Sure do. Tho you gotta pick your spots.
We’ve tried to create an environment in which all family members are pretty open with each other about most topics. Our kids regularly ask our advice/opinions, and we frequently return the favor. And there is considerable possibility for a kids’ dating choices to impact the entire family - at which time I think it entirely appropriate for the rest of the family to express their opinions.
A couple of examples:
One daghter expressed a desire to go to prom, but she was not doing anything along the lines of setting up a date. We told her that if she wanted a guy to ask her, she had to set the groundwork some time in advance, instead of just thinking an invite would come out of the blue.
My son went out with a girl a couple of times. A dance was coming up, and we asked if he was taking her. He said he didn’t know. We asked if they were “going together.” He didn’t know. We suggested he might want to ask her. She thought they were. So he broke up with her.
In igh school my daughter was going out with a guy who was very depressed, and very dismissive of my other 2 kids. When my daughter went to college away from him we hoped it would just end, but they remained a couple. In addition to our perception that this guy was having a negative impact on my daughter and our family as a whole, we thought she was denying herself the full college experience. So we sat her down and told her how we felt. Didn’t tell her she had to break up with him, but told her we didn’t think the continued relationshi a good thin in the short or long runs. A really tough discussion, but she broke up with him a month later. A couple of years later out of the blue she told us she often thinks how lucky she was that we had that conversation with her.
So we’ll readily allow our kids to make their own decisions and mistakes. Bt when we think they are either doing something they will greatly regret later, or passing up an exceptionally good opportunity, we’ll let them know our opinions. I don’t see this as terribly different from teaching/advising kids on social niceties. A continuum from “Say please and thank you” and “Bring a present to a birthday party” and “Write thank you notes.” That role as a parent doesn’t end when a kid starts dating