At this point, I just want someone who has a job, is willing to work, and knows how to manage money or is willing to learn how. I may end up being the one in the relationship who deals with most of the money, as I don’t mind it and in fact enjoy it, but my SO should at least know how to do it.
Ditto. It has to do with the characteristics and qualities behind the amount of money they make (and therefore are why they make what they make), than the actual money.
In my youth, I dated a few musician types, unemployed musician types. No, “love” does NOT conquer all. It’s no fun being the only responsible one in a relationship.
Problem is, some of those people don’t realize that someone who can make it like that without a college education is the exception, not the rule, so they say everyone should drop out of college and start their own business instead.
Yup. My husband doesn’t deal with our bills or cook, but I know that he knows how - he wouldn’t be like one of these pitiful widows who doesn’t even know how many bank accounts they have when their husband of 50 years dies.
Yup. I dated a couple of guys who were employed when I met them, and then lost their jobs while we were dating, and never seemed to get gainfully employed again. That became my deal-breaker, too - if I can work for a living to pay my bills, that was the bare minimum that my partner was expected to do.
This sums up my attitude pretty well. My husband is transitioning from a career in non-profit administration to the high-paying, jet-set world of elementary education, but I knew when I married him that he would never be wealthy. And that’s okay. We’re never going to get rich off my salary either.
I could never marry someone who thought working 80 hour weeks was acceptable, no matter how much money he made. It’s more important to me to have someone who can support himself but who prioritizes spending time with family over his job.