i’m so sorry i understand what your going through i hope everything turns out okay
we’re all here for you even us newbies we understand
-PurePhreak
Dear Silver Fire-
I am so sorry. Yesterday it sounded as though your mom might be well enough to be home.
You are in my heart, and in my prayers. Your mom and the rest of your family also.
Hang in there, and just let your mom know how much you love her.
((((((((Silver Fire, mom and family))))))))
Much Love,
Scotti
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Silver, I wish there was more I can say than what other people already have. They’ve expressed how I feel much better than I ever could. {{{Silver Fire}}} You and your mother will be in my thoughts. Hang in there, for all of us.
I’m so, so sorry, SilverFire. There’s no agony like what you’re going through. (No light words: my dad died of colon cancer that spread to the liver.) You’re whipsawed by all the emotions going: grief, pity, anger that you can’t do anything, guilt because you just want it to stop, exhaustion, you name it.
I don’t understand how this happens. They tried to send my dad home when he was on a megadose of morphine to combat the pain. (Oddly enough, we didn’t have a supply of morphine in the fridge–or the expertise to administer it if we had.)
You’re under stress like no other, but please, please take The Mermaid’s advice. Demand–don’t ask, **demandp/b]–information about hospice care. If death is inevitable, it doesn’t have to be impersonal, it doesn’t have to be with pain and you don’t have to handle it alone!
You and your mother are in my thoughts and prayers.
Veb
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My heart goes out to you. Losing a parent sucks soooo much. My prayers are with you, and my good thoughts.
(((((((((((((((((((Silver Fire)))))))))))))))))))
I’m so sorry you have to go through this, sweetheart. There isn’t anything I can say that hasn’t already been said, so let just echo everyone else’s thoughts. Cherish those memories of the good times you have with your mom. Remember that, even if you don’t feel it at the moment, you are brave and you are strong and you can endure. Do me one favor, though – thank your mom for creating you; she did an amazing job.
I sent you an e-mail earlier – write back if you need to talk, but otherwise don’t worry about it, you have more important things to worry about.
With much love,
Jessica
Not much I can add either except to say that I wish you strength and that you and your mom will be in my thoughts too…
(((((Silver)))))
Miss Tique: I hate to think of what you’re going through. You and your mother are in my thoughts. If you need to chat, you know how to get ahold of me.
I was going to mention the hospice care, but I see someone already has. They also have support staff who will help those who choose to die at home. I hope that you will have all the help and support you need. You will find all the love and hugs you want from us here at the boards.
Hugs; Laura
{{{{{{{{{{Silver}}}}}}}}}} Sweetie, I had no idea your mom was so sick, it’s wonderful that so many spoke up about their own experiences with relatives who were suffering. I hope that helps.
You and your mom are in our prayers tonight. Take care of yourself.
Judy
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Silver, sweety, you are one of the best people I know. I am so sorry for what you are going through, and so upset that I can not do anything to help ease your pain. I endorse what others have said about hospice care. Earlier this year, my grandfather died while living at my mom’s house. The hospice care allowed him to spend his last moments with those who loved him. I am very glad that I was able to have a lunch with him just a few days before he died. It was the last time he was really coherent, and I will cherish that memory for the rest of MY life. In case I have not told you, I am here whenever you need a friend. ICQ or call me ANYTIME, and I’ll do what I can for you.
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Silver Fire: No words are adequate. I wish you strength.
I know I alrady posted, but I wanted to add my endorsement of Hospice care. My mom is a Hospice nurse, and I’ve been blessed with the opportunity to volunteer with a variety of patients and families. Hospice people are some of the most caring individuals one could ask for. Most everything you need – whether it’s someone to run errands for you, help your mom to be comfortable, or provide respite car – they can do it. You mentioned that you have sister, I’m presuming younger. I don’t know about the Hospice in your area, but the one my mom is at (and most others that I know of) have a program called Wave Riders to help kids deal with the death of a loved one. The children I worked with were great, and I think they got a lot out of it – having a safe place to talk about their anger, sorrow, and fear. Please drop me a line if there’s any more info I can get for you on Hospice.
Keep strong.
Much love,
Jessica
No words are adequate indeed. Silver, my thoughts and prayers are with you in this difficult time.
{{{{{Silver Fire}}}}}
–Tim
Silver Fire,
My thoughts are with you in this difficult time. I hope that your inner strength and grace will serve you well.
I’m so very sorry, Silver Fire. You and your family have my sympathy and best wishes.
Aw, man. I saw this late - I haven’t been around today. I’m so sorry, Silver. The worst things have a way of happening to the best people.