Cry, eat a brownie, cry, quit smoking, then go stock up on maternaty clothes. Because if i was depressed (which I would be I don’t want kids) and trying to resist nicotine, I would eat more brownies, and need those said clothes very early on…
The pope’s going to be getting quite a few phone calls. Including mine.
Never know for sure until it happens - but, I’d like to think I’d have the child and raise her or him. I wouldn’t plan on becoming a single mother right now, but really, I could swing it. I’d have to do a lot of growing up to do, very fast. The over-extended adolesence would finally have to end.
If this has happened to me last year or any time before, I would have aborted. Since I only have one more year to go in college, I think I would go through with the pregnancy and keep it. The SO and I have talked about it, and although it would be really early for us to have children, we’re getting married in a few years anyway, might as well start the family early!
Our parents would also help out because they are very supportive of our lives and our decisions. They’d be pissed as hell, but crap happens. I’m on the pill and we use condoms every time. I figure if I get pregnant, it’s a statement from Og that he wants me to have a child!
Panic!
My last pregnancy was hard on me and the baby (placenta previa) and my husband was terrified that I might die.
I have just set up my own English school, it has been running a year now, and there is no-one who’d take over lessons for me, so there’d be all that investment down the drain…
But, I’d keep it, and I know my husband would say the same. It’s our responsibility to make sure it doesn’t happen.
(This is my decision for me, not my stand on abortion or choice for anyone else.)
If I found out now that I was pregnant, I’d fall over, stand back up, do a happy dance, call my husband and shriek “I’m pregnant! I’m pregnant! I’m pregnant!” down the phone at him, and then repeat the process with my parents and inlaws, and then I’d probably compulsively test and retest myself to make sure I wasn’t dreaming. Oh, and I’d keep it.
As we have both recently found out that we have serious fertility problems, we would hardly dare to believe it had really happened without going down the long, expensive road of medical intervention that is presently looming before us.
Why wait 'til Saturday?
I’d keep the baby and raise it on my own. I am against abortion so that’s out no matter what. I don’t have any problem with the idea of adoption, and if I just couldn’t see any way to make parenting work I probably would choose an open adoption…but I tend to think that as long as you are determined, things tend to fall into place for you, so I would find a way to make parenting work.
Considering I’m a single (celibate!) 22 year old about to start medical school, this is pretty much the worst possible time in my life for a pregnancy. In college, I think I could have juggled a child with school pretty easily. My undergrad school was pretty friendly to parenting students, offering online and work-at-your-own-pace distance learning classes. I know med school will be much more intense, so I would need to ask my mother and friends to help me with the kid for these first few years…but I’d find a way somehow. I’d team up with some of the other parenting med students (I know there are some others in my class) to try to help each other out with babysitting and such.
Have, hold & keep.
First, I’d panic.
Then I’d call the gentleman I’m seeing and let him know we were going to need to have a long talk. We’ve talked about marriage; we’ve talked about having children, and I’ve said it’s something I’m willing to consider, provided we get married first and an obstetrician says there are reasonable odds that I can carry a baby to term without endangering the baby or me (I’m over 40). After talking to him, I’d have a long talk with an obstetrician and find out how things stand. From what I’ve seen of my gentleman, from what I know of him, I’m pretty sure I’d be announcing a marriage and a birth. I also know this isn’t a strain I’d want to subject this man or this relationship to.
A couple of years ago, I would have had an abortion. I was laid off and struggling to find work. I also had no health insurance. While I know my family would have provided financial support, I wouldn’t have felt right bringing a child into this world which I could not support before it was born, let alone after. I also wouldn’t have felt right about trying to get a job only to need maternity leave almost immediately after starting it, even assuming some employer would be foolish enough to take me on. I was depressed enough about being out of work and, as I called myself in my worst moments, “useless”. An unwanted pregnancy would have only made things worse and further endangered my life.
CJ
First: Rejoice! Hubby and I would like to start having babies within the next year or so.
Second: Panic! We need a bigger apartment! Or house! Although there’s probably no need to panic, since we are supposed to buy Mr. Stasaeon’s father’s beautiful little three bedroom house within a couple of years, and he’s the kind of man who would move heaven and earth to make sure we were accomodated, comfortable, and secure. Money-wise we are more than fine. So, at least the panic would be short lived.
Third: Relax, eat healthier, get light exercise, make doctor’s appointments, and prepare for baby! And watch Mr. Stasaeon explode with joy, panic, shock, excitement, curiousity, impatience and happiness all at once. Like this: :eek: 
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Fuck.
That would be hard.
Getting married in September, so the relationship isn’t a problem.
Timing would be.
Baby would be due in April, my final medical exams are in May. Doing an exam while heavily pregnant is one thing, doing it while in the deeply sleep deprived state of new motherhood is infinitely worse.
We’d have it, and find a way to work it out (probably involving us living with my parents, and me re-sitting finals).
If baby was due after 1st August it would be better. I’d be able to accept a job (they can’t discriminate on grounds of pregnancy/motherhood, and the NHS supports flexible training) take maternity leave for 3-6 months, be able to buy a house and our parents would be able to do a lot of the childcare.
The long term plan is a baby as soon as I get my MRCOG part 2. Which is in about 6 years time, when I’ll be 29.
No, no, no, dear. Fuck is what you do in order to get pregnant! 
Sorry, I couldn’t resist, especially since you’re one of the posters I see as somewhat of an old friend.
CJ
I deserved that, it’s funny, and Siege thinks of me as an old friend. I’m happy for lots of reasons!
I’d have a long talk with my fiance. In the end, I think we would decide to have an abortion.
We’re just not ready to be parents. We have no money, both go to university and live hours apart from each other.
You are my hero.
I don’t know what I’d do. I’d see a doctor first, because it’s 70 percent likely to be ectopic. But if it wasn’t, sheesh, I don’t know. I guess it would depend on my health, considering my age. If I had a good chance of carrying a healthy baby to term, the right thing to do would be to have it and put it up for adoption. But the truth is, I’m not sure I could that. There was a time when I could have done that, but not now. And I don’t think I could have an abortion, either. I’m not opposed to it in general, but I don’t think it would be right for me now.
But then, I do believe I’d actually have to have sex first in order to get pregnant. :rolleyes:
Another vote for “I’m single and celibate so I’m not sure how I’d get pregnant”.
But, ignoring that, I’d call my sister in law and ask if she’d be interested in adopting. (Sis-in-law has had pregnancies that were uncomfortable enough to make her not eager to be pregnant again without really rising to the level of difficult pregnancies, if that makes sense.) This baby would be closer in age to her youngest than I think she’d have planned, but it might not be that bad, especially since I’d have to deal with the trauma of being pregnant.
I would love to be a mother some day, but I have no desire to be a single parent. If death or divorce ended my marriage, I’d cope, but I would not want to start out that way.
If sis-in-law didn’t want the baby- I’d probably keep it. I’m not sure that I could carry a baby for nine monthes and then give it to someone else and abortion is not an option I could live with (for myself) barring serious health concerns.
My response exactly. We have serious fertility issues as well. So my reactions would be sheer joy!
I decided recently that if this happens, I will keep it. When I was younger, I would have aborted, but at 29 I am financially and emotionally secure, and I just can’t justify that as a decision anymore. Also considering my fertility is likely to decline in the next 5 years, I think I would look on it as, “So this is when it’s going to happen- OK then”. Have talked about this to the guy I am seriously dating, and he’s really happy with the idea. But that’s not to say I am actively pursuing this! Another 2 years or so would be good.
My husband and I have talked about what we’d do in this situation. Neither of us wants to have kids, but if tomorrow I found out I was pregnant, we’d be happy just the same. Not how we’d planned things to be, but we’re sure a child would bring us much happiness. We’re both pro-choice, but wouldn’t go the abortion route ourselves.
Abort it.
I have serious moral problems with bringing a baby into this world.
Disclaimer: These problems only apply to me. I don’t mean that *no one * should bring a child into this world. Just not me.