This gets old pretty fast–especially when one partner is raring to go and the other is practically post-ictal.
I didn’t mind when my husband would do this occasionally-but it got to be too frequent, and yes, he would pout in the morning if he didn’t get any during the noc. And yes, he was aware that he could have “approached” me before bed with good results all round.
:rolleyes:
Cry me a river–I no longer care if he gets any or not. (but that’s another thread).
That’s the only good (or safe) reason to wake me up.
I’m all for being woken up FOR sex, not so much being woken up BY sex.
My partner has (in the past, and he’d better keep it that way) had this rather unpleasant habit of just ‘starting’ and assuming I’ll wake up after a little while.
Oh yeah, I wake up all right. I wake up with a vengeance. "WTF are you doing?"
Seriously, if I’m asleep and happen not be dreaming about something sexual, I’m probably not sexually aroused in any way. Which means it’s pretty dry down there at that point. Which means it’s often painful when you decide to just start having sex with me. In fact, it doesn’t feel like you’re doing something ‘with’ me, it feels like you’re doing something ‘to’ me. And it hurts! Nyargh!
*At this point I extricate the Sleepy Kitty™ from bedclothes, plomp her firmly between us (where she immediately nestles) and return to sleepy wonderland. Hehehe. Neither of us has the heart to disturb the Sleepy Kitty™ twice in one night. A furry minefield of protection!
Also, he’s understandably less than fond of having any creature with claws and teeth near certain parts of his anatomy, no matter how harmless said creature might normally be.
Now he knows that I need to be woken up first and will then be only too happy to participate. Given the chance to wake up and be informed that ‘Sex is pending, please stand by’ I am capable of becoming quite aroused in a short period of time.
My sex drive is fairly high, and higher still in the late evening, through the night and early morning times. Just wake me up first!
(Sleepy Kitty™ is currently patent pending as a innovative (and cuddly!) contraception device.)
I’m an insomniac. Wake me at your own risk.
i wish someone would …
I consider it a high compliment…
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Well, as long as it’s not by a stranger…
See, I’m just the opposite; until a few years ago, when I was on the pill, hubby would frequently wake me up with sex (if dryness was a problem, he’d apply KY as needed, so as not to hurt me). I would start having the most wonderful dreams, and sometimes wake up mid-orgasm. Oh, yeah. Unfortunately, my doc made me give up the pill, and now I have to be woken up ahead of time so I can use the no-baby goo. Still, if I’m not too sleep-deprived, I don’t mind.
Hmm, that might be a fun way to wake up, although I can’t say it’s ever happened to me.
As long as I’m not in prison when it happens.
Or on public transport.
My wife and I are at odd ends of the spectrum when it comes to sleep patterns- she’s a night owl, I’m a morning person. So it often happens that I’ve turned in for the night, and then she’ll wake me up when she comes to bed, wanting attention. At the same time, if I’m up early, I will nudge her awake for the same.
Sometimes it works out, sometimes it just doesn’t. I don’t need a lot of sleep, but the sleep I do get is super-deep(especially since the baby has outgrown 3am wakeup). She’s not such a deep sleeper, but she takes forever to wake up without an alarm.
It’s a gamble…and not one usually taken unless one of us is in extreme need. It ends up well about half the time.
With a former girlfriend, we had a mutual agreement-she could help herself if I was sleeping but aroused, and she wouldn’t object if awakened by my ministrations. At present with no live-in partner, being awakened for sex is likely to result in a nasty altercation.