It’s entirely possible she was yanking my chain.
That would’ve been even more bizarre, a person pretending to be MPD when they’re not. In either case she wasn’t a virgin. Even though she may have thought she was. Sounds like you’re better off without her.
No question!
If her stories were genuine, though, she had a terrifying past and serious mental health issues. I hope she was able to get some help and find some peace, and that she’s out there somewhere living a decent life.
Since there is quite possibly no such thing as MPD, I am pretty sure your chain was well and truly yanked.
Is Dissociative Identity Disorder Real?
You may wonder if dissociative identity disorder is real. After all, understanding the development of multiple personalities is difficult, even for highly trained experts. The diagnosis itself remains controversial among mental health professionals, with some experts believing that it is really an “offshoot” phenomenon of another psychiatric problem, such as borderline personality disorder, or the product of profound difficulties in coping abilities or stresses related to how people form trusting emotional relationships with others.
Many think that MPD is therapist induced.
I’ve read that, too. My guess after all these years is that she was seriously messed up in one way or another, and might have seized on the MPD story as some sort of coping mechanism.
As Bullitt points out, making up MPD to cover up her lack of virginity would have been a pretty fucked-up thing to do. Not to mention telling someone you’re a virgin when you’ve had a baby. Even if she was just yanking my chain for some perverse thrill, that’s pretty psychotic.
I’ve encountered people who believe they have MPD. While I agree that the weight of medical evidence is that the condition is either not real or is a symptom of a different underlying disturbance, someone who believes that they have a condition and says so is not yanking anyone’s chain by the usual meaning of the phrase. That would require that they’re playing a trick on the other person, it’s not a trick if a person sincerely believes something incorrect.
You make a good point. If their therapist has convinced them they have MPD, then they are not knowlingly lying when they claim to have it.
I just learned that my long-lost virgin died a couple of months ago. It’s a story I’ve never told anyone, but maybe it’s time.
James and I went to high school together. I was just one of the masses, but he was funny, smart, and popular. For most of high school, he had a cool girlfriend, but when they broke up, he asked me out. Our date turned into an extremely unpleasant maul fest, and he didn’t call again.
A couple of years later, we ran into each other and started spending time together. He was going through a difficult time; I was supportive and thought we had become close friends. He told me he was a virgin, wanted very much not to be, and thought I was the person who should teach him the ways of love.
I don’t know why he thought this. Apparently I had a bad reputation in high school. I’d done nothing to earn it, but I had very liberal views about sex and other things, and I didn’t hide them.
I really cared about him as a person, but felt no physical attraction. I eventually told him sex was not going to happen. He disappeared, and I never saw him or heard from him again.
This made me feel dirty and stupid. I still don’t understand how he could act that way. I trusted him, and ultimately he treated me like I was nothing but a hole that he was somehow entitled to fuck.
According to his obituary, he had a wife and children, so I guess he finally got laid. He had a lot of friends who had great things to say about him, but I’ll always remember him as a lying, conniving, hypocritical, insensitive jerk.
Ever go out with a virgin? What happened?
Yes, and nothing, since she wanted to stay that way at the time.
We went to a movie and then comet-hunting. It was fun, but chaste.
You’re making an assumption about what I thought that doesn’t follow from the rest of the very paragraph you quoted. It might help to know that I had a very religious upbringing and went to a very religious school in my early 20s, where talk of being a virgin and waiting was de rigueur, and the secret, commonplace breaking of these rules were causes of great shame. By the time I met this person I had long since concluded that “waiting” was a waste of time, and had delayed what I considered normal adulthood in my case for no purpose. I really didn’t care her reasons, I wasn’t revisiting THAT again.
Dated him for two years and fell in love with him, then he dumped me saying “thanks for practice, I didn’t want to be a virgin when I had a real relationship”. Literally not joking. I have avoided adult virgins like the plague since then.
Edit for context: he was 24 when he said those words in that order to me
She was 17 and told me she was 19. I was 23 and told her I was 21. Hey, we’re only two years apart.
This was at a university night club. We drank a few beers and slow danced to Johnny B Goode. Then she asked me for a ride home, but wanted to see my place first.
Sure, we can make a slight detour.
She will never know that she was only my second.
How?