I don’t think you get it. It’s perfectly reasonable that Phlosphr picked up furball with the inention of moving him gently but firmly out of the bathroom, and that motion combined with furball’s natural tendency to spring load his legs when being ‘placed’ somewhere lead to a flying leap that involved him landing somewhere on the stairs.
‘Grabbing by the scruff’ lets the cat know that you mean business, and apparently doesn’t harm cats or veterinarians wouldn’t use that practice. Seriously folks, I doubt that what Phlosphr did was at all worse than what the vet does when he/she manhandles a disagreeable cat in the doctor’s office.
Now if he had said: “I wailed that fucker off the wall and made him howl.” I’d see a problem. But I think this was most likely nothing other than “Get out of here, fluffy.”
I had a cat who used to routinely jump from heights of 10 to 15 feet, or fall off of various ‘hiding spots’ at that height. The most he got out of it was an odd look of embarassment.
As for the peeing thing, it’s not as rare as people think. Many people like their private time when dumping output, and I think it’s kind of rediculous to suggest that someone get therapy because he doesn’t piss in front of other people or when a pair of eyes are staring at his system unit. So he likes to be alone when pissing. BIG DEAL.