Lately life has been throwing me lots of setbacks. I found a lump in my breast, a mole I have had for awhile now is getting bigger and changing color and shape, my family is insane and I just can’t handle it. I go to the doctor today about the breast lump and tomorrow about the mole though so I should know one way or another about that. My family decides to have Christmas at my house so I spend a small fortune buying another bed and bedclothes so that Mom and Dad will have a place to sleep. I move around the kids furniture so that my sister and brother-in-law can sleep in their room. I put extra beds in my room for my kids to sleep with us. I tell my sister all this and she asks why do all this for only one night??? I didn’t know they were only coming for one night. Every time I visit one of them I stay at least 3-5 days. They are only staying one night. Now they are all off for three weeks during the holidays so it’s not like they have to work…noooooo. They are just going to come stay one night and leave to go to my sister’s house. They decide not to tell me until after I have made plans. I bought tickets to different events around town that my family might enjoy but it doesn’t matter to them. I tell my husband about it because I am upset and he starts going off about it. I told him what I really needed was a little support from him so I could get over it before I had to calm him down about it! I’ve been busting my ass working overtime so I would have enough money to show them all a good time. Spent alot of time away from my home and my little family because I was so excited about them all coming here. This is the first time we are having Christmas at my house. We were supposed to have it two years ago here because I had just had my daughter but my sister threw a fit at the last minute and my parents stayed with her instead of being with me when I needed them here. We were supposed to have Thanksgiving here last year because I had just had my gallbladder removed the day before but my sister decided she would be more comfy at her house so against doctor’s orders I hauled my family out to her house.
Let's not forget my Grandmother who calmly informs us that my cousin died this past weekend. Just because he wasn't my "blood" relation she seems to think I won't care that he is dead. I tell my husband and he says "Why didn't you tell me?" in this accusing whiny tone. I told him I just found out . He refuses to believe me because I didn't cry right off. I was too much in shock to react in any way. My Grandmother just said "Tell your Mom happy birthday and that Johnny died this weekend he was crashed by a car he was working on." I laid in bed later crying and thinking about how wonderful my cousin had been when I told him I was keeping my little rape baby, how he was the only one who supported me from the start and how he was the one who gave me money because he knew I was a single Mom. He had been into drugs for a long time and had scrapes with the law but he was so excited about my baby. He never got to see my baby, he was arrested for stealing a car and I moved away. I always meant to send him a picture or a letter but he moved around alot and I never knew where he would be. He had just gone through rehab and was trying to get his life together and now he's gone.
Add to this my son, who just started going to the bathroom by himself, starts screaming his head off Mommy it hurts!! I run in there and there's blood all over his mouth, He's used my husband's razor to try to brush his teeth and cut his mouth in several places. I just don't need any of this. As if holidays weren't stressful enough I get all this fun crap added to it.
Well, that's my I feel sorry for myself today story. I have to go get ready for them to squash my breast to see if I have cancer or not. Keep your fingers crossed for me!
My word, Hen! You certainly have it in full force. From the sound of things I think a plague of locusts may be next, lol.
Here’s happy, peaceful vibes being sent your way. We’ll keep our fingers crossed for you on your doctors appointment. Let us know what happens.
It will calm down, and hopefully soon. Til it does, you can always come here and vent to us other CritterMoms (Where’s Mamapotamous?).
Here is a hankie to get some of that stuff off of you, the world has really been taking a dump on you.
My thoughts and prayers will be with you for your doctors appts. I understand what you are going thru, my doctor has me get a mamogram every year cause of family history. Keep us informed about how they go.
Here is also a hug to help you get thru the holidays.
Wow. That is quite a a heap of problems that you’re under, MamaHen. Since I’m a guy, and don’t have any kids, I can’t exactly say I’ve walked in your shoes, but I can certainly sympathize with you. I fully understand the disappointment of running around and trying to make things special for your family, only to have one or more things ruin it for you (especially a sibling).
Forgive me if I’m out of line here, but I really wish your husband were more supportive of you. It sounds like you’d be a little better able to handle everything if he was. I couldn’t imagine my wife going through all of that and me not helping her through it. Guess all I can do is hope that everything works out for you, your health most importantly.
Wow…you really have a lot of crap going on right now. I don’t have much to add, but I just wanted to let you know there is one more person out there on your side.
I hope all goes well with the doctors…try not to stress out too much about the ‘what ifs’…you already have enough to deal with.
Be strong,
Rose
Hang in there Mama Hen. You are to be commended for making such an effort to have a special Holiday bash. It’s sad when others show little or no appreciation for the effort it takes.
You seem to have enough of the Holiday spirit for ten of us. I could probably use a little of it if you had any to spare. Try to keep your chin up and I hope there is nothing but good news for you from the Doctors.
((((MamaHen))),
I am so sorry for your troubles. I do hope everything turns out ok at the Dr.'s. As for the relations, screw em. Don’t knock yourself senseless, TELL them to help you, don’t ask. And my sympathy on the death of your cousin.
MamaHen, the beauty of the holidays is that they’ll be OVER soon. There’s something about family get-togethers that brings out all the old stuff, good and bad. If you can, try to relax and enjoy your family on whatever level you can instead of dwelling on the things that drive you nuts about them. That’s what I finally did, and I’m a lot happier on the holidays. Remember that you don’t have to be everything to everyone, too. You need to take care of yourself first.
I’m sorry to hear about your cousin. That would be hard at any time, but coming on top of everything else, it’s an even harsher blow.
Good luck with the health issues. It’s good that you’re getting to the doctors now and not waiting. I hope everything turns out fine (and it usually does)!
First off let me say thank you for all the wonderful kind posts. You’ve touched my heart and I thank you all. Your really all wonderful people. As for my doctor’s appointment, no good news no bad news, she said she felt 3 lumps but wanted to make sure it wasn’t just hormones. She’s not the type who panics so I am staying calm. I am going back at the end of the month for another check up and we’ll find out then if she needs to make my breasts a needle cushion. Tomorrow morning I have another appointment about the mole so I am really thinking this one will be good news…I have every confidence in my health right now.
My son is fine, you can't even tell he almost cut his lip off this morning. I never noticed before today but he has very thin lips so you can't see the cut's there at all. He was showing off his wound at the store though. He announced to the grocery store that the potty hurt him.
Things are looking up. Just typing everything out helped more than I ever imagined. Thank you all again for all the support, you all in my heart.
Ohhhhh and BTW…Scotticher…I’ll take that desert island as long as I don’t have to take my husband with me!
Til it does, you can always come here and vent to us other CritterMoms (Where’s Mamapotamous?).