It’s been awhile since I researched it, so I don’t remember the specifics. I’ll see if I can track down some cites when I get home.
Oft giver of oral here. You really ought to be able to figure it out without much help; context clues are very telling. Instead of focusing on what you’re doing, focus on what she’s doing when you’re doing that. It doesn’t take long to figure out what she digs more.
I don’t mean to disappoint a lot of the fellows out there, but…um…I kind of don’t like it…at all. Oral, that is. My first bf with whom I was sexually active hated giving it so I never got to experience it at all, but then since then I have, and it just feels icky.
I think there was a thread (or maybe several) on the Dope about this. Among my friends the consensus is that oral must be at least attempted, if only as a sign of respect, but hand jobs and toy play are often preferable.
And gentlemen, have a GF or wife who’s really concerned with water pressure? It’s not so she can rinse her hair.
Yup. I was devout Catholic for a long time and after I haven’t been with anyone long enough that sex seemed appropriate. But I don’t seen any reason not to satisfy myself in the meantime 
Oh yeah. I remember that thread now that you mention it. It was another thread that made me feel less weird about being a girl with specific sexual…needs. I think some guys feel a little bad at first about not being able to, but it’s all good. I’m just wired the way that I am.
Actually, I’ve been known to bitch about having low water pressure but I’m kind of insane about cleanliness. And for some reason, water pressure’s never done it for me. I guess water just feels non sexual for me.
I thought that was just me! I’ve had sex in a pool or shower once in awhile, but 99% of the time it’s a major turn off.
Yes.
Oh, yes.
That would be silly. 
Based on your name, you’re in the wrong thread due. The men’s thread is three door down.
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You and him both, pal. (And me.)
So godamn confused.
Howdja overflow the bathtub while you were in it? Did you happen to be wearing a snorkel at the time?
Perhaps she was distracted.
Yeah, but what I meant was, the bathtub would hafta be overflowing to flood the house. Unless the tub’s three feet long, scooting one’s . . . badonkadonk . . all the way forward would mean your head’s resting on the bottom of the tub.
Well, that would, um… appear to be the case, yes.
The reason I was asking girls was…
Speaking as a 22 year old virgin, it is rare to see a fellow early to mid-twenties virgin, much less two. So that is what piqued (peaked? I can never get this…) my interest.
(and Giltathriel I am SO sorry for just decimating your screenname in that last post. I am ashamed and plead your forgiveness)
Well…
…First off, I’m pretty new to the whole masturbation scene, for some reason, up until a few months ago, I just couldn’t do it…
However, its become a more frequent thing in my life (well, not so much recently, but up until now)…
It depends on my mood, sometimes I’m all about porn to get me revved, and other times I can just lay back and go straight to work. I prefer to go between the penetration and clitoral stimulation… Both work absolute wonders for me. I would invest in a vibrator, but upon having taken some psych/human development courses, it has been found that when someone who masturbates quite frequently using inanimate objects, when actual sex occurs, the person finds themselves less satisfied at the end, and less likely to become emotionally attached, and in turn it in fact becomes harder to get off…
So I tend to stay away from that kind of thing, plus if I don’t know how to please myself by myself, how could I possibly help others to learn how to please me?
24, straight.
Always lying down. Mostly either face down or on my side, usually either rubbing (one hand on top of the other) with quite a lot of palm pressure on/around the general clitoris area through whatever I’m wearing or direct stimulation of my clitoris with one/two fingers. Sometimes I will penetrate with my fingers briefly while doing this.
Occasional penetration with a vibrator as long as it’s slow and accompanied by finger stimulation of my clitoris. If I do this, I’ll lie on my back.
If I have a decent amount of time and I’m in the mood, I use one of those little butterfly shaped vibrators that you ‘wear’ in place on the clitoris and that has a little handheld control for the intensity. I don’t use the straps to ‘wear’ it though, I prefer to just hold it in place so I can move it around if I want to. I lie on my back for this one too. But I have to be very slow and careful - as some other posters have said about vibrators etc, the ensuing orgasm can be fast and intense but strangely unsatisfying. For me it can be a little more like pain than pleasure when that happens and I’m not into pain in a sexual sense. Or any sense, come to think of it.
I’ve never seen or read any porn or erotica that did anything for me. I always make my own pornographic fantasies in my head while I masturbate. Or sometimes just when I’m really bored in class.
This thread is seriously interesting! I’ve only ever had two female friends who were prepared to discuss this sort of thing openly and I haven’t seen them since high school. Never tried the water pressure thing. Hmm…
I’ve never heard this myself. About being less able to get emotionally attached and so forth. Technically your hand is an inanimate object, right?
It’s harder for me to get off just using my hand now, but in the past, I could never come with a partner. Now I use a vibe with someone else, so the fact that I can come with a partner is a pretty big deal…
This is the Internet. Virgins are everywhere.
I *have *heard this, and I think it’s utter crap. My vibrator doesn’t impact my ability to orgasm during sex, and it sure as hell doesn’t influence my ability to form emotional attachments. I strongly suspect that anyone who insists otherwise is suffering less from an inability to climax from “typical” sex than from an inability to climax with another person in the room. Correlation does not equal causation.
OK, well, I have heard the part about not being able to climax as easily during sex…I think we even had an angry thread on it as well. The emotional attachment thing just sounded bizarre.
Considering that I can’t come from “normal” intercourse (as many women can’t), I’ll take the vibe. Until no greater an authority than Dan Savage says it’s wrong, I’ll welcome any and all side effects. Especially since side effects of the vibrator equal awesome contractions in the vagina and an increased sense of well being!
Link to where I dish the dirt on a former co-worker. 