Homebrew, Miller is entitled to his opinion and how long he’s been out doesn’t enter into it. The bit about “hiding” in the closet I find unfair; we each come out at our own pace. If you disagree with him (as I do; see below), you should be able to disagree with him regardless of how long he’s been out.
Miller, I don’t think Johanna sees being gay itself as an achievement. But surely you can appreciate that coming out, identifying yourself, coming to see yourself as part of a community, can be a difficult process.
I’m sure you can appreciate that with Johanna’s being a trans woman, there are a whole host of issues associated with her coming to identify as a lesbian. Our communities can be difficult places for trans people to find their place in. I don’t want to speak for her, but I imagine it was a major inner achievement for her to realize that yes, she is entitled to identify as a lesbian, and to find the strength to refuse and resist those (and they exist) who would contradict her.
As a non-trans person, for example, I’m privileged in that if I call myself a gay man, few people will contradict me. If I were a trans man, gay men in general would be substantially more likely to doubt my identity or to attempt to impose their notions of my identity on me. I can easily understand how overcoming that in your own mind and finding the courage to stand up to it when one encounters it is an achievement.
I can sort of identify with it conversely: coming out as gay was relatively easy for me, but it took me a very long time to decide I could identify myself as genderqueer, that I was “entitled” to do so, that I wasn’t just feigning or appropriating the label, and that I would be and would feel justified in telling people who would accuse me of same to piss up a rope.
You told Johanna that if lesbians hadn’t accepted her, it wouldn’t be worth the acceptance. I don’t think that’s true at all. The lesbian community offers a unique form of acceptance to lesbians, one they can’t get elsewhere, whether or not an individual lesbian feels an acute need for it. I can understand why Johanna would feel the need for this acceptance, and why she was proud to accept herself as a bona fide lesbian.