Short question, since I’m typing this with one finger on my iPhone:
My Mom died this past July, and she and my Dad had been married for 47 years. Their anniversary would have been coming up next month, in mid January. Would it be proper for me to send him a card? I don’t want to make him sad, but I also don’t want him to think I’ve forgotten.
I certainly don’t think it would be wrong to send a card…not a “Happy Anniversary!” card though…a nice blank card with a picture of a flower or something and inside you write something about how you are remembering this day and you know he is remembering this day…
it obviously really depends on your relationship with your dad, but why wouldn’t you call him on that day? or do you mean call and send a card?
You should acknowledge his loss. He will be thinking of it regardless of whether you say anything or not.
I think a lot of times people don’t say anything out of fear that they’ll make the person feel worse, but often it helps to be able to talk openly about someone you’ve lost and miss.
Thanks for the suggestions, all. I was planning to call for sure–I think I’ll do that and just not mention the anniversary specifically. More an “I was thinking about you today–how are you doing?” kind of call which, knowing my Dad, will quickly morph into our usual half-hour nerdfest and all will be well.
I like the idea of sending a “thinking of you” card instead of an anniversary card. If I do end up sending a card in addition to calling (and my dad isn’t really a card person–my mom was the one who was really into getting and sending cards) then I’ll do that. I’m sure he’d appreciate it, but he might wonder why I sent a card if I called too.