Maybe, or maybe she’s just bored and wants to go out, and you’re nice, safe and available. Sometimes women will change their minds about “I don’t like you that way”, but more often they do not. If you think this is going somewhere you need to clarify the situation sooner rather than later if you have expectations.
Something may have made her rethink her past decision. Maybe a friend of hers asked her if you were available and this led her to re-evaluate you. Maybe she saw you with another woman and realized she was jealous of you being with someone else. Maybe she’s come off a bad relationship and now appreciates your worth. Maybe she’s decided her reasons for turning you down in the past were wrong. Maybe she’s horny. In any event, she’s apparently putting herself back into play.
One downside is that if you’re misreading the signals and she’s not flirting. A worse possibility is that she’s flirting but doesn’t really mean it. But if she’s your friend, she’ll understand if it’s the former and she wouldn’t be trying the latter.
Oh c’mon! This chick’s totally putting out the vibe. Bringing attention to her ass? Calling to say she’s going to curl up alone and watch a movie? Asking him if he wants to dress up and go to a party with her? She would enjoy his company?
Dude, she wants you to notice her ass, curl up with you on the couch, watch a movie with you, go on a date with you, and spend time in your company.
I agree with Jaade that she has not forgotten your feelings for her from a couple of years ago. She’s seeing if they’re still there, because she either likes you now, or she’s incomprehensibly cruel.
Happy
I have to agree with astro, it could be a completely friendly vibe. If she’s used to seeing him as a good friend, and doing things on a platonic level, it may not even occur to her how these things would sound - if she were saying things to a female friend, it wouldn’t sound very odd at all.
However, it COULD be a signal. You’re going to have to start guessing and start asking before things go much further. If she is hoping for more, and you fail to pick up on it, she could get hurt. If she isn’t, and you think she’s sending the signal, then you could sit with the agony. Either way, it’s pretty important for any real friendship to have honest communication.
I’m gonna vote for “who the hell knows – you should just ask her.”
Figure out what you want, first – are you still interested? (I really can’t tell from what you’ve said.) If not, tell her (in a really nice way, of course.) If you are, though, say, “hey, I get the feeling you might have reconsidered getting involved with me, which is something I’d still like – any chance?” At that point, unless she’s a totally evil bitch (which I assume she isn’t, since she’s a friend of yours), she should give you a straight answer. And then you’ll know.
And then you’ll come back and post and we’ll know. 
You should just ask her out again to see if she likes you, but I get the overwhelming sense that she’s interested in more than friendship.
Happy said it best: "Oh c’mon! This chick’s totally putting out the vibe. Bringing attention to her ass? Calling to say she’s going to curl up alone and watch a movie? Asking him if he wants to dress up and go to a party with her? She would enjoy his company?
Dude, she wants you to notice her ass, curl up with you on the couch, watch a movie with you, go on a date with you, and spend time in your company."
I definitely get the impression she is interested. I’m friends with a guy who admitted to liking me (sadly I don’t return the feeling, even though he’s a wonderful guy)…and I am VERY CAREFUL not to say anything that would lead him on or give him “the wrong idea”.
Keep us updated on how things go. Good luck. 
she could also be “playing” you.
Just straight out ask her if she’s changed her mind and has started looking at you “that way”.
Damn! whatever happened to honesty?
All right. What’s happened from '96 to now all of the sudden you think she may be sending signals?
What ever it is, just act on your gut instinct. I doubt you’ll ruin the friendship over it. If she rejects you, just tell her why you thought otherwise.
Repeat after me, I am NOT a mind reader… I am NOT a mind reader… I am NOT a mind reader…(etc…)
So? What happened? Did you go to the party with her? And … ?
Just a note here–when Person A has expressed a desire to date (or move the relationship into a more serious direction), but Person B puts on the brakes, it is NEVER appropriate to engage in playful banter that may otherwise signal that Person B is ready to take up Person A’s suggestion.
Khadaji, you should have at least asked if she wanted company.
I did not go to the party with her. As some of you know, my health has not been good, and Saturday was a low-energy day. I knew that if I went we would both have a bad time.
In the end, I slept 11 hours Saturday night, so I suppose I must be pushing my recovery a little too hard. She called on Sunday morning to see how I was and make sure that I was recovering. This was kinda a joke between us.
Last spring when my health was deteriorating so badly, we spoke the weekend before my stomach perferated; at that time she told me to call her if I had any problems or needed a ride to the hospital. When my stomach did perferate, in my pain-filled delerium this was one of the only coherent thought that I had - so I dialed her number. She did not wake up enough to answer the phone and I did what a *smart *person would have done first, I called 911.
Anyway, the last thing she said before she went to the party this past Saturday was: If you need anything or need a ride to the hospital call me. I reminded her what happened the last time she said that and we both chuckled. She called me Sunday to make sure that I hadn’t been whisked away to the hospital in the middle of the night. She knew I wasn’t really that bad, but was just teasing.
After 9 years, anything goes. A lot changes in 9 years, and I wouldn’t use somebody’s “I don’t like you that way” response to your interest from nine years ago to mean anything today. I’ve seen many men and women flip in their attraction for each other after years have gone by. I would simply consider the situation an empty slate.
Going by that, my money is on “she’s interested.”
Sorry you’re under the weather.
Don’t forget to let us know what happens next, though.
(Unless it involves, yanno, something yucky associated with you being under the weather.)
Khadaji you are not alone. I feel clueless and oblivious a great deal of the time in this area.
I was sitting at the bar of a local restaurant, a few years ago. An attractive woman was seated to my right, and she was alone. We did not know one another.
This woman was watching a football game on the TV. She said a few things to me now and then, as idle chit chat.
Then things turned a little odd. She turned to me and said, (verbatim) “I can’t wait to get back to my hotel room and watch the game alone.”
I silently thought to myself, “Hmm, okay she obviously likes football and must be a fan of one of these teams.”
About 10 minutes passed. Again, she turned to me and said, a second time, “I can’t wait to get back to my hotel room and watch the game alone.”
I silently thought to myself, “If you want to leave so bad, why did you order another drink?”
Another ten minutes passed by, and she turned to me a third time and said, “I can’t wait to get back to my hotel room and watch the game alone.”
I silently thought to myself, “Ok, then quit griping and GO already!”
(AFAIK, she wasn’t drunk.) She finally finished her drink, and left a short time after.
Later that night, I was pondering the earlier scenario, and it hit me:
Why did she make such a point of telling me that she had a hotel room and that she was alone… :smack: DUH
I really didn’t “get it” while it was happening. (FWIW: Even if I had “got it”, I wasn’t looking to hookup.)
Sadly, this kind of scenario has happened to me in different ways, before. Women are just TOO subtle, IMO. If you want to jump a guys bones, TELL him so directly, for cryin’ out loud!
Always best to assume you’ve got a good friend. Of course, if she wants something else, or is just toying with the idea, and you are interested too, it’d be a shame to let her conclude that you’re not.
Khadaji, are you considered a funny guy? if so you could probably get away with making an off the cuff remark about how if you didn’t know better you’d swear she was courting you, which is odd because she doesn’t like you that way if she will recall. If you’re not considered funny, or if you don’t have the timing for it, don’t do it.
I’ve observed that, unless they’re just plain randy, girls are ok with having you at least as a friend. My guess is that this is the case but she’s curious about you. If there’s no rush, let her do the fishing and enjoy the time you get together. If it can work between you, it will. If not, then it’s best to not imagine it would. Stop looking at these events as “dates” and just be happy to have a chum with a nice ass that doesn’t seem to mind showing it off to you.
Or you might try putting on a pair of tight pants and asking, “Do these jeans make my cock look big?” Of course, that leaves you wide open.
It is possible that she thinks of you as a “Safe” person to be with, as others have mentioned, but she could be more interested in you as well. There is really no easy way to tell from what I have read of your posts here.
My recommendation would be to find some time when you two are alone together and bring it up to her. Something like:
“I’ve really been enjoying our time together lately and from what I can tell you have as well. I was wondering if you are interested in being more than just friends. I am asking you this because I can’t help but think about nine years ago when I asked you out and you said you weren’t interested in me that way. Back then I accepted that and we have become good close friends, but now, and maybe I’m wrong, I am seeing signals from you that you might be interested in more. My feelings for you have not changed in 9 years, but I don’t want to jeopardize our friendship because I am misreading signals.”
It doesn’t have to be said exactly as I have it here, but you get the general idea.
If she is really your friend and is not interested in anything more, she will say so. If she is really interested in more than a friendship with you, she will say so. Either way you will find out what she wants and will be able to continue from there.
Of course, you should keep us informed here so we can continue to live vicariously through you.
Marry me?
Does anyone really talk like this? If anyone ever said something even remotely similar to this to me, I’d probably laugh so hard I’d puke. This doesn’t sound anywhere close to sincere.
You guys have been friends for 9 years. You can joke around about you and her relationship to get a better handle on what you both want. Just light-hearted and fun chatter, similar to what you’ve been doing. If it happens consistently and regularly, then you’re on to something.
Keep in mind that knowing what she wants won’t make things easier for you. Or at least they didn’t for me. One of my best girl friends got wasted and told me she loved me. She claimed not to remember it. It took me another 6 months of games like you’re describing for me to do anything about it.
Anyway, you’ve already made the jokes and whatnot and been playing some games. Next time she asks you to do something, say “is this is a date?” Hopefully she’ll ask what the difference is between a date and just hanging out. Reply “A goodnight kiss, of course. And I’ll pay.” Hopefully she’ll say date, and then you’re in. Don’t make her feel awkward with a 5 minute speech full of 4 syallable words to express how you feel. Gimme a break.
As I said, it doesn’t have to be as I wrote it. However, it does cover all the important points that the OP brought up. He should bring up those points to her in a way that is most comfortable for him, whether it be in a joking manner or in a very serious moment of bonding. If he doesn’t bring it up and she is interested, she will eventuallhy bring it up to him or get tired of waiting and focus her romantic efforts on somone else… presuming she is sending out signals. At any rate, it is better that he be the one to bring up the subject so he is not left hanging.