Mom: You got some mail today from your ex-husband. What do you think it is?
Me:* Probably a bill he thinks I should pay.*
Mom: It doesn’t feel like a bill. It’s like 5"x7". What do you think it is?
Me: Probably a bill he thinks I should pay.
Mom: Well, it’s a handwritten envelope. What do you think it is?
Me: I don’t know, Mom. I’ll let you know when I come pick it up. I think it’s a bill. But maybe it’s a Christmas card.
fast forwards to me arriving at the house the next day
Mom: Here it is. What is it?
Me: It’s a bill he thinks I should pay.
And that’s all it was. A bill he had received in the mail, opened, and then he stuck just the bill, no note or anything else, in an envelope and sent it to me. It’s the first time I’ve heard from him in almost 2 years. We’ve been divorced for 4 years now. Just a passive-aggressive “pay this” thing. (He owes over $6K on bills that are in my name and has not paid a dime- and this is not even a bill I agreed to pay, so it’s not like I’m rushing to resolve it for him. )
My ex, aka Grumpy, is an idiot. It’s not an opinion, it’s a verified fact. In spite of that, I’ve tried to maintain a friendly attitude whenever we have to interact.
And there is a part of me, a little persistent part of me, that wants to respond to this latest cold-shouldered contact by sending him a cheery Christmas card with my perky year-in-review letter. No personal notes or anything - just a chipper little “happy holidays” banality.
Is that so evil?
(I mean, I could just send him copies of all the bills he hasn’t paid - but I don’t want to stoop there - especially since I know he won’t actually pay - I just have to wait for them to drop off my credit report.)