Everything still works, it’s just … doing the job by myself gets the same result with half the effort. I’m 41, and I never thought this would happen to me. 
Yes, definitely. But the benefits are through the roof, so… 
If it’s work, you’re not doing it right.
You aren’t talking about sex, you are talking about getting off. If you are just having sex to get off, then you are really not doing it right.
There’s an itch I can’t scratch by myself: the lust to evoke responses in someone else’s tingly parts, to touch the places I like to look at, to have access to the sex I’m attracted to.
Then there’s the floating-off-together afterglow intimacy
And no, it’s never felt “like work”. Any more than the effort of lifting fork while eating good food has felt “like work”.
There have been partners in my life where things were sort of falilng apart and it felt like work of a non-physical sort to communicate, to do the little dance of interactions and interplay that might conceivably move things in that direction if she did reciprocal interactive things and neither of us ignored or pulled away. That has occasionally felt like it was no longer worth taking the risks and extending the effort. Are you by any chance talking about that, or did you indeed mean the physical exertions?
I think it’s more like sometime the act of making good food feels like work so you settle for a drive-thru hamburger. Fills the void fast & cheap even if it’s not as satisfying.
Prolly TMI but this is a sex thread.
One of the stupidest arguments I had with my ex. I had just finished a 12 hour shift. Then came home and did more work around the house. When I finally get to bed, I was exhausted. But wifey wanted some love’n. I tried to tell her I was too tired. But she kept on.
Finally, I relented and said: Well, can you just ride on top of me?
Wife: Well, if you’re not gonna put any effort in, then never mind!!
Me: Okay fine!!
We both rolled over with our backs to each other. Lol
Does sex ever feel like too much work?
Only when I have to fill out all the Report Forms afterwards.
Sure, folks get tired and have hectic days. It’s life. And if you’re a lazy ass (;)), well, there you go.
L’enfer, c’est les vagins des autres.
Are you in a relationship? It’s not clear whether you’re bemoaning the work involved in finding sexual partners, or in keeping the sexual side of a relationship alive.
I seldom do that either. I only shortcut away from cooking if I don’t have time or I don’t have ingredients available. I love cooking and it makes the eating more fun!
Yes, but it’s necessary to do it regularly.
Well, earlier in my life we were experiencing fertility issue and trying to get pregnant. As much as we liked each other, and liked sex, the frequency and “duty” nature of it did make it feel like work sometimes.
I AM in a relationship. I like her, and I get turned on, but … it’s like the fuse burns out early. It’s like I stop being turned on half way through. It’s quite disconcerting.
"So,… Cal…
How’s it going? Say, did you get the memo about the TPS reports?
I’ll just go ahead and make sure you get a copy of that memo, M’kay."*
No.
Maybe you are bored. Try some sex toys or new positions.
I’m down with OPP…
Okay, at first I thought you were referring to Flypaper Reports and just got the acronym wrong:
But I dug a little further. This is what I get for never having watched the movie Office Space. I gotta fix that.
But not right now. I’m behind on filling out my status reports. How do you know if you’re improving if you don’t compile the statistics, ya know?