Ever been called "racist" for no good reason?

The first week of graduate school is usually pretty hectic, with lots of social gatherings with other departments, often lubricated with generous amounts of alcohol. During one of these gatherings, I was talking to an African-American woman in my six-person cohort, and when she said she was from Boston, I replied, “Oh, are you from Jamaica Plain?” She said, “No, Framingham,” to which I responded, “Sorry, I must have you confused with someone else I met.”

The following week we met for one of our first classes. I have no idea what we were discussing, but out of the blue this woman pipes up and accuses me of being racist for assuming she was from Jamaica Plain because she was black. I was gobsmacked, and sort of stuttered out that I must have met someone who was from there, not that I assumed anything about her. I’d lived in Boston for a year and had a number of friends from the area, so I was pretty aware of the geography and the impressions people had of Jamaica Plain (particularly in comparison to Framingham). This event snowballed into a series of really gruesome episodes where racism was thrown around at every opportunity by this woman, over the course of the entire academic year. She was pretty much a menace to the faculty and the students.

Eventually, I figured out that I’d confused this African-American woman with a tall, white dude who’d lived in Jamaica Plain for several years.

Just a little interested, but are all the respondants on this topic Carcasian?

I’m not. I’m truckasian.

Nah. I’m just SPOOFE.

I’m Jewish. And my teacher definitely knew it, cause race and ethnicity were sooooo emphasized in my class that everyone who had “minority” status grabbed on to it as much as possible. No one wanted to be seen as the white oppresor.

Well, I got my first ever “You’re a racist” today. It was because I told a patient (who happens to be black) that he needed to quit cussing at the nurses. I would have said the same thing if he were purple. He said “You aren’t in there talking to the white dude across the hall. You are racist, cause you’re white.” I told him I wasn’t talking to that gentleman because he wasn’t cussing at anyone. It was a half-assed accusation and he knew it; he dropped it right away in favor of “but the nurses made me mad, so it is not my fault” quickly followed by “I can’t help it, it is the way I talk” and “I’m just 19, I can’t control myself.”

Funny thing is, this same guy told me last week that he didn’t like all the “black bitches” we have on staff and made a point of saying he lived in a mostly white area. Hmmmmm…who’s the racist?