I meant to respond to this as well…I agree, it IS because it is more clumsy/less in your control and so more as if someone else is doing it. I do this sometimes, but usually I use my dominant hand because I just can’t fake myself out that well, so not worth the effort.
I’ve always heard people say “I can do it so much better myself”, which is true to a certain degree, we all know how to get ourselves off best/quickest, but there is definately something to be said for the element of surprise and excitement involved in the touch of another. If the other involved is halfway good, it is WAY better!
Shit, forget gender, sometimes I just do it because I like doing it and I’m not thinking about anything sexual at all. Jim Carroll wrote about jerking off just looking at the stars in The Basketball Diaries and I don’t think that’s weird at all. Sometimes I’m all about the sexual fantasies, but other times I’m just…hooked on a feeling. I’m high on believing.
Oh, me too. It’s weird. Sometimes I get too caught up to think of anything. Or I’m warming myself up and I do it while watching TV or reading a non-erotic, regular book. Sometimes I end up with just images flashing through my mind when I do get really turned on…but it’s not like I have to just come up with an image to start off.
Yeah, I agree. Sometimes I am really into fantasy and/or the whole scenario involved and sometimes I am just wanting a good cum and the physical release involved and no thought goes into it at all. I consider the faucet method almost as part of my personal hygiene/morning ritual…I seldom make much more of it than that.
As for fantasizing during sex with a partner, not as a rule. I also usually find the reality stimulating enough. But sometimes, at certain moments during, I do tend to drift off into a few favorite scenarios that reliably work for me.
More than fantasy I use actual past hot sex moments - or no thoughts at all. I’m straight, 46 and right handed. I use my left hand middle finger quite vigourously, I’m self lubing and usually go once or twice - skin to skin, but went up to about 14 once just to see. It got mundane and pointless - but worth sharing here! I joke that I’ve worn the print off my left hand middle finger. I don’t penetrate myself but keep thinking of buying a vibrator - I’ve never tried one. As a contrast when I’m being stimulated I like my guy to touch very very very very very very softly - phew - and with gentle digital penetration. Don’t much like oral - seems too hit and miss and can be really irritating and make me angry even with oral “specialists”. A man can play with my nipples and make me come, but I can’t do it myself - drat!
I keed, I keed.