Horray! For the record Sara, I think yer a hottie too. If I was a man (or a lesbian) I’d hit on you for sure. 
Sara , I find it interesting that you didn’t have a problem with it when yosemitebabe posted this on page two of this thread:
I’m really doing this just to stirg the shit-pot, honestly – I’m just curious as to why you take issue with it when OneChance did it but not earlier when it was done closer to your side of the argument.
A typo and a word left out all in one, hooray!
Should read
I’m really NOT doing this just to stir the shit-pot, honestly…
Fat is ugly. Period.
Hasn’t a damned thing to do with the person/personality. However, I sure would hate the extra expense of having to tote chalk around if I were a datin’ man these days.
Well, there is a difference between saying someone is “unattractive” and saying that someone is “ugly” (IMSHO).
In some ways the t-shirt got it exactly right: “beauty is only skin deep. ugly goes right down to the bone.”
Someone can be physically appealing (attractive) and still be very ugly. I’m sure almost all of us know such people.
As far as why people get upset over the whole “fat is ugly” thing, I can only approach this from my own POV, okay? But to me, someone who is ugly is someone you just don’t want to be around, ever. It doesn’t have anything to do with attractiveness or sexiness or anything like that; saying that fat=ugly means that all fat people are horrible to be around, all the time.
Combine that with the fact that I, at least, have heard nothing from my mother but how I should lose weight since I was ten and already starting puberty (I had breasts and mom interpreted that as fat because she couldn’t deal with it), yes, hearing (or reading) someone make the generalization that all fat people are ugly is very disturbing to me. However, I don’t generally get involved in these kinds of threads because it’s not worth my effort.
I wanted to comment on Shallow Hal, though. It looks incredibly offensive not only because of the content of fat jokes it will undoubtedly contain, but also because it promotes two separate stereotypes:
- All fat women are beautiful on the inside.
- All thin women are ugly on the inside.
Frankly, I think everybody should be offended by these messages. But that’s just me. 
I find the statement, “I think you’re attractive” to be on par with saying, “I think you’re pretty” or “I think you’re beautiful.” It’s just variations of them same adjective. Likewise, ugly and unattractive essentially mean the same thing, but one is less severe than the other.
However, saying “I am attracted to you” is different. You can find something pleasing to the eye without wanting to have sex with it. Being attracted to something suggests chemistry of some sort.
Likewise, yosemite was saying that there is a difference between MGibson saying “This is ugly” and “I am not attracted to this.” Or even “This is ugly because I am not attracted to this.”
I am capable of being attracted to someone without finding them physically attractive.
Huh?
I have a feeling it’s a variation on the “roll her in flour” joke.
As a single woman, I just released a tremendous sigh of relief that you are out of the dating pool.
Some of you seem to think that physical appearance and personality are two distinctly seperate things. I disagree. I believe that the two greatly influence each other, and no amount of physical attractiveness will compensate for a serious lack in personality.
In sixty years, I hope that I can look at my spouse, whose ass is sagging, whose face is wrinkly and whose skin is paper-thin, whose teeth and hair are gone, and find him as beautiful and sexy as the day I married him. No amount of physical attractiveness (the kind that society values today) will last for sixty years. But a beautiful personality and an amazing soul will last much longer.
Well, 'Uigi. You could always just ask her where her vagina is.
Yeah, like he’ll ever get the opportunity to get close to a vagina. One that he isn’t paying for, anyway.
'Uigi, I dare you to call my wife (size 18-20) ugly in front of me, in person. I double-dare you.
OK first of all it’s THE Mermaid, there’e nothing little about me.
And second, I can say I think porcupine is beautiful if I want to because 1. She asked the question and 2. I’ve seen pics of her. I wasn’t imprecise, insulting or condescending and I meant every friggin word. I can’t help it if you don’t know how to take a compliment, just don’t assume that everyone else is uncomfortable as well.
BTW if you are going to quote me, do it verbatim.
I said
Cut up in little snippits, it does seem I’m just saying “you’re only pretty on the inside”; taken in whole it sounds completely different and just as I intended.
Wow, there seems to be a lot of pissed of fat chicks posting here.
Get off you asses and do some laps. I don’t see how the OP was all that wrong. Most people choose to be fat (I know I did in the past). There are a few exceptions that have medical problems, but most are just lazy/gluttons. The OP did say he had no problems with a little extra weight, just cows.
Wow, that’s really nice.
Clearly, you have alot of time on your hands to come up with such sweet talkin’ 'cus I can’t imagine that you’d be able to find a woman to date you, fat cow or not.
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I can’t believe this one is still running.
“I don’t find fat people physically attractive.”
“I pissed off a telemarketer today.”
“Fucking Microsoft!”
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Yes, you are special. Your opinions about opinions are meaningful, even if you feel the opinion is worthless; in fact, an opinion about an opinion in which the opinion is about how worthless the other opinion is, is especially meaningful.
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Woof, is this statement off-base. Not only do I find Camryn Manheim attractive, she is tops on the list of Practice actresses I’d do.
From the bottom up:
Lara Flynn Boyle: revolting skinny (to me, and me alone) - I’d be afraid of accidentally cracking her. She does not attract me in the least.
Marla Sokoloff: I know she’s 21, but I think I’m too old for 21 year olds; she seems about sixteen and that’s a big turnoff.
Kelli Williams: frankly, sort of blah. She’s not UNattractive, but there’s no spark. I can’t stand her character, and that may be of some influence here.
Lisa Gay Hamilton: she’s cute, and were I still a single guy, I’d certainly invite her over to discuss the Rule Against Perpetuities over coffee. But again, she’s not a stand-out.
Camryn Manheim: yum. Strong, confident, sharp, gorgeous. How you gonna lose? The next-door neighbors would complain about the noise.
All this is theoretical, of course, since Mrs. Bricker is my one and only. *Yeah - that’s it. I’m married, and that’s the ONLY reason I’m not shakin’ the bedpost with Ms. Manheim. *
Still… the message is clear, OneChance - you are so off base, it’s amazing. PLENTY of people, me included, find Camryn Manheim quite sensual and attractive.
- Rick
I am.
I don’t know if this is a product of The Pit or something in the water, but some of you like to give new meaning to things, or read what you want to read rather than what is actually written. I never said Camryn was unattractive to everyone. I said that I’ve never witnessed another man saying, “That Camryn Manheim, she’s attractive,” until now of course. I can’t imagine y’all think that I know everyone. Of course I don’t know everyone. That would be silly. If I were to say, “I don’t find Gwyneth Paltrow all that attractive,” I know people would reply with, “I find her attractive and I’d do her.” Well, good for you. But maybe I wouldn’t. What’s wrong with that?
Ack! My mistake. I apologize sincerely… it was an honest slipup.
Hmmm. Well, like I said, it’s just a pet peeve of mine, and I didn’t intend to offend. And I didn’t intend to change the meaning of what you said by taking it out of context… from your phrasing (“I always thought you were beautiful”), it implied to me that you had made the judgement (Porc is beautiful) before having any idea what Porc looks like in person. Which, needless to say, it is certainly your right to make, and to express however you like.