by gay people when he lived in San Francisco or something. Did the comment have a link back to the person’s own website?
Well there are some grounds for the lesbian thing, although not exactly in the '90s. In the late 60s and early 70s there were pockets of Women’s Lib folk who advocated turning “lesbian” for lack of a better word as an ultimate rebellion against male power. It never really took off because, well, most women really kinda like the dick more than the vagina and they earned the undying hatred of plenty of real lesbians who were jilted. See the Bi Until Graduation phenomenon today.
I’ve never heard anything like that advocated for gay men. Lord knows plenty of straight men DO sleep with other men, but generally out of curiosity, incredible horniness, intoxication, or all of the above. This does not mean they like the dick anymore today than they did yesterday, only that they enjoy getting their rocks off. Generally when a gay man seriously attempts to seduce a straight man, it’s for the same purpose. Gay people generally don’t try to go through the effort of dating people they believe to be straight. It’s too much hassle and effort for too little reward when a pool of willing guys exist.
One night stands, yes. Long term relationship, no.