Right now, for various medical reasons, I think an abortion would be my only realistic option. It’d be difficult but I think we would figure out a way to keep it if it weren’t for the fact that the pregnancy would be incredibly massively difficult and expensive and I don’t have real health insurance.
And I have thought about this. Not an easy question at all.
This is a very interesting question and I’ve been surprised and fascinated by the answers.
Myself, I would discuss it with my fiancé, but I have such a strong inclination to go with the abortion that he’d have to do some pretty fancy talking to change my mind. I also have a feeling that he’d be in favor of abortion as well. He is much older than I am and we have four kids between us already. I’m sure we’d both consider it a disaster if I were to get pregnant.
I’d probably pass out from sheer shock, how unfair to not even get some first.
I’m fairly sure I’d choose adoption. No reason for me to abort at this stage in my life, and I love the idea of helping another family out, so yeah, adoption for me.
Then the biggest Pit thread ever about becoming pregnant right after I’d perfected my marguerita recipe. 
Hmmm…there would be a part of me that would like another baby I suppose, but my husband and I have agreed not to have children. At 60 and 49, and thinking about retirement, it’s simply not realistic. I’m reasonably sure I’d abort, but I might give consideration to open adoption. I’d have to think about it some more.
I’d be truly shocked and shaken, then heartbroken at what I would have to do.
I had my tubes tied when I was 27. My OB/GYN nagged and nagged after I wouldn’t abort my son and said some women weren’t baby-makers and I already had a gorgeous daughter that I wanted to see a grown-up, didn’t I? Failing to convince me to get rid of my son-on-board, I did agree to a tubal when he was delivered no matter what. Not a vasectomy for my husband, because it wasn’t his body that couldn’t tolerate pregnancy. My glorious son was placed on my belly in the birthing room and Dr.R said “We’re tying your tubes in the morning.”
That was 15 years ago and my gorgeous daughter is a grown-up 19. If I found I was pregnant, I would hate having to abort Drachillix’s baby but would do it. He would want me to: adding AMA to GDM and PIH along with a familial tendency to retain placentas and hemorrhage is taking too much a life-risk.
AMA: advanced maternal age
GDM: gestational diabetes
PIH: pregnancy induced hypertension
My wife’s reaction upon hearing she was pregnant with our (wanted but unplanned) second, about six months after the birth of our first: “We need a bigger house.”
Cyn at least you won’t have to deal with the nagging OB again.
There’s non-directive counselling, there’s giving advice and then there’s nagging. One of them isn’t appropriate or professional behaviour for a doctor.
It surprises me to see how many people have said that they would have to discuss this with the father. Whenever I start having sex in a new relationship, I try to have “the talk” as soon as possible. I’m kind of an anal-retentive planner in general, and even more so when it comes to this: I’d much rather have a game plan in place before the accident happens than try to make such a decision when emotions are high. Also, I know that some people feel they couldn’t decide until they were in the situation, but I’m pretty darn sure about what I’d want to do and I think it’s important for the potential father to understand that right from the start. (Also, if the guy is vehemently anti-abortion it’s important for me to know that right from the start!)
Maybe my thinking is the result of being single, though; maybe things like this come up at the start of relationships, but as things progress (and feelings on the subject possibly change) you just don’t think to bring it up again. So I don’t mean to sound judgemental at all, I’m just surprised.
No, you’re right. I think a lot of the people who are saying they’re not sure are not in a relationship currently, but maybe I read too fast. I’ve always discussed it fairly early.
Yeah, things change though.
If you’d have asked me this question 12 months ago I’d have opted for an abortion, no question (teratogenic meds), and Irishfella knew it.
We haven’t talked since the beginning of the relationship, but I’m thinking that my change of heart wouldn’t come as a surprise, since my medication and our circumstances have changed.
Since he’s not comfortable with abortion (supportive of my right to choose, but not particularly thrilled that I would have made that choice) he’d be happier too.
I think I’m going to bring this up over dinner, just in case…
I was one who said I’d discuss with my fiancé. We have talked about such things before, but in a purely academic manner, because fortunately my tubes are tied!
You know you’re knee deep in attempting to conceive when you read the orginal and realize you can tell what the acronyms mean without translation.
I told my SO very early on that there was no way I’d have an abortion at this stage in my life. He wasn’t totally thrilled about that (he’s a bit younger and in a less stable phase of life) but ultimately, it’s my decision, and I wouldn’t force him to be any more involved than he wanted to be.
Okay, strike calling the pope. I don’t know that I’d pass out, but I think there would be a huge pit thread on the second half of this sentence.
The rest of my answer doesn’t change, though.
(Any guy I ever sleep with will be told up front that I DO NOT want children of my body. We can discuss adoption of some of those children I mentioned in my earlier post, if things get that serious.)
I honestly don’t know.
I’ve been partnered for four years. We’re not married, but definitely in a stable relationship. I have a good job and good health insurance. I certainly don’t feel READY to have a kid, and I don’t WANT to have a kid, but I’m probably at a point for the first time in my life where I feel like I would have a hard time having an abortion. Kids maybe someday in the future, but certainly not anytime soon, please!
If I found out and it was still really early in the pregnancy, I’d hie my tail down to planned parenthood and have a chemical abortion. At least, that’s what I’ve always told myself. But I’m not too young (anymore), I’m in a stable relationship, and my finances, while not sufficient for childbearing, are better than a lot of women have when they get pregnant.
My person and I do our best to prevent pregnancy and we’ve never had a scare. I honestly don’t know what I’d do. The Superhero and I would have a long talk and figure it out together, and if we did decide on abortion, I’d never tell my mother. While she’s pro-choice, she’d probably never forgive me for aborting a grandkid. She’s always said she’d rather raise any grandkid rather than have a stranger get it (adoption) or have it be aborted. She once told me she’d disown me if I ever did egg donation, because she didn’t want a bunch of strangers raising her grandchildren.
If either of my sisters ever had fertility problems, though, I wouldn’t hesitate for a second to be a surrogate womb. Even if I hadn’t yet had my own kids.
Faint.
Keep the baby. We weren’t planning on kids right now, and we’re not in the most stable financial position, but we’re pro-life and abortion isn’t an option for me. Maybe if there were life-threatening difficulties with the pregnancy, but not otherwise. We’ve talked about unplanned pregnancy, and we know what we’d do.
Homer: Ovulate, damn you, ovulate!
Sorry, I couldn’t resist!
Oh, my response? I’d start looking into where the Hell I picked up a uterus. 
Panic for awhile, then tell my fiance and let him panic for awhile, then tell our parents they’re going to be grandparents. Like many others here, if you had asked me 2 years ago what I would have done, I would have probably said I’d get an abortion. Now, however, I’m getting married, have an education (I’d like another degree, but it’s still up in the air), and am fairly financially secure. We do want children, though we plan to have them when he’s done with school at the earliest, when he’ll be 29 and I’ll be 27. However, if a kid came our way now, we’d accept it.
I suppose we’d keep it.
There’s no chance for it actually happening, since hubby’s had the big snip, though.
We do not want anymore children AT ALL (we have 5 between us ranging in age from 10 to 18, though none together), but I would have a hard time with aborting.
I chose not to abort when I was far too young and unstable to have children. Single, working low paying jobs, renting crappy apartments. Now that I have a decent paying, stable job, a loving husband, own a home, and am in my early 30’s, I just can’t see justifying an abortion.
It would be a hard decision. And that’s selfish, but true. I’m pretty much done with child-rearing.