I’ve been trying to figure out attraction for YEARS, why so i get attracted to one friend and not another.
This best i can say is that certain people just… i don’t no… vibe a certain way.
It is infuriating because i will sit in a room with a half a dozen amazing, good looking, female friends and be thinking “I would be a lucky man if i could go out with any of these women, why the hell arn’t i attracted to them”
and then i will meet someone for the first time, have said nothing more than meaningless pleasentries, and be attracted. But here is the thing that blows my mind if i’m attracted to someone even if after only five minutes i know i can trust them, implicitly.
I have never been wrong either.
Best way i can think, when two peoples eyes meet their subconscious minds have a chat and decide, how else can it be so instantanious.
As for dealing with the being attracted to someone, ive never been attracted to someone who hasn’t become a friend and who hasn’t been accept by my friends. So i say if i’m in a relationship. Just be friends, if its so bad you want to tear their cloths off.
Tell your SO explain it, most people i know understand that the body seldem listens to the heart,
And if your female telling this to a male, we understand, if i guy is at all sensitive enough for you to be worth dating hewon’t even need to forgive you because A. there is nothing to forgive and B, we’ve got that problem and god know we don’t corner the market on it.
“Man are asshole, women are bitches, and sheep give you rug burn, whats left?”