It would be silly not to give a little direction if the boy just isn’t getting it right. A man would never put up with bad oral! 
Some boys are quite intimidated by the thought of going “down under.” A girl needs to be encouraging and helpful!
In theory he wouldn’t. In practice he may figure he has the choice between “seldom, reluctant and brief” and “none at all” and reason that tolerating the former may possibly see some improvement, while precipitating the latter is pretty much a one-way ticket.
All quite hypothetical, obviously.
ROFL… Let’s just say that I was VERY close but just not there but too close to stop and it was a shallow tub and there was some movement on my part that created a wave action in the tub and it was sloshing over the sides and I was determined to get there… I did… When I realized I’d flooded half the house I was hysterical, laughter and fear!
I love, love, love oral sex if the giver knows what the hell he’s doing. Please don’t stick your tongue into my vagina and don’t suck hard on my clit, that hurts, and if I’m getting close, please keep doing what you’re doing with your tongue and and insert one finger slowly and gently… Mmmmm
I’m also an enthusiastic giver of blow jobs.
That myth has been pretty well debunked repeatedly in the past, but still pops up constantly.
Admittedly, much more and better quality research is needed.
goes searching for grant applications
Hmm, well, from my research of one, been masturbating with a vibrator of some kind since I discovered the “personal massager” at age 14, and now I’m 38. There’s no loss of sensitivity under any circumstance.
I just prefer the vibrators because I’m lazy and they get me off in under a minute. Climaxing during intercourse has never been a problem, though it’s better when I’m on top. 
Gentlemen, there are 8000 nerve endings in the clitoris. Please take it easy on that thing unless explicitly asked to do otherwise. Thanks!
One presumes that since the same structure becomes another organ depending upon the sex of the fetus that the same is true for the more stupid sex. 
Yup, but the square footage makes a huge difference here.
No, there is this tiny little place…I have become embarrassed.
Ah that… but that’s not from…? Is it? Now I have to look it up!
I think the difference is those 8000 nerve endings in a structure the size of the first pinkie knuckle, roughly, vs spread out over 5-8 inches, roughly.
Square footage? Holy Christ, girl, who have you been with- King Kong?
See, I find this interesting. Of the women I’ve watched masturbate, several of them used their off hand – the right hand if they were left-handed, and vice versa. Wonder why that is.
(It has occurred to me that I have now met enough lady Dopers in real life that I would just as soon not go to Page Two.)
Hey, let me write the IRB and be the Study Coordinator too. Pleeeeeeeeeeze?
Sometimes I think I’m the only woman on the planet that doesn’t fantasize during sex (either solo or with a lover). I’m not a prude, I just find the act so …what’s the word?.. I am just somewhere else, so overwhelmed with sensation and the whole thing, that it hasn’t ever occurred to me, or seemed possible (I’ve read My Secret Garden and others like it), but I absolutely CAN NOT think well enough during sex to make up even the simplest scenario. I’ve attempted it, but I get about as far as “a big strong man wanders into my bed…” (or whatever) and then nothing but mmmmmmm happens. My entire mind and being is completely absorbed in awesome sensation at that point.
How do you all manage to concentrate enough to think of fantasies?
I’m not a big oral fan. And I imagine a good part of that is that my partner will never be as skilled and knowing as my hand, and also I like my stimulation a bit harder than what at tongue can provide.
I will say that I’ve never owned (or borrowed:D) a dildo/vibrator in my (43 yr) life.
I HAVE done some penetration play (use your imagination, as I did:p) and I basically found it a bit distracting. Oddly, perhaps, I love penetration when with a male partner, find it extremely satisfying and very different from an inanimate object, though I require clitoral stimulation to get off.
I usually do it manually, and I do devote some time to all my areas, including digital penetration, but the clit is where it’s at for me. And nipples. I always stimulate them during.
I can bring myself off in less than a minute (hard, fast) or draw it out much longer. Both are good, just depends on my mood at the moment and how much time I have to devote.
I also use (and have since I was about 13) the full-blast tub faucet method. Quick, clean, convienient when you are trying to get showered/bathed/ready and/or want to kill 2 birds with one stone.
Shower-head not so much for me…as someone else mentioned, I feel a need to be lying down or at least not standing up. I think it has to do with being able to relax fully and not worry about falling when I go ballistic.
Oral, OMG, do NOT get me started (actually, DO, please!:D) Love it, need it, live for it. (and love giving it too, ftr) A good oral lover gets me off even better than I can do myself, and that’s saying something! I am not shy about giving direction, either. (hint: go slow, explore it all, find my clit, pay attention to it but don’t attack it w/o let-up until/unless I indicate that you should, then DON’T STOP until I push you away or pull you up demanding penetration. Bonus points, reach up and play with a nipple ;)) In other words, do what I do to myself. 
(this bit is for the guys “participating” in this thread:D)
As for “porn”/“erotica” (which I write, btw) I do enjoy reading/writing it and get aroused from it. Watching, not as much but I have, and I find some arousing (most disgusting or funny or both:rolleyes:). I am not a lesbian or actively bi (though I have some history and inclination in that area, just not as much as my heterosexual history or inclination) but I find I often prefer the lesbian porn.
Because it focuses more on what gets me off…oral and nipple attention. While I am more turned on by a male sexual partner and hetero sex in general, those clips/films so often tend to gloss over the oral and tit action and go straight to the penetration. (and the women always seem like they are acting/faking, and in more of the lesbian footage, they are actually coming). I sort of imagine a man in the role of the woman performing the deeds, I suppose, and put myself in the role of the one being performed on
[Tom Arnold]Because it feels like a stranger is doing it.[/Tom Arnold]
May or may not be an accurate quote - in my lame and infirm memory he was describing doing the deed so they could concentrate his sperm so Roseanne could get pregnant.